Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Friday Links

As I mentioned last week, I’m starting a new feature called “Friday Links” where I share (mostly) relationship-themed content from around the web. Here are this week’s links:

From the New York Times: “It’s Not Me, It’s You (How to End a Friendship)”

From CNN.com and Oprah.com: “What to ask yourself before the break-up”

From Yahoo Shine: “When Does Sexual and Relationship Boredom Begin?”

From ABCNews.com: “Gwyneth Paltrow Enters the Mommy Wars: ‘Compromise…To Be a Wife’”

From Psychology Today: “Guys Who Gave Up Porn: On Sex and Romance”

From our own His Take contributor, Art’s, brand new wife, Emily (congrats, guys!): “How to Plan a Wedding without Losing Your Mind (or being an Asshole)”

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to [email protected] and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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    ReginaRey February 3, 2012, 2:09 pm

    I like this new feature, Wendy! Everyone knows that Friday afternoons are for pretending to do work while actually mentally checking out of the building around noon…so this will help me put on a show for the next couple hours.

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      GatorGirl February 3, 2012, 2:41 pm

      Is it only Friday afternoons that this is supposed to happen? I guess I missed that memo!

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    Michelle.Lea February 3, 2012, 3:10 pm

    lol that’s totally what happens in my building on a friday. especially right now during a slow period. I just cant do another audit, i cant stare at ISO anymore, and i dont have any other jobs coming in to plan. brain is done. so i surf.

    interesting Gwyneth bits i’m seeing around though. i think her comments are just being blown WAY out of proportion… i dont think she’s saying be a martyr, just that when you’re married, you’re part of a team now. you dont make selfish impulsive decisions, you decide as a team what’s best for the entire team. i dont have my own kids, and we do that at home. we dont just do things for ourselves, we’re a unit.

    it’s on late fridays that i think about starting a blog just to ramble.

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    • MaterialsGirl

      MaterialsGirl February 3, 2012, 4:28 pm

      You’re working on ISO too??? ugh it’s the bane of my existence. Our audit is in two weeks

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        Michelle.Lea February 3, 2012, 5:42 pm

        OMG. it’s harsh. i’ve only been ‘in’ it for 2 years now, with the first year trying to muddle through it, having no background in it, or anyone that would give me a straight answer. (i liken this to the sink or swim theory. i’m a swimmer, but it’s easier to do if someone isnt trying to hold your head under the water!) 2 external audits later and i’m finally *getting* it. and i dont like it lol. thank goodness we’re a small/medium company, and we’re only covering a small part of our business with it. i look at it as something interesting to put on my resume. My next audit is in November, and it’ll be a re-certification one, so i have to get everything in place this year.

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      • MaterialsGirl

        Elizabeth February 5, 2012, 9:36 am

        Someone, our engineering department got saddled with the ‘quality’ stuff. ugh. ugh. ugh. this is like my 4th or 5th year of having to walk the guy around. I’ve heard waaaay too many stories about the guy’s kids by this point. It’s the whole week of valentines day. boo

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    Budj February 3, 2012, 4:10 pm

    I read that addicted to porn link (big surprise) – don’t squeeze so hard guys…jeez.

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    kittyk February 3, 2012, 4:20 pm

    That article on guys & porn was not what I was expecting. Interesting read.

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  • MaterialsGirl

    MaterialsGirl February 3, 2012, 4:23 pm

    I totally think Gwyns comments are blown out of proportion. She states “this is what works for my family.” It’s totally true, too. They have a lot of different experiences and a completely foreign lifestyle so she’s just expressing how she copes and how she gave advice to someone in a similar situation (who also has dual high power career etc etc.. screw it, if they have made their marriage work thus far, feel free to give advice to other celebs who can’t seem to make it work).

    man this Friday is nuts.

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      iseeshiny February 3, 2012, 5:58 pm

      I don’t understand why people love to hate her so much.

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      WatersEdge February 4, 2012, 11:20 am

      I agree. I also think it’s laughable when people get all up in arms when someone is realistic about the idea that having a happy family involves sacrifice, time, and compromise. I work full time and have no nanny, chauffeur, etc, and I don’t even have any kids to get home to, but I still value my marriage enough to putit first and get home early enough to spend quality time, even when work is crazy. It’s certainly true that not everyone can work a schedule that allows that, but to say that’s not ideal is just silly.

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      • Leroy

        Leroy February 5, 2012, 1:32 pm

        I think that a lot of that is mock indignation – they’re riding her coattails to promote themselves. That’s why the criticism is so overwrought.

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    CatsMeow February 4, 2012, 11:47 am

    Did anyone else think the porn one was kinda BS? I mean, it says in there that the desensitization “appears” to happen in “some” people (and I’m sure it can), but the overall gist seemed to be pretty anti-porn, anti-masturbation, with a misrepresentation of what it means to be “sex positive” thrown in for good measure. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll grant that some people can indeed be addicted to porn; I just think that this article blew it out of proportion.

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