Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Friday Links: March 15

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

This is so sweet, and so impressive for a 15 year old! [via Upworthy]

Do you have an email signoff (I generally use “all the best” or “xo” for loved ones or I just sign my name)? Slate says: It’s time to kill the email signoff altogether.

“Wedding Registry Trends For 2013” [via HuffPo]

“Photos of Children From Around the World With Their Most Prized Possessions” [via Feature Shoot]

“Armed With Facebook ‘Likes’ Alone, Researchers Can Tell Your Race, Gender, and Sexual Orientation” [via The Atlantic]

“To Have No Willpower [when it comes to food, booze and men]” [via The Tangential]

“Telling women to get a gun is not rape prevention” [via Feministing]

“Why 30 should not be the new 20” [via Life2PointOh]

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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    Addie Pray March 15, 2013, 1:27 pm

    That 15-year old kid was so GOOD! I was balling in my office … until I started smiling and laughing. So cute, so clever, I loved it!

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      MertleJ March 15, 2013, 5:27 pm

      Chills. I have actual chills.

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    GatorGirl March 15, 2013, 1:38 pm

    For the record, I didn’t send in the wedding article. And I thought it sucked.

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      lets_be_honest March 15, 2013, 1:41 pm

      haha, that was me. I like charts.
      This day on the other hand, I don’t like. I’m 2 seconds from running away and never coming back.

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        Addie Pray March 15, 2013, 1:48 pm

        Pourquoi? Tell us, we can reply with something heartfelt and wise to make you feel better.

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        lets_be_honest March 15, 2013, 2:19 pm

        The whole thread earlier just sucked my happiness out. Sick of people thinking its totally ok to bash people’s religion, but uncool to bash any other group on the planet. I know, I know, I shouldn’t let it get to me but it does and I do take it personally when I am open to and understanding of other’s opinions yet am basically told I’m the next coming of hitler. Basically, I think people are assholes. Work is just awful today. My boss is an asshole today. I want to be home when my kid gets off the bus and its really starting to bother me a lot that I’m not. Like bothering me every single day lately. I’m sitting around watching my grandma die in my free time. Watching my family suffer through it all. rant, rant, rant. Just one of those days.

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        lets_be_honest March 15, 2013, 2:20 pm

        And I tried to vent to Peter about all of this and his reply was why don’t you let me take you to jcrew tonight. wtf.

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      • FireStar

        FireStar March 15, 2013, 3:45 pm

        Men are funny. Bless their hearts. You are upset and I can’t fix it? ummm wanna sweater ?Feel better hon. I’m sorry to hear about your grandma. I skipped that whole thread because everyone has their own agendas and sometimes it’s about learning about each other respectfully. And sometimes it’s just not. Weekend is almost here…go home, grab your kid… And let someone go buy you a sweater πŸ˜‰

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        lets_be_honest March 15, 2013, 3:54 pm

        Thanks firestar. I really enjoyed most of the discussion from yesterday actually, and thought people were being respectful to each other. Today just turned sour. What can you do?
        I guess the shopping offer just came at a bad moment, because in all honesty, that does usually cheer me up. I’m gonna follow your plan for my weekend πŸ™‚

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      • iwannatalktosampson

        iwannatalktosampson March 15, 2013, 3:58 pm

        Yeah I was going to say shopping and drinking always make me feel better, haha.

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        GatorGirl March 15, 2013, 2:23 pm

        πŸ™
        I felt the same way about you in that conversation. It was very frustrating.

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        Addie Pray March 15, 2013, 2:34 pm

        I’m sorry, LBH! That’s when you got to shut the laptop and step outside for a breath of fresh air. But, I get it, it can be very frustrating and soul-sucking to get caught up in a debate
        like that – an argument that, frankly, you’re not going to win, ever. … Simply because, well, people are set in their ways and no one is really listening to each other.

        And I’m really sorry about your grandma.

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        Grilledcheesecalliope March 15, 2013, 2:40 pm

        I’m sorry about your grandma. And you are totally cuter than Hitler. Also since I’ve never seen you advocating the extermination of anyone, a better person too.

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      • iwannatalktosampson

        Iwannatalktosampson March 15, 2013, 2:50 pm

        I’m sorry LBH – I’m handing you an internet beer. That thread really frustrated me too and I’m not even catholic – people that are self righteous about their own hypocrisy make me want to punch babies. But cheer up buttercup – the sun is shining and I’m considering having lunch beers at home by myself in celebration of being Irish and it being 70 degrees today and it being Friday and the only work I have to do is mindless monkey work.

        I’m sorry about your grandma πŸ™ I went to my aunt’s funeral in December – and she essentially raised my Dad. Even though she was my favorite aunt I was more mourning for my Dad’s loss than my own. I’m sorry you have to go through this and I’m sorry you have to watch your mom go through this.

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        lets_be_honest March 15, 2013, 2:54 pm

        thanks guys. you’re all the best. really.

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        bethany March 15, 2013, 1:50 pm

        I’m over today, too.
        I was all excited because I got a coupon for 40% off at the Gap Outlet, and I was going to run over there are lunch today, since it’s only a few blocks from work, but the freaking coupon isn’t valid until tomorrow when I won’t be in the city. GRRRR.

        If anyone wants a 40% off coupon for the Gap Outlet, let me know. I’ll forward it to you.

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        GatorGirl March 15, 2013, 1:58 pm

        I love infographics, but that one was a little weaksauce IMO.

        I’m over the working part of today too. I’d like it to be beer:thirty.

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    rachel March 15, 2013, 1:42 pm

    I was actually sort of surprised that only 70% of people today live together before they get married. Even the more conservative couples I know moved in together once they were engaged. I know not everyone does, but 30%?

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      Addie Pray March 15, 2013, 1:47 pm

      30% does seem like a lot! I know no one who did not live together before marriage – weird.

      Not true – I know one couple – and they got divorced! Hahaha. There you go – proof that living together first is a requirement to a successful marriage. Ha.

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      kerrycontrary March 15, 2013, 2:03 pm

      I think it’s also situational. Like someone’s lease isn’t up, they are short/long distance, having to change jobs for someone, they come from traditional families…etc. I came from a church with a lot of conservative Christians and those people were not living together while engaged. And you have to consider the people that still get married right out of college, so they lived with roomates and not each other in college. I dunno makes sense to me.

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        rachel March 15, 2013, 2:16 pm

        Yeah, I can imagine situations where it would be the case, I was just surprised at the number. Though I guess when people marry young it makes more sense. No one I know got married before, oh, 25 or so.

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        GatorGirl March 15, 2013, 2:24 pm

        The average marrying age is 29 for men and 26 (I beleive) for women. Just an FYI.

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        kerrycontrary March 15, 2013, 3:16 pm

        I didn’t have any close friends that got married young, but I know a lot of random people from high school who got married right after college (been dating since high school), or people who didn’t go to college and thus married younger (which is a normal trend).

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      katie March 15, 2013, 2:06 pm

      i actually think that sounds about right. i mean, the bible belt is still very much alive and there..

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      • theattack

        theattack March 15, 2013, 3:38 pm

        People shack up down here in the bible belt all the time too. I think 70 / 30 sounds about right for down here. I don’t have any statistics on it, but the younger generation in the bible belt isn’t nearly as conservative as the older generations. There are still a lot of people who go to church and don’t want to live in sin, but most of us are rampant harlots just like the rest of the country. haha I think the older generations probably throw that off a lot, so I’m expecting it to change a lot over the upcoming years.

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        katie March 15, 2013, 5:15 pm

        yea i think if you took a poll of DW it would be about 70/30 as well, actually.

        i mention it because i imagine the whole country, and i would think that the center for that more conservative lifestyle would be in the bible belt, and then the cities would be the high-er centers for shacking up, and then that is how the split would look… like, i imagine the map in my head and thats how it looks to me, lol

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      jlyfsh March 15, 2013, 2:17 pm

      we don’t really know a whole lot about how they came up with those numbers either though. are they only counting people who have been married once? is it only people above or below a certain age. basically they don’t delve very deep in to that number.

      and i’m not that surprised. i’ve known a fair number of people (both religious and not) who for various reasons didn’t live ‘together’ before marriage. and i say ‘together’ because some of them had separate spaces but never seemed to spend a night apart. and i guess to them that was important to keep a space of their own, more power to them if it works for them i guess!

      i’ve also known a fair number of people who get married a second time and they had very separate lives with homes they both owned, etc they didn’t consolidate households until they actually married.

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      MJ March 15, 2013, 4:29 pm

      I probably know all 30%. Religious couples, even if they are banging away, don’t move into together until after their weddings. To keep church people and their grandmas and parents and friends happy. It’s just easier that way.

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        *HmC* March 15, 2013, 5:09 pm

        I was surprised at the 70/30 split at first too, and then I thought about it and it makes sense. Not only conservative religious Americans though… I know some non-religious white people who are conservative regardless, plus a lot of immigrant ethnic minorities who don’t believe in co-habitation and didn’t do it (mostly Hindu Indian couples).

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    Classic March 15, 2013, 1:53 pm

    I enjoyed the pictures of the children with their favorite things so much!! That collection is wonderful. Kids are great.

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  • katie

    katie March 15, 2013, 2:11 pm

    super yay for that registry article! that is awesome!! so many tiny percentages of what people are asking for- and only 17% of BB&B crap!

    this gives me hope for the future. also: wine registry? omg!!

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      GatorGirl March 15, 2013, 2:20 pm

      Hey, BB&B has a lot of awesome stuff!

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        Iwannatalktosampson March 15, 2013, 2:53 pm

        I love bed bath and beyond. I would go there in my free time and just sniff the clean towels.

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        lets_be_honest March 15, 2013, 2:57 pm

        I hate that store, plus not to burst your bubble but the whole place is full of lies…http://imgur.com/gallery/DMB1D

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      • iwannatalktosampson

        iwannatalktosampson March 15, 2013, 2:59 pm

        Yeah I saw that actually – it’s what made me think of it, haha.

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        GatorGirl March 15, 2013, 3:14 pm

        They do that at most stores. It’s a way to make a nice display but not end up with a bunch of “damaged” ie dusty funily wrinkled towels that are hard to sell.

        I just love the wide selection. I went yesterday and got a mandoline with a $5 off coupon. Those things aren’t easy to find!

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        kerrycontrary March 15, 2013, 3:17 pm

        I DO go to bed bath and beyond in my free time. True life.

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      • katie

        katie March 15, 2013, 3:03 pm

        oh, i love BB&B, dont get me wrong- i just already own pretty much everything i need from there lol

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      • theattack

        theattack March 15, 2013, 3:51 pm

        Impossible! Everytime I go to the store or to their website, I realize there are about twenty things I DESPERATELY NEED that I don’t have.

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        GatorGirl March 15, 2013, 4:02 pm

        There is this thing at BB&B called a “lettuce keeper” and it is AWESOME. We keep fresh herbs and sometimes lettuce in it and they last for weeks. It’s made by Progressive.

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      • theattack

        theattack March 15, 2013, 4:06 pm

        Ohh, that’s awesome! I just searched for it (I already happened to have their site open anyway because I love it so much), and that’s really cool!

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      • katie

        katie March 15, 2013, 4:25 pm

        well, let me be a pretentious chef/alton brown right now- i have no room in my life for unitaskers or unnecessary items. which is a good amount of BB&B… lol

        all i would really love from there now is the kitchenaid attachments. i have towels, i bought those cute matchy bathroom things, i have nice bath mats, i have nice plates… and i have a way more then a fully stocked kitchen.

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      • theattack

        theattack March 15, 2013, 4:28 pm

        I’m pretty much the same way about “unitaskers” (I had no idea that was a word, but I’ll take it!). I’m just such a slut for dishes and serveware and all kinds of linens and seasonal decorations. (It’s okay to use the word slut when it’s about dishes, right? haha)

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      • katie

        katie March 15, 2013, 5:19 pm

        haha, unitaskers is an alton brown word as far as i know… also, can i complain about gadgets that do the exact same thing as other, regular kitchen tools? im looking at you, avocado slicer…

        and yea, im the opposite- not all up on the seasonal stuff. aint nobody got time for that! lol i mean they are pretty, id just never buy them. i move too much.

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    iwannatalktosampson March 15, 2013, 3:05 pm

    My email send off is always “Thanks!” Which is really stupid because half the time I’m not asking them for anything and a thank you is inappropriate. But it’s just how I roll. Maybe I should change it to, “Have a great day!” Or “Cheers” I like people that end their emails with cheer – it makes me feel very british.

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      lets_be_honest March 15, 2013, 3:06 pm

      Same here! Why am I thanking you for me doing something for you? Its weird. I always do it though. I’ve tried out verily a few times and like it. Its so pretentious, just like most of my clients.

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        iwannatalktosampson March 15, 2013, 3:14 pm

        YES! I’m updating them on something and I thank them! Why is that? Alright from now on it’s cheers. Unless I’m discussing a funeral or something potentially going to jail.

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        iwannatalktosampson March 15, 2013, 3:15 pm

        Someone**

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      GatorGirl March 15, 2013, 3:17 pm

      I say “thanks!” way way way too much in work e-mails. On Fridays I put “have a great weekend” usually because I’m so dang excited to not have to work anymore!

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      • iwannatalktosampson

        iwannatalktosampson March 15, 2013, 3:59 pm

        See but I would even blow that by saying, “Have a great weekend! Thanks!”

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      Fabelle March 15, 2013, 3:22 pm

      I do that too, only because everything else sound so false to me? REGARDS (but I have started simply saying “best” sometimes, so maybe I’ll just do that. Or maybe I’ll just keep thanking people, more likely.)

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    titian March 15, 2013, 3:09 pm

    Has anyone read the no willpower article yet? My whole life summarized by someone who’s never met me!

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      kerrycontrary March 15, 2013, 3:18 pm

      same. I’ve actually gotten a hold on things, but I don’t put myself in precarious situations because I have no willpower. I don’t keep unhealthy food in the house because I would eat ALL THE COOKIES. and I don’t hang out with men alone because I would give them all the kisses (and I’m in a 3 year relationship!). And lets not even get into my poor choices of men in the past…

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      GatorGirl March 15, 2013, 3:23 pm

      I have no will power when it comes to food and drink. Mostly drink (just oneeeeee more glass of wine…it’s only 11 and I don’t HAVE to start working until 8:30ishhhh), but often food too. My fiance is just as bad. It’s a terrible combination.

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    • peppers87

      peppers87 March 15, 2013, 3:56 pm

      “omg this taco…” (double entendre methinks?)

      but yes. My life. To a T.

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