Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Happy New Year Open Thread

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Hey, we survived another year — congratulations, everyone! For me and my family, 2015 will be one we will remember forever. It was the year we welcomed our daughter, said good-bye to Drew’s father, ushered Jackson into “big-boy school,” and Drew even won an Emmy! And years from now, we’ll say, “Remember Christmas, 2015, when it was so hot we had the air conditioners going full blast and we dined al fresco at the Chinese restaurant?” It was a strange, sad, beautiful, wonderful, and exhausting year, and I’m hoping for fewer milestones and a little more sleep in 2016.

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For the tenth year in a row, I’ll be ringing in the new year with my favorite new year’s date, my old man, Drew. The other night, we recounted all of our New Year’s Eves past. There was our very first NYE together, in 2006, about eight months after we met, when we went out for Ethiopian and saw a band I liked and I spent a whole week visiting him, trying to decide if I could see myself living in New York. There were the next three NYEs when we threw parties at our apartment in Hell’s Kitchen, just a few blocks from Times Square. There was NYE 2010, after we moved to Brooklyn, when we dressed in our fancy finery and our friends, Neil and Kirstin, came over and we cooked jambalaya together and sang karaoke and yelled at the moon from our terrace at midnight. (I woke up the next morning, the first day of 2011, and said I was ready to have a baby, and our Jackson was born nine months and eight days later). There was a home-cooked lobster dinner in 2012 with Mary and Steve and Bill and Rachel. There was 2013 when we saw Willie Nelson with Chad and Michael in Austin. And there was last year, in Missouri, with my sister and her boyfriend, and I danced with Drew at a swing band concert, Joanie May the size of a grape between us, a happy secret still to most everyone else.

This year, we’ll wear fancy finery again and cook dinner and eat caviar with our friends, Jeramy and Josh, at their house while their daughter and Jackson have a sleepover at our place with a sitter who was, luckily, still available when we asked just a few days out.

Looking back, I feel so lucky to have marked the passing of time with an array of dear friends and family, and I hope I continue to be rich in friendship and love for many, many years to come. It’s what makes the happy milestones more fun to celebrate and the sad moments more bearable to get through.

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As 2015 closes out, I want to thank you all for being part of the DW community. Whether you check in once or twice a week or several times an hour — whether you’re a lurker or an active commenter, your presence is appreciated and valued. I get emails every week from people who are kind enough to express what this site has meant for them, and I always feel that these notes of thanks are meant for all of us. I keep the lights on, but it’s all of you who keep the party going, so thank you. I am thrilled to say that this was a big year for DW. We’re ending the year with traffic nearly 40% higher than it was last December, and finally, after nearly five years of pretty much breaking even (if I was lucky), I’m reaching income goals I set for myself when I started this site back in January 2011. While things can certainly change at any time, I’m enjoying this moment of seeing hard work pay off, and I hope that DW will continue being a place where you want to spend some of your time in 2016.

Have a wonderful, safe, and happy New Year (anxiety, aside), and I’ll see you back here on Monday!

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  • rubyroo

    rubyroo December 31, 2015, 9:15 am

    Have a wonderful new year and all the best for 2016!!! 🙂

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    Samba December 31, 2015, 10:36 am

    Happy New Year, everyone! Welcome to the next 6 weeks or so where I will continue to struggle in not writing “2015” as the date everywhere 🙂
    I wanted to say thank you for the support in the last deleted thread–I know we’re not supposed to discuss the deleted thread outside of it, but I have to say thanks because just the few kind/encouraging words really changed my outlook, and it’s amazing what that can do! Maybe I’ll provide updates and details in the coming year, but for now I’ll just say I’m on the right path and accomplishing things I started believing were impossible, so I’m proud of myself and grateful for the kindness here.
    Hope you all have a wonderful, safe, happy New Year and that the year to come will bring you everything you’re hoping for and/or working towards! Loved reading about all the fun plans y’all have.

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    ktfran December 31, 2015, 10:48 am

    What a lovely tribute to 2015 and to New Year’s past, Wendy. I love this site and I greatly appreciate you and all of the DW clan. You’ve built something truly special.

    My 2015 has been pretty great. I made my annual vacation to California, visiting amazing friends. I’ve attended other good friends weddings. I made new friends. I met a boy. And I’m in love. My middle sis announced she was pregnant. Work is going well and people respect what I’m doing here. There have been a few hiccups, but nothing I couldn’t handle.

    Here’s hoping 2016 is just as great as 2015!

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  • Stonegypsy

    Stonegypsy December 31, 2015, 11:52 am

    2015 has been kind of a rough year for me, continuing to catch up from everything that happened in 2014 (divorce, lots of unemployment, debt) and going through a lot of very trying learning experiences in relationships. But things have been looking up. Finances are getting to be more in order, relationship stuff is smoothing out, work is going fantastically and I feel like I can continue to learn and grow a lot at the company I’m at. I think 2016 is going to be a really, really good year and I’m excited to see what it brings.
    Happy new year, DW community! I can’t tell you how invaluable this place is to me. You all are great.

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  • Lianne

    Lianne December 31, 2015, 11:58 am

    Happy new year, all! My 2015 was pretty tumultuous, but I am so excited about the way it ended and can’t wait to meet my little baby boy in 5ish months!!!

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      RedRoverRedRover December 31, 2015, 12:59 pm

      Glad to hear you’re doing well. When are you due? I think we’re at around the same time, my date’s now May 11. How’s your hemorrhage going? Mine has shrunk and is now nothing to worry about. I hope you’ve had the same thing happen. Here’s to 5 more months!

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        Lianne December 31, 2015, 1:40 pm

        @redrover, I don’t know if this is going to post in the correct spot since the comment box is down on the bottom, but I am due May 26. We had our anatomy scan the other day and everything looks great. The hematoma is either gone or so small the baby obscured it from view – so that was a huge relief! I spent a couple hours on Tuesday registering and had so much fun! I did a ton of research on Monday evening, including re-reading Wendy’s guide for new parents and a forum post started by AP when she was registering. It was super helpful and I felt like I had a clue, so thanks guys!!

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        RedRoverRedRover December 31, 2015, 1:51 pm

        The comment box is on the bottom for me too, but it seems to still work properly.
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        That’s great news! My doctor had them with all three of her kids, apparently it’s really common, and before ultrasounds got so good most pregnancies that had one continued normally with no one ever even knowing. So glad it happened for you.
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        Yeah, registering is fun. This is my second baby so I’m not doing that, but I did get a TON of Christmas presents for the little girl from my mom and sister. Like, ridiculously cute little fancy dresses. They’re both so excited, the last girl we had in the family was 8 years ago. On both sides, actually. My MIL has also passed me a bunch of cute dresses that were my niece’s. My MIL took them back after she grew out of them because my BIL’s ex-wife is a horrible person and would have probably sold them. So everything nice that she buys for her, she takes back when my niece grows out of it, to make sure it’s not just sold for booze money. So now I’m swimming in cute little girl dresses! So exciting. 🙂

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        Lianne December 31, 2015, 2:00 pm

        That’s super fun. I have always wanted a little girl, but I said to my husband, it’s good thing this one’s a boy, because we would go broke on all the cute things I would have bought for a girl. As it is, I am restraining myself with the boy things!! I am super into the cute leggings they have out there – I am going to end up with a little hipster baby!

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        RedRoverRedRover December 31, 2015, 2:11 pm

        Hahahah yep, my first was a boy and I’ve managed to buy him some pretty cute outfits! 🙂

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    RedRoverRedRover December 31, 2015, 12:57 pm

    Happy New Year everyone! I wish I could remember my past 10 New Year’s like Wendy can, but I don’t really care for them so I guess they get wiped out of my memory pretty fast. 🙂 I know last year I stayed home sick with bronchitis, and to tell you the truth I prefer that to going out. It’s always such a bust. Tonight we’re going to a friend’s house for a party, which is fine, except I’m stressed about how my toddler will stay up till midnight. Maybe we can use him or my pregnancy as an excuse to leave early, lol. 🙂
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    2015 was a big year for me… we bought a new house, which is our “forever” home, where our kids are going to grow up. It’s so nice to finally feel settled for the long haul. I got a new job, a really challenging one but an exciting one, which also came with a great promotion. And then I got pregnant with my little girl, who’s due in May! I’ve always wanted a girl, so I’m pretty excited. And this will be my last pregnancy, so it’ll be nice to know that our family’s complete, too. I also turned 40 this year. I think this’ll be one that I’ll never forget, tons of change. Of course it’s been hard too, there have been a lot of challenges, but I don’t think I’ll remember that part of it. 🙂
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    More challenges ahead for 2016 (financial, as I take time off from work to be with the baby, plus having a newborn and a toddler which I’m pretty worried about), but hopefully lots of joy too! Hope everyone has a great 2016!

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  • mylaray

    Mylaray December 31, 2015, 1:15 pm

    My husband and I are spending tonight with my in laws, watching holiday movies. And I’m making lasagna! Tomorrow is my birthday. I’m throwing my annual New Years party and am looking forward to good friends and good food.

    I don’t really do resolutions but my husband and I have a theme for each year to improve ourselves and grow together. 2016 will be about being healthy. We eat well and exercise, but we have improvements we could make. I need to say no more and stop trying to do everything and be everything to my friends/loved ones. I’d like to have more mental energy, because I am truly grateful for everything I have and I hope to be able to appreciate it more.

    I’m not able to comment as much anymore, but I read everyday and I miss it. I love this community here. Thanks for everything you do, Wendy!

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    Ange December 31, 2015, 3:35 pm

    Welp my 2015 kinda sucked. We moved to a city I hate and the job search has been a bit of a joke. We did get a second cat and he’s a squishy ball of love so that’s a positive but I’m struggling to come up with much else. Bring on 2016 and the last year here thank god.

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  • Moneypenny

    Moneypenny December 31, 2015, 3:48 pm

    Happy New Year, all! Thanks Wendy for continuing to produce such an awesome site. I’ve learned a ton on here from you and all of the DW folks over the last few years. And I’ve made some friends, too. 🙂
    This year was pretty good- my job has been going well, and hopefully I’ll continue to do well at it. I visited 4 states, 4 national parks, reconnected with old friends, and got to meet Wendy! My finances are getting better, and I have a plan for moving out of my current place and in with a friend. I’m hopeful (and impatient) for something positive to happen with my love life… That “meh” feeling needs to gtfo.

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      Dear Wendy January 1, 2016, 11:37 am

      Aw, I made your list of 2015 highlights! I loved meeting you, too. Happy new year!

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    girltuesday December 31, 2015, 4:54 pm

    Happy New Year, all! So glad I found this place with so many like-minded ladies and gents. I also love Wendy’s advice and use “aim higher” IRL all the time.

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    Also, it’s just me and SO this year. I’m actually really excited to spend this holiday with just him.

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    Everyone be safe!

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  • veracityb

    veracityb December 31, 2015, 7:38 pm

    Happy new year y’all! Have a cracking one!! ?

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  • Classic

    Classic December 31, 2015, 8:42 pm

    Happy New Year, everybody! Thank you, dear Wendy, for providing this great site for all of us!
    2015 was a very different kind of year for me– nearly every single thing in my life changed! Everything is different.
    Have a great 2016 everyone. Haha I am practicing my 2016s.

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      Dear Wendy January 1, 2016, 11:36 am

      Happy new year, Classic! Hope 2016 is even better to you than the last.

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    sms841 December 31, 2015, 10:30 pm

    Happy New Year to Wendy and all the DWers. Leave it to a happy NYE post to make me tear up! My 2015 was a mixed bag. I finally went to therapy and started to feel better about myself. I chose to have a date-free 2015 and learn about myself which was amazing.

    Unfortunately the year is ending on a bad note as my dad is in the hospital and the outlook is not good. Fingers are crossed that 2016 brings health and good news to my family – and all of yours!

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    • Dear Wendy

      Dear Wendy January 1, 2016, 11:35 am

      I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. I know how stressful something like that is. Sending good thoughts your way!

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        sms841 January 3, 2016, 12:52 am

        I’m catching up on the forums and everything else after a long day at the hospital. I read this and thought “Love you, Wendy!” But that would probably be weird to say! So I’ll say I love what Wendy built here and the community that has developed over tHe years. As a very infrequent commenter but dedicated reader for years, this has been my safe place to talk about the things I can’t talk about with my friends and family. This has been my sanctuary and while I don’t feel like I contribute much of anything, I can’t say enough how much I’ve benefitted from being here.

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        Dear Wendy January 3, 2016, 3:06 pm

        Love this, thank you!

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    keyblade January 1, 2016, 7:42 am

    Happy New Year everyone. 2015 was a really good year for my family life. My husband and I were talking a about all the things we did this year and it was quite a bit. My kids learned a lot this year and overall, it was productive, healthy, and peaceful. I hope 2016 will be a continuation and there will be less violence, more love, and we (I) will continue to set and pursue healthy, mindful goals.

    I’ll add that as a long-time lurker that has become a fairly regular commentator, it’s been a joy to watch the evolution of this site. When Wendy had a negative member choose to leave the site and some of her clique went with her back in 2013 (I think), I admit, I was concerned. But it’s been so nice to read comments and thoughts from old and new commentators that have since fluxed in. I never intended to start so many threads. I’m really happy to hear Dear Wendy is gaining traction and the site’s creator is making some money and a good income for all the work she’s put in over the years. I think Wendy has always really tried her best to provide honest, useful, entertaining, well-written, free advice to participants. I’ve enjoyed the reader rec’s and general chat. I hope 2016 continues to be fruitful for the site. And I hope Wendy and her family enjoy the blessings. Peace.

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  • Skyblossom

    Skyblossom January 1, 2016, 2:33 pm

    This is my favorite site because it encourages participation by everyone who would like to participate. It allows people to post questions in the forum and allows everyone to answer questions both on the main page and in the forum. Other sites just allow comments under the advice. This is so much more inclusive and meaningful. Thank you Wendy for having the vision to take this a step or two beyond the usual!!!

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    dinoceros January 1, 2016, 10:01 pm

    Happy New Year! 2015 was good for me. I got my master’s degree, got a job, made friends in a new place. I think I did a lot of growing up and feel good about who I was this year. But the news brought me down, and a lot of my loved ones had a hard time, so things were still a little depressing. For 2016, trying to get better at my job, have more fun, and maybe dating. And I suppose exercise.

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  • Portia

    Portia January 2, 2016, 9:26 am

    Happy New Year all! I haven’t been able to comment a ton recently, but I wanted to say just how much I love the atmosphere here and the wonderful community that Wendy has cultivated – thanks Wendy. This is where I come when I need a break in my day and I appreciate the range of voices and experience here. And I love following along with individual commenters’ stories and really hope for the best for everyone next year.
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    On a personal note, I’ve had a big year with a lot of changes and big events and I’m kind of looking forward to a mostly low-key year in 2016. I say mostly because I’m having a milestone birthday, so there will be some excitement. But I’m done with big planning for a while. If I had a resolution it’d be to worry less, live a little more in the moment so I can enjoy it more.

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  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray January 3, 2016, 12:53 pm

    Happy new year to Wendy and everyone who reads Dear Wendy, my favorite site for, what, FOUR years already? I think the anniversary is in January … Why does January 24 sound right? Or is it 5 years??
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    Well, 2015 was an exciting year for me. I think I felt every emotion, and intensely! The highlight of course was the arrival of Baby Pray!
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    2016 with my boy is going to be fun. He’ll have a lot of firsts this year – he’s going to learn to crawl, walk, he’ll eat food for the first time, he’ll have his first haircut, he’ll have his 1st birthday, this summer he’ll go to the pool for the first time, etc. And I get to be there for all the firsts! Fun times! (Unless they happen while I’m at work, boo.) I’m looking forward to enjoying this kiddo all year. … Im also looking forward to getting in shape. That can happen this year if I try, right? Right? Ok I’m going to try really hard.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Dear Wendy January 3, 2016, 3:05 pm

      All the firsts will be so fun!! And, yes, on January 24th (amazing memory!), DW will turn five!

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