Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

UPDATE: GOAL REACHED, DRIVE CLOSED Help Save a Cat!

UPDATE: GOAL REACHED, DRIVE CLOSED
Thank you to all who donated. We have reached our goal of $500. Yay!

Miles and wendyHey, cat ladies, one of our community members here, Paperheart, desperately needs help saving her beloved cat. The 10-year-old cat was a gift to Paperheart when she was a kid, and it has lived with Paperheart’s parents all its life. Paperheart, now in her early 20s, has a place of her own, and she would love to bring her cat to come live with her. This is especially important because at Paperheart’s parents’ home, where the poor cat does not get any attention, it has started peeing around the house (not an uncommon behavioral trait among severely neglected house cats). Unfortunately, Paperheart doesn’t have the $300 she needs for a pet deposit or the money to take the cat to the vet, etc. Meanwhile, PH’s mother is threatening to euthanize the poor cat. (Read about it here).

Time is of the essence. If you’d like to help save Paperheart’s cat, please consider donating money to help pay the pet deposit at her apartment, a vet appt., and food for a couple months. I’m sure once Paperheart has her cat with her, she and her boyfriend will do everything they can do budget for pet food and care. Let’s help them get a start and save this sweet kitty! I bet once it’s back in the home of someone who will love it and shower it with attention, the peeing will stop (hopefully!).

If you can, pay pal a donation to me at [email protected] (you can also go through this link) with “Paperheart” in the subject line and I will send the collection to Paperheart as soon as we reach $500. Let’s see if we can reach this goal by Friday, and save this cat from being euthanized. Thank you so much for your continued generosity!!

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    MissDre January 22, 2013, 12:22 pm

    Donated! Anything for a kitty!! 🙂

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    • paperheart

      paperheart January 22, 2013, 1:14 pm

      Thank you so much!

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    Trixy Minx January 22, 2013, 12:23 pm

    I know lots of people who have gotten away with having a cert in their apartment without the office knowing.

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      rachel January 22, 2013, 12:26 pm

      If it pees everywhere, they’ll figure out out 😉

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        Trixy Minx January 22, 2013, 12:30 pm

        well if it stops being neglects them it should stop peeing. right?

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        lets_be_honest January 22, 2013, 12:33 pm

        Weigh the costs though. If its a small apt., it won’t cost much to have carpets cleaned. Possibly WAY less than the $300 deposit.

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        the attack January 22, 2013, 12:41 pm

        But not worth the cost of an eviction if someone spots the cat in the windowsill, or maintenance comes in for monthly pest control, or they have to enter the apartment because of an emergency leak in the unit under them. I would definitely not take that risk for longer than a few days.

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        CG January 22, 2013, 1:00 pm

        Stanley Steemer usually has deals on carpet cleaning. At my old place, I got my bedroom, living room and dining room (we’re talking less than 800 square feet altogether) done for like $100 total. But I don’t want to encourage anyone to break the terms of their lease! 🙂

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      GatorGirl January 22, 2013, 12:39 pm

      For the record, I think this is a terrible idea. Depending on your state, maintence and office management can enter your apt with little or no notice and they will most definitely be pissed if they found a cat in an apartment that they didn’t know about. You risk burning bridges with your apt management or in the worst of situation eviction. Yes, I know eviction is unlikely but it is on the table for violating terms of a lease. If the $300 is refundable then you’re not loosing anything by paying the complex the pet fee. If it’s not refundable, then you’re loosing a bit of money for peice of mind.

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        paperheart January 22, 2013, 1:11 pm

        I was about to comment nearly this same thing, but I see you’ve already done it! Yes, my apartment people (manager, maintenance, bug guy) come in with no warning other than a knock. And if you aren’t home, they use their key to come in.

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        SpaceySteph January 22, 2013, 1:32 pm

        I suggest you look into whether they are actually allowed to do this. Check your lease for any clauses like “will give 2 days notice of entry” and the like.
        I still wouldn’t encourage you to keep the cat without paying the deposit, but in general it’s nice to know strange men are going to be entering your apartment.

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        GatorGirl January 22, 2013, 1:36 pm

        A lot of states require management to give 24 hours notice before entering your apartment. But I beleive it’s a state by state (and maybe even on the county level) regulation. If you google your state and renters rights you should be able to find a synopsis of your local laws.

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        paperheart January 22, 2013, 1:36 pm

        I looked into it the first time they just came in, because I just thought it was really weird, and our lease actually says that they can come in with no notice. Apparently it’s a pretty common thing around here, because everyone I talked to about it was like “Yeah, they do that everywhere.”

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        SpaceySteph January 22, 2013, 1:58 pm

        Gosh that would make me so uncomfortable. I work odd shifts, so its possible I could be home sleeping when they just waltzed in if that was allowed here.
        I would hope at least that you have a good deadbolt!

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      • theattack

        theattack January 22, 2013, 2:04 pm

        Story here: At my last apartment in college, pest control came in every month to spray, and they just came in without knocking. One day my morning classes were cancelled, and of course I had to be sleeping nude when the man came into my bedroom to spray. I covered myself up, and he obviously felt awkward and didn’t know what to do, so he just stood there talking to me about pest control trying to diffuse the situation. Needless to say, that conversation did. not. help.

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        paperheart January 22, 2013, 2:10 pm

        I’m so afraid of that happening. Or being in the shower or something. I’ve even had nightmares about it!

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        GatorGirl January 22, 2013, 2:15 pm

        Do y’alls apartments not come with the chain thing? That you can only remove from the inside? Every apartment I’ve lived in has the chain that could only be unhooked from the inside so you didn’t have to worry if you were in the shower or naked…even if they had the key no one can get in.

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        paperheart January 22, 2013, 2:20 pm

        Mine doesn’t have one! That surprised me, too, but apparently that’s also a common thing where I live. No one here seems fazed by these things but me!

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        theattack January 22, 2013, 2:23 pm

        My current one doesn’t, but my old one did. My roommate at the time was locking me out of our apartment with the chain while she was asleep though, and we had to make a house rule against using it.

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  • Fabelle

    Fabelle January 22, 2013, 12:29 pm

    Done!

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    • paperheart

      paperheart January 22, 2013, 1:14 pm

      Thank you Fabelle!

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    lucy January 22, 2013, 1:11 pm

    i’m sorry. I know there is only good intentions here but why can’t PH give it to a shelter or put it up on Craigslist and make sure it goes to a “forever home”? Are we donating to people’s personal causes now? this feels icky…

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    • theattack

      theattack January 22, 2013, 1:18 pm

      Why does it feel icky? If you don’t want to help, then don’t. Plenty of us do want to help paperheart keep the pet she’s loved for ten years.

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        lets_be_honest January 22, 2013, 1:21 pm

        I can see the difference bw this one and the others, in that this $ is for a deposit (mostly). What happens when she gets the deposit back?

        Ftr, I’m in the camp that if you don’t want to help, then don’t. No one is being forced to help and I think its lovely when the Dwers help with causes they’re interested in.

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        GatorGirl January 22, 2013, 1:22 pm

        I would suggest PH donate the money to a local animal shelter if it’s refundable!

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      • theattack

        theattack January 22, 2013, 1:24 pm

        Yeah, it’s definitely a different sort of cause, but I’m not concerned about getting back the money I’m planning on sending. If she gets the deposit back when she moves out, she’ll probably need a deposit for the place she’s moving into.

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        lets_be_honest January 22, 2013, 1:27 pm

        That’s a really good point.

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      • paperheart

        paperheart January 22, 2013, 1:40 pm

        Actually only half of the deposit is refundable. And when (if?) I get it back, I will either use it for the pet deposit on the next place, or, if I don’t need it for that, I’ll donate it to a no-kill animal shelter.

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        lets_be_honest January 22, 2013, 1:44 pm

        Sorry, I didn’t mean to imply what you may or may not do if it were refundable. I don’t think you have any bad intentions whatsoever.

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      • paperheart

        paperheart January 22, 2013, 1:52 pm

        No, it’s okay! If people are going to donate money, they deserve to know what I’m going to do with it when (if?) I get it back.

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        jlyfsh January 22, 2013, 2:02 pm

        I would actually assume you won’t get that portion back. It’s hard to have your apartment not affected by your pet. They used our non-refundable portion to get some super extra pet carpet cleaning (they never peed, they did puke, bleh), etc after we left.

        Hopefully you do get it back though! 🙂

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      GatorGirl January 22, 2013, 1:19 pm

      Lucy in the discussions in the forum it was suggested by a community member that we raise money for PH. She didn’t ask for the money personally. If you’re not comfortable donating, then please don’t donate. It’s not icky to want to help a person you consider a friend (and logistically most of us have no way to get money to PH as we don’t have her address).

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      paperheart January 22, 2013, 1:20 pm

      I know it must seem wierd, and you absolutely shouldn’t donate if you don’t feel right doing it. I just felt the need to say that when I posted about this in the forum (about the cat, not about getting the money), several people said that I should reach out to Wendy about doing this. So that’s what I did.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Wendy January 22, 2013, 1:37 pm

      I only offered to facilitate a money drive once several people in the forums asked me to because they wanted a way to get money to Paperheart to help her save her cat. This is a personal cause, yes, but the very first time I did a money drive on DW was for a “personal cause” (to help a member here buy school supplies for her kids).

      It’s extremely difficult to place an adult cat in a forever home. People want kittens, not 10-year-old cats. I’ve worked at a cat shelter. Most cats who are brought to a shelter and are past the cute kitty stage will spend the rest of their lives in that shelter. Here is a cat who has a potential loving home with someone it has known its whole life. If $300-$500 is all that’s needed to help get that cat to that loving home where it will hopefully spend the rest of its life, which could reasonably be anywhere from 4-14 years, then I’m happy to help people help make that happen.

      If you don’t feel comfortable donating money, no one expects you to!

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        MissDre January 22, 2013, 1:51 pm

        Plus if she loves her cat as much as I love my cat, giving it away would probably feel equally as gut-wrenching as giving away a family member. Anyway, I’m quite happy to donate to save a kitty. I am a crazy cat lady to the core.

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      • Fabelle

        Fabelle January 22, 2013, 2:57 pm

        Exactly! I’ve never donated to anything quicker, haha. We’re all cat lovers here.

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    • katie

      katie January 22, 2013, 1:38 pm

      just to be fair, the only times we have donated money as a community have been for personal causes. there hasnt ever been a donation to a formal “organization” (unless you count wendy buying supplies for Sandy as an organization doing something, but i dont).

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      • theattack

        theattack January 22, 2013, 1:41 pm

        The DW community helped my formal organization! Remember the donation drive for the kids at Christmas?

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      • katie

        katie January 22, 2013, 2:15 pm

        yea, but that was through you. we didnt donate the money to whatever the organization was… at least, thats how i thought it happened. you went out and bought the toys, right? something like that..

        like, im assuming lucy is mad because we are just giving this money to some random person on the internet.. but thats what we have always done. this is no different.

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      • theattack

        theattack January 22, 2013, 2:21 pm

        Well logistically Wendy had to send the money to me, yes, but then it went to the agency, and my co-worker and I shopped for the gifts on behalf of the agency. So it was a donation to the agency that went through me.

        But you’re right. There’s always a risk in giving money to random people on the internet. I could have just bought porn and booze with all the money for the kids and no one would have been wiser. (I didn’t, of course)

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      • katie

        katie January 22, 2013, 2:27 pm

        yea, thats what i mean… you just gotta trust, you know?

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        GatorGirl January 22, 2013, 2:32 pm

        I totally thought I donated to a booze fundraiser! That isn’t what you bought??

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      • theattack

        theattack January 22, 2013, 2:35 pm

        hahaha! Sorry to disappoint, GG, but the shopping cart was full of things like Battleship games and Nerds-flavored lip gloss. No Grey Goose was purchased with your money, though I’m sure there are several DWers who would be more than thrilled to take that type of a donation from you!

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        GatorGirl January 22, 2013, 2:39 pm

        Oh I hope you bought some shiny new markers too. I love a brand new set of Crayola markers. And if anyone wants to donate to a booze drive, I’m open to holding one for myself. My no drinking month ends Saturday!

        (Sorry to threadjack PH!)

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      • paperheart

        paperheart January 22, 2013, 2:56 pm

        It’s okay, GG. Your booze drive is a very important topic! 🙂

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        lets_be_honest January 22, 2013, 2:24 pm

        I thought she meant that the money eventually goes to help a bunch of other people, not the actual recipient of it (and her cat). Not that it matters. I loved Wendy’s reply to the “issue.”

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      megalicious January 22, 2013, 3:46 pm

      As someone who did everything short of selling my car to pay for our dog’s chemo treatments last year (which I contemplated more than once) I know how it feels to be so desperate to save your beloved pet’s life that you’ll do absolutely anything. Many people donated money to us to help us through his treatment, people who believed animals were as important as we think they are to our lives. There were definitely people who didn’t donate, and we would never hold that against them, but I find it unnecessary for people to complain about others donating for a cause that’s important to them when they’re not expected to do so themselves.

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      spark January 22, 2013, 5:52 pm

      I agree, Lucy. I love the idea of supporting charities and the like on DW, but the this request makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. It’s Wendy’s website, so I’m glad she uses it as a tool to help people, but I just can’t get behind this cause. I’m sure all of us would appreciate extra cash for our playthings, too, so this just doesn’t feel right to me.

      That being said, Wendy, I love your site!

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        jlyfsh January 22, 2013, 6:03 pm

        maybe this is a difference between pet lovers and non pet lovers but my dogs are not playthings, they are members of my family. (canine members, but still members). i would do anything to save them. and i haven’t been where paperheart is, but i’ve definitely struggled financially because of my dogs. when our one dog was diagnosed with epilepsy i definitely have to break out the credit cards because man blood tests and hospital stays and medicine can get pricey (pricier than what your emergency fund for pets probably is!). i was lucky to have options, but it’s kind of nice to know that if i didn’t there might have been people there to help me out (i did have friends offer and my family as well, since my mom calls them her granddogs 😉 and my grandmother did actually donate some to her bills).

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        lets_be_honest January 23, 2013, 9:10 am

        jly, I think you nailed it. If you’re not a animal person, you just don’t get it the same way animal people do!
        Honestly, I’m not an animal person. I have 2 cats, but really they are my kid’s pets. I’ll care for them of course, but I don’t really consider them “family” like so many of you do. So coming from that POV, I think that’s why there was such a divide yesterday.
        That said, everyone has their personal causes and if someone chooses to donate their hard earned money to their cause, no matter what it is, that’s a good thing to do. A lot of people don’t like to give money to homeless people on the street, but does that mean they should tackle someone who is about to hand over a $5?
        Its just a difference of opinion. I found it interesting to hear why people disagreed with giving their money, but they shouldn’t have told others what to do with theirs.

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      • katie

        katie January 22, 2013, 8:18 pm

        Wow, playthings?

        That makes me feel icky…

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        spark January 22, 2013, 9:57 pm

        Playthings: pets, cars, hobbies, etc. I didn’t mean just animals, although my pup (hound/australian shepherd mix) is my favorite plaything!

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        paperheart January 22, 2013, 10:14 pm

        I guess I can see where you’re coming from, Spark, but I would never call my cat (or any animal) a plaything. Pets, to me, are family. I would never put a pet in the same category as a car.

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        jlyfsh January 22, 2013, 10:17 pm

        me either paperheart, me either.

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        camorzilla January 23, 2013, 9:48 am

        Yeah my pets are definitely not “playthings”. My husband and I call our two dogs and cats our “furbabies” (we don’t have any real babies yet).

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        Rachel January 22, 2013, 11:50 pm

        I wouldn’t put a living animal in the same category as a car or hobby.

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        iwannatalktosampson January 23, 2013, 12:02 am

        Yeah I just don’t even know what to say about that. It’s creepy. It’s a living, breathing, feeling, animal. It reminds me of when my MIL won’t take her dogs to the vet when they’re clearly injured/sick because “they’re just dogs – they can walk it off”. One of her dogs CURRENTLY is suffering from an ACL tear. And it’s not at all that they can’t afford it. People like that freak me out.

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    lucy January 22, 2013, 1:45 pm

    Guys – I know no one EXPECTS me to donate. I’m hardly throwing a tantrum here. I’m just saying it feels off.

    You also can’t really compare donating books for kids to soliciting for money for a pet deposit.

    Again, it’s obviously just my opinion, and PH, I am touched for you that people here feel compelled to help you. Different boats, different folks, and all that jazz…

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      MissDre January 22, 2013, 1:52 pm

      So then why comment at all?

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      theattack January 22, 2013, 1:56 pm

      Yup, obviously just different values here. A lot of people value animals and want to help keep them from either being killed or from being separated from its loved ones. To me it’s not somehow a less worthy cause than giving books to children or whatever else.

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    Lynn January 22, 2013, 1:46 pm

    For the record, if you don’t want to donate money – then don’t. No one is forcing you to. When you donate money, you donate it out the generosity of your heart. Sorry, it aggravates me to no end when people complain about donating money or anything else, for whatever cause it may be. I’m in the mindset that you should be generous and charitable with your heart, but to not seek accolades because if you give in secret, your Father will see it in secret and will reward you.

    Besides, you donate a little cash to a heartwarming cause and you save yourself from maybe buying a drink too many at the bar or the greasy fast food you know you don’t really need.

    Off my soapbox now.

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      lets_be_honest January 22, 2013, 1:59 pm

      Your paragraph 2 is a whole new way to look at donations! Hilarious.

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      • lynn

        lynn January 22, 2013, 2:06 pm

        Haha sometimes I’ll give a couple dollars to the people with signs on the street, and friends have asked, “Don’t you think they’re going to go and buy alcohol or something with it?” And I shrug it off and say, “Well… that’s probably what I would’ve done with it had I kept the cash…” 🙂

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    lucy January 22, 2013, 1:48 pm

    one last thing to clarify. i think it bothers me bec/ this “donation” is to help someone have a pet she can’t afford!

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    • Dear Wendy

      Wendy January 22, 2013, 1:52 pm

      Rather than think of it as helping someone have a pet she can’t afford, you could think of it, as I am, as saving a cat’s life.

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      theattack January 22, 2013, 2:00 pm

      It’s not like paperheart is saying “I saw this really cute cat at the pet store that I really want. Can y’all front me the deposit and some food?” I don’t know if you read the thread in the forum, but she thought her cat was being taken care of by her parents (I think she’s in college) only to find out that her mom was going to put the cat down for no real reason. Anyone who’s ever loved a pet can imagine the heartbreak paperheart is experiencing over this.

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  • Dear Wendy

    Wendy January 22, 2013, 1:49 pm

    I also want to say that though it may feel weird or “icky” or uncomfortable or whatever other adjective you want to use here to donate money over the internet to or for people you’ve never met and whose intentions you can’t always confirm, I will continue to host these donation drives because I believe that this is part of what makes a community a community. When one of its members needs help and other members are in a position to offer assistance, that trade of give-and-take benefits everyone. It’s a big block in building community and community is what makes life a little easier for all of us. We may not all know each other offline here, but isn’t it a wonderful feeling to think that if you needed something, you could turn to each other and ask for help and it might just be offered to you? Doesn’t that make some of you feel a little less lonely in a world that can sometimes feel so isolating?

    Sorry if it feels “icky,” but if you don’t wan’t to participate in this part of community-building, or in this specific drive, then don’t. No one expects you to and no one will think any less of anyone else who doesn’t for whatever reason.

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      Amanda January 22, 2013, 1:58 pm

      WWS.

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    • katie

      katie January 22, 2013, 2:19 pm

      yep. ill add, sampson offered to give me something i had mention to her i was without recently… and it does warm your heart.

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        rachel January 22, 2013, 2:23 pm

        Agreed. I had a little pick-me-up given to me from a few DW friends when I was having a hard time, and it was awesomely sweet.

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      • katie

        katie January 22, 2013, 2:24 pm

        aw yea!! planning that was the BEST. haha

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        lets_be_honest January 22, 2013, 2:38 pm

        What was it? If you don’t mind sharing.

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        bethany January 22, 2013, 2:59 pm

        Wait- Where was I for this??

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        rachel January 22, 2013, 3:39 pm

        Oh, it wasn’t like, an official “thing” or anything. Lili, Katie, and a few others sent me some “booze money” when I was jobless and living off my boyfriend. It was such a sweet surprise. 🙂

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      • Moneypenny

        Moneypenny January 22, 2013, 4:00 pm

        That was fun. I felt so stealthy while we were planning it!

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      • katie

        katie January 22, 2013, 4:04 pm

        ha! me too!

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        iwannatalktosampson January 22, 2013, 10:26 pm

        Booze are something I consider a must have. I put it in the need category. So those are causes I’m willing to support. Also animals. That actually sums me up really well. I care about animals and booze.

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        quixoticbeatnik January 23, 2013, 12:03 am

        I love animals and booze too!

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    lucy January 22, 2013, 2:15 pm

    Wendy, as a long time reader I generally agree with your opinions. and I enjoy them when I don’t agree with them! It all makes for a great site. and i like coming to the site every day as it’s interesting. I can see since you started it up how much its come together. and as someone who used to follow u @ the frisky, I was happy to see it form in the way that it has. you’re right; it feels like a community! that’s no easy task and it is really commendable.

    That said, it seems to be a little “holier than though” attitude if some don’t seem to like the idea of donating. You’re NOT just saying don’t donate. you’re framing it in such a way that if I choose not to support donating then i choose not to support the community you’ve nurtured.

    Get off the high horse.

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      rachel January 22, 2013, 2:20 pm

      Wow. I don’t think it is “holier than thou” for Wendy to explain *why* she likes the idea of having donation drives. She’s not saying that you have to donate to support the community, just that a lot of people DO like to donate.

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      jlyfsh January 22, 2013, 2:25 pm

      why say anything at all though? no one is saying you have to donate (nobody knows who did or didn’t donate, unless someone says, money sent!) to be a part of the community. you’re making a point to let everyone know multiple times that you think it’s a bad idea. why? if people want to donate to help someone else out, let them. it’s not like wendy is taking roll call and letting everyone know who is nurturing the community by donating. she’s letting people choose. so if you choose not to donate don’t, but is it necessary to multiple times let it be know you think it’s icky? and like someone above said we’ve always donated to people’s personal causes (even when they are for a group of some sort. supported by a member) it’s a cause someone in the community brings up. just because you agreed with those and not this one doesn’t make it any less valid.

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      MissDre January 22, 2013, 2:27 pm

      Actually I think you’re the one on the high horse, talking about how it “feels off” and it’s “icky” and continually asserting that you don’t want to donate. Guess what, nobody cares if you don’t want to donate! And nobody would have ever even noticed if you hadn’t said anything at all! I’m sorry that you feel like we’re shaming you for not donating, but your negative comments about this fundraiser are equal to shaming everyone else and shaming Paperheart. Lots of people here think it’s a great cause. If you’re not interested, why did you have to make a negative comment to put it down?

      This isn’t an opinion column or somebody asking for advice. It’s a fundraiser. So, I think this is one of those situations where “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”

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    • FireStar

      FireStar January 22, 2013, 2:33 pm

      Life is choices sunshine. Donate – don’t donate – who cares? I don’t read judgement into it at all. Traffic to this site is I’m sure In the thousand whereas only a handful I’m sure actually donate. It is a community – which means diversity. Participate in a positive way – giving an opinion, offering insight, making a joke, furthering a discussion -giving a security deposit if you want. Surely you don’t feel pressure from random people online you can avoid by minimizing your browser? I’ve given money in the past but I choose not to now and I don’t feel pressured in the slightest.

      So who exactly was on that horse again?

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      lets_be_honest January 22, 2013, 2:35 pm

      I didn’t take it that way. Reread the explanation. I didn’t feel compelled to donate because of her explanation, or that I was not supporting the community.

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        lets_be_honest January 22, 2013, 2:38 pm

        I replied before seeing everyone else had. I hope this lovely sentiment does not turn into a huge argument between commenters. Come on guys. She shared her opinion, which we all do on here. Just because her opinion had to do with DW and not an LW doesn’t mean everyone should freak out. If she felt pressured, she felt that way, doesn’t mean Wendy actually made her feel that way and all of us know that.

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        FireStar January 22, 2013, 2:49 pm

        I thought her other comments were fair – until the high horse one. She is entitled to an opinion – she isn’t entitled to lashing out because others didn’t agree with her.

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        lets_be_honest January 22, 2013, 2:53 pm

        Yea, I agree. She shouldn’t have said that, but what’s that dumb line, 2 wrongs don’t make a right.

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        FireStar January 22, 2013, 3:21 pm

        True. But words, like actions, have consequences.

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        lets_be_honest January 22, 2013, 3:29 pm

        I agree. I only piped in because I didn’t think this was the place for getting into an argument, regardless of who started it. Its a donation page.
        But I get off track on here all the time, so who am I to say that I guess.

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      Skyblossom January 22, 2013, 2:48 pm

      This strikes me as really rude. There has been absolutely no pressure on anyone to donate and no pressure to click the link in the first place. There is no list of donors posted so no pressure at all to be one of the group. Try moving on to a page you like better.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Wendy January 22, 2013, 2:49 pm

      Wow, really did not see that coming. I’m just trying to help people help someone who is in a desperate situation, mostly because I am a cat-lover and hate the thought of a cat being put down or go homeless when there’s a loving home for it to go to. I’m sorry if the way I worded my defense against your pointless “icky” comment came across as holier than thou. I didn’t mean to be holier than thou at all. I can certainly understand why someone might not want to donate to this cause or to any cause over the internet. What I don’t understand is why you had to even comment about it at all. Don’t want to donate? Fine, don’t! Who cares?! But calling me out like you have now is just … weird and frankly, really kind of mean. There’s no high horse here… except maybe the one you’re on.

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  • Dear Wendy

    Wendy January 22, 2013, 2:19 pm

    Thanks to everyone who has donated so far. We’re up to $170. Still need at $130 for the deposit, and $40 for the vet appt., plus a bit more for food. Paperheart, I would also urge you to go to your local animal/cat shelter, explain the situation, and ask if they have a program for low-income cat owners to get help with food and maybe even vet costs. When I volunteered at a cat shelter in Chicago for a few years we had a “food pantry” for pet owners who couldn’t afford to buy food for whatever reason and would have no choice but to put their cats down or take them to a shelter if not for the assistance they received.

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      MissDre January 22, 2013, 2:21 pm

      I can donate more when I get paid next week, if the fundraiser is still going on then.

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    • paperheart

      paperheart January 22, 2013, 2:26 pm

      Thank you for all the help, Wendy! I’ll get in touch with the local shelters and see if they offer anything like that.

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        kerrycontrary January 22, 2013, 4:04 pm

        My county offered vouchers to get reduced price spay/neuter surgery and my vet gave me instructions on how to access it. Look at your county’s website to see if they have anything as well. Some counties do free “vet-mobile” days. Could you offer to pay your apartment complex in installments? Or just add the price to your monthly rent so you could pay it slowly?

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      ChemE January 22, 2013, 2:33 pm

      I just sent some. Does it make me a bad person that without much thought will donate for pets and animal shelters but hesitate when it comes to people? Apparently I like cats better than people.

      And good luck PH, I hope things work out for you and you can budget appropriately for future expenses. (And don’t let cats eat the elastic hair-ties, mine has had surgery twice to remove them from her system and it’s not cheap) Give the cat some ear scratches from me 🙂

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        MissDre January 22, 2013, 2:43 pm

        I’m the same way. I can also read about horrible things happening to people and/or children in the news and think Oh god that’s horrible! But when it comes to animal abuse/cruelty, I feel ill and have to turn off the tv or close the browser. I’m not sure why I feel so affected by animals. Perhaps because I’m a pet owner but not a parent.

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        jlyfsh January 22, 2013, 2:45 pm

        Like the awful Sarah McLachlan commercials? I cannot watch those.

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        katie January 22, 2013, 2:48 pm

        my boyfriend makes me change the channel… lol. every. single. time.

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        MissDre January 22, 2013, 2:53 pm

        Same.

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        megalicious January 22, 2013, 3:35 pm

        Mine too! And he’ll go “no no no!” really loud to drown out the sound of the commercial while looking away until we can find the remote to change it.

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        katie January 22, 2013, 3:50 pm

        MINE TOO!! he will block his view of the tv and talk loudly or something… haha

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        jlyfsh January 22, 2013, 3:53 pm

        i do the same thing, haha. or hug one of my dogs until they manage to get away and give me the, girl you’re crazy look.

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        Taylor January 22, 2013, 9:24 pm

        Yep. The commercial popped up on an ep of Modern Family, where all 3 Dunphy ladies were watching it and crying. Brutal!

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        ChemE January 22, 2013, 2:59 pm

        I can’t watch those or I cry every frickin time.

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      • paperheart

        paperheart January 22, 2013, 3:03 pm

        I promise to spam y’all with tons of links to pictures of her when I have her here with me and can take pictures! And I will definitely give her tons of love from all of her DW friends 🙂

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        Imsostartled January 22, 2013, 3:54 pm

        Squeeeee!!!! I was going to ask if we could have a picture when you get her, but I didn’t want to be intrusive or demanding. But I love cat pictures and it would make my day to see one that we helped. 🙂

        Can we know her name? Or can you give us a “nick-name” or a fake name if you feel uncomfortable with that? That way when my husband asks me what I did today, I can be like “We helped Mittens get reunited with her owner.” Then he’ll be “You did that at your work?!” So then I’ll have to say… “No at Dear Wendy!” Then he’ll sigh…

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        katie January 22, 2013, 4:02 pm

        GOD we are dating the same person….

        but, yes, i want to know her name too! my little picture is of Zoe, who is my anxiety cat. that is her lemur pose which cracks me up, but really means that she is terrified of some random noise that just happened somewhere and she is about to run away…

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        paperheart January 22, 2013, 4:14 pm

        Do you want to know an embarrassing secret? The first time I saw your picture, I only glanced at it and I thought it was an ice-cream cone. Of course, it’s a kitty, and it doesn’t look anything like an ice-cream cone, but my brain likes to play tricks on me, sometimes…:)

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        katie January 22, 2013, 4:20 pm

        ha! thats hilarious!

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        AliceInDairyland January 22, 2013, 4:54 pm

        Katie I always think your picture is of a snowman… then I stop and realize it’s a kittycat

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        katie January 22, 2013, 4:56 pm

        haha, well… its a cat in snowman form, so your not *techinically* wrong, right?

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        MeggiePie January 23, 2013, 3:44 pm

        Up until you said this, I always thought it was a chess piece, so…there’s that.

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        paperheart January 22, 2013, 4:12 pm

        Her name is Fiona! And no, she wasn’t named after “Shrek” haha. She came along before that 🙂

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    titian January 22, 2013, 2:41 pm

    AAAAAHHH – I just donated but forgot to put “Paperheart” in the subject line. I sent it at 3.38 pm Atlantic Standard time.

    Wendy, I hope you can figure it out from my email address!

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      Addie Pray January 22, 2013, 2:52 pm

      Funny, I just donated at 3.38 pm Atlantic Standard time too! Wendy, it was me, I swear. ….

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        Addie Pray January 22, 2013, 2:58 pm

        ^ Oh come on people, that was super funny! ^

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      • Dear Wendy

        Wendy January 22, 2013, 3:13 pm

        I thought you hated cats! 😉

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        Addie Pray January 22, 2013, 3:28 pm

        d’oh! busted.

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      • katie

        katie January 22, 2013, 3:31 pm

        you just havent met mine yet…. haha

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      Wendy January 22, 2013, 2:54 pm

      Yep, thanks!

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    sarolabelle January 22, 2013, 2:54 pm

    Hey Wendy, I donated but I didn’t see a “subject line” through the paypal link. I wrote it in the message though. If you can please confirm that you got it either by email or a comment here.

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      sarolabelle January 22, 2013, 2:58 pm

      I just got your email….now I know you got it! 🙂 YAY!

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    • Dear Wendy

      Wendy January 22, 2013, 3:14 pm

      I emailed you. Every one who donates should get a confirmation/thank you from me. If you don’t, please let me know.

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        ChemE January 22, 2013, 4:17 pm

        I don’t believe I did. 🙁

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        Wendy January 22, 2013, 7:08 pm

        Have you still not?

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    AliceInDairyland January 22, 2013, 3:47 pm

    I donated, and here is a picture of one of my little ladies staring off into the distance… hoping you manage to reach your goal. 🙂 Fingers crossed for you and your kitty, definitely call around to all the nearby shelters about vet care.

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      lets_be_honest January 22, 2013, 3:52 pm

      What an intelligent looking cat. Does he/she have a cigar pipe? Looks like it should.

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        AliceInDairyland January 22, 2013, 4:59 pm

        I called her “The Most Interesting Cat In The World” after I took that. If only she had a cigar…

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      jlyfsh January 22, 2013, 3:54 pm

      such a cute cat!!

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    • paperheart

      paperheart January 22, 2013, 4:16 pm

      She’s adorable! And thank you! 🙂 Side note – I would love to give y’all a picture of her, how would I go about doing that?

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        AliceInDairyland January 22, 2013, 4:57 pm

        you could send one to Wendy, or post here or on the forums with the code

        [ img ] urlofpicture [ / img ]

        minus the spaces, and you can upload a picture somewhere like photo bucket or tinypic

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      theattack January 22, 2013, 4:17 pm

      Aww, she’s so adorable!! I didn’t know you could put sweaters on cats. I also didn’t know you could post pictures to DearWendy.

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      • katie

        katie January 22, 2013, 4:35 pm

        i would kill to be able to put clothes on my cats… i bought them festive collar things for christmas, and zoe acted like she was being attacked by the air, and leo just tried to bite his off. i was so sad.

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        paperheart January 22, 2013, 4:39 pm

        My cat won’t even wear a regular collar. She chews them off somehow.

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      bethany January 22, 2013, 4:41 pm

      HOw did you do that?? I love your cat!

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        AliceInDairyland January 22, 2013, 4:56 pm

        to insert (cat) pictures:

        [ img ] urlofyourpicture [ / img ]

        minus the spaces, I used tinypic for the pictures. And thanks everyone! Lilah did not enjoy the sweater the first time, but then they both wandered around and posed like champs in them. 🙂

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        lets_be_honest January 22, 2013, 5:08 pm

        My daughter dresses up our cats. Once I thought I was crazy, but I swore one of them (the boy) smelled like perfume, so I asked if she had sprayed the boy cat with perfume. “No mom, that would be crazy. I only put perfume on the girl cat.” Poor cats, they do seem to love her though.

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  • bittergaymark

    bittergaymark January 22, 2013, 4:49 pm

    Well, this thread got interesting. Look everybody…if you want to save the cat? Then by all means do!

    I am going on the record as saying that threads like this certainly don’t irk me one way or another. But then, you all must surely know by now how guarded and reserved I am about ever putting forth my own humble opinions… Truth be told, I can’t donate right now as my life is a bit of a financial mess. But I certainly don’t begrudge anybody out there who feels that saving even one very specific cat is a good cause. (Hey, it is. And frankly, I don’t even LIKE cats…)

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    • Cara

      Cara January 22, 2013, 6:29 pm

      Well, there’s our next money drive idea…. ^^

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    Trixy Minx January 22, 2013, 4:59 pm

    Paperheart your apt complex may spread out the deposit to help you out. I paid $100 extra in rent for three months for my dog’s deposit. That way you can get your cat sooner. 🙂

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  • paperheart

    paperheart January 22, 2013, 5:06 pm

    Here’s a picture of my sweet Fiona, since a few of you asked 🙂
    Thanks, AliceInDairyland, for telling us how to do it!

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      paperheart January 22, 2013, 5:07 pm

      Oh goodness, that turned out huge…sorry about that.

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      • CatsMeow

        CatsMeow January 22, 2013, 5:39 pm

        Aww! Her face reminds me of my childhood cat, Muffin (I named her when I was 6).

        ANNNND now I want to cover the comments in cat pictures.

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      Addie Pray January 22, 2013, 5:28 pm

      Gasp, I just heard the cat mumble, “If I could, I would kill you.” Did anyone else hear it??!!

      I have been nutty ALL DAY.

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      • paperheart

        paperheart January 22, 2013, 5:34 pm

        Haha AP, that’s possible. She always looks mad in pictures. Probably because she hates having a camera in her face.

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        Trixy Minx January 22, 2013, 7:43 pm

        I heard it too! kept saying we are all going after Addie. Addie. Addie. cats can be creepy.

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      rachel January 22, 2013, 5:32 pm

      Aw, she’s cute!

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      AliceInDairyland January 22, 2013, 6:00 pm

      Yay! You are welcome, I should have mentioned I resized it on tinypic because mine too was gigantic at first. She looks lovely, and I am glad to hear she will end up somewhere safe and loved. 🙂

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      Bethany January 22, 2013, 8:05 pm

      Wow… She’s pretty!

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    Heather January 22, 2013, 5:13 pm

    I’m happy to help a cat. How we treat the least of us is a true indication of who we are.

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      Addie Pray January 22, 2013, 5:15 pm

      Is this the Heather who is kicking my ass in WWF? Not treating me very well…. a true indication of who you really are…. a mean WWF player! 😉

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        HmC January 22, 2013, 6:20 pm

        Nope that would be me! hehe… you’re not too shabby though AP. 😉

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      Heather January 22, 2013, 7:05 pm

      its not me AP!

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    quixoticbeatnik January 22, 2013, 5:47 pm

    Just donated! I love cats. I actually just volunteered at a no-kill animal shelter where I spent two hours petting cats. It’s the best volunteer experience ever. I get to socialize with cats for two hours!! I signed up for four more shifts after my first one, haha. I also put in an application to be a foster, so hopefully that works out! I always feel so bad for the cats because they obviously crave so much love and attention…I feel bad leaving them. I wish I could take them all home with me! I’ll adopt a cat when I get a full-time job, hopefully in August/September. An older cat, because I want to give an older cat a chance! I wish they could all be adopted right now! There are too many cats in shelters who don’t have homes and it breaks my heart so much. Thanks for doing this Wendy!

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  • Cara

    Cara January 22, 2013, 6:32 pm

    Why do these things always end so quickly? I mean, I couldn’t have donated this time anyway, but this community is so damn fast in raising money, it’s ridiculous.

    Also, is EVERYONE, except BGM, here a cat person? I’ll go to my doggie corner…

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    • katie

      katie January 22, 2013, 6:43 pm

      They ended too quickly for me both times near Christmas! It’s crazy!

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    • iwannatalktosampson

      iwannatalktosampson January 22, 2013, 7:11 pm

      I know I’m so ashamed I brought up the donation thing and then by the time I got off work it was over! So I’m the girl who cried donation and then didn’t even donate!! I’m the worst.

      I am definitely a huge dog person and I don’t really even like cats – but the thought of an animal being murdered because they’re an “inconvenience” makes my skin crawl.

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      • paperheart

        paperheart January 22, 2013, 7:15 pm

        You are SOOOO not the worst! Without you, this whole thing probably wouldn’t have happened! Donation or not, Thank you! 🙂

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      jlyfsh January 22, 2013, 7:55 pm

      another dog person! 😉

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      • paperheart

        paperheart January 22, 2013, 8:02 pm

        Is it okay that I’m a cat AND dog person? Is that socially acceptable? Honestly, I’d never be able to choose between them. I think I’m just an ANIMAL person. Haha

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        jlyfsh January 22, 2013, 8:05 pm

        yes it’s fine, i’m more of a dog person because of allergies. but i pretty much love all animals too! 🙂

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  • Imsostartled

    Imsostartled January 22, 2013, 6:41 pm

    My sweet Rowena Ravenkitty! 😀 She likes to sleep on us ALL the time.

    IMO this is the best cause! I am such a crazy cat person, I now realize.

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      paperheart January 22, 2013, 7:08 pm

      She’s adorable! 🙂

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      Taylor January 22, 2013, 9:29 pm

      Awesome name! I don’t suppose you have a Godwin Gryffindoggy? That would make me seriously happy =)

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  • katie

    katie January 22, 2013, 6:42 pm

    Yay we did it!!!

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    Flgirl711 January 22, 2013, 7:21 pm

    Aww this make me so happy the goal was reached. I was only able to donate a small amount as I got laid off and today was my last day. But today was crapppy and it makes me smile that there are nice people out there to come together to help paperhearts kitty.

    And people like Lucy and other commenters- don’t you know the saying, if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all…? Keep scrolling past. Trolls like you suck. One thing to bitch about a dumb LW but this is an innocent animal people wanted to help.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Wendy January 22, 2013, 7:31 pm

      I don’t Lucy is a troll, but it was an odd thing that she called this drive “icky” (I mean, FINE, if you think that, but why say that when you know the intention is good and people are trying to do right by an innocent animal)? And it was hella rude to say I was on a high horse after I defended myself against the “icky” comment. But maybe she was having a bad day or something.

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      GatorGirl January 23, 2013, 8:17 am

      Have you found another job yet?? How’s all of this shaking out? (Have you looked at Disney in desperation yet?)

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        flgirl711 January 23, 2013, 5:08 pm

        Yeah, I dunno if troll was the right word but I just enjoy using it when people seem to like getting attention from their nasty remarks and post over and over. But some of the comments were so unpleasant when this was done with such good intentions and nice feelings to save the life of a cat!

        @GatorGirl Nope, no job yet. I’m going back for a second interview later this week and hoping that plays out. Its a workers comp job that I really want! So fingers crossed 🙂

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  • bittergaymark

    bittergaymark January 22, 2013, 7:26 pm

    Damn, that was fast.

    This keeps up, it may soon be time to hit up everybody with my own fundraising drive. Yes, tragedy has struck my world, too, I am sad to say. See, I have a jade plant that has been with me well over a decade now, but it suddenly seems to be on its last legs… I never talk about this much, as I know it sounds absurd — but I am a plant whisperer. Plants speak to me. And this plant’s dying wish is that its wilted remains be brought to Machu Picchu for an ancient Incan cremation ceremony…

    😉

    I kid, I kid. I am genuinely happy for the cat and am quite moved by all this…

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      Bethany January 22, 2013, 8:09 pm

      The day I killed my jade plant was a sad, sad day…

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      • bittergaymark

        bittergaymark January 22, 2013, 9:44 pm

        You probably overwatered it. Jade’s hard to kill. My jade plant is actually alive and well… Just testing the waters…

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    Taylor January 22, 2013, 9:31 pm

    3 cheers to you DW’ers, y’all rock!

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    vale January 23, 2013, 5:21 am

    It appears I am a little late to the party. I don’t think anyone can compare asking for money for books to give to children vs asking for money for a deposit. It’s not about the cat, it’s about how you phrased it. What did the cat eat at your parent’s house? Couldn’t they help with the food? Did you try to at least cover some part of the expenses? Or at least offer to give the people that donated their money back (even if that took some time)?
    Wendy, I do not mind any kind of money raisers on this site and it is a very nice thing that you did and would have helped with the cause if paperheart would have tried to do anything on her own, not just ask for the money.

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      heather January 23, 2013, 7:16 am

      Paperheart didn’t ask for the money. Others in the forum asked Wendy to start a drive so that they could donate to Paperheart.
      And it’s extremely rude to act as if you know Paperheart hasn’t done anything like you know her personally.

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      jlyfsh January 23, 2013, 8:26 am

      Did you read the forum paperheart started? And she did not ask Wendy to do this. Like Heather said other people read the forum and said, Wendy I really love my cat and can’t imagine someone going through this can you accept donations for paperheart?

      And if you read some of the above comments paperheart let everyone know she would give the refundable portion of the deposit to a no kill animal shelter. I mean what animal lover is going to say no not good enough to that? And honestly I would love to know if anyone has actually ever got their pet deposit back and how they did it because most of the time they keep that money!

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  • Fabelle

    Fabelle January 23, 2013, 8:11 am

    Yay, this makes me happy! Awesome job, everybody 🙂

    And paperheart, your kitty is adorable!

    AND how weird is it that some people are offended by this? It’s not like “oh, I can’t make rent this month…I need money!” It’s about getting a poor cat out of a home where she’d be destined for death (even typing that makes me sad).

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    Anna January 23, 2013, 10:49 am

    I’m really glad this worked out! And I don’t think it’s the least bit icky. I’m an animal lover myself, although I consider myself more of a dog person than a cat person. If I weren’t so broke right now I would have donated. But as it is, I’m struggling to afford groceries, student loans, and my $200+ electric bill since it’s 7 degrees in Ohio with -10 wind chill.

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    MsMisery January 23, 2013, 1:17 pm

    That was so fast!!! Cat ladies unite, indeed 🙂

    And I worry about silly things like, what would I do with my cat if the zombies rose? I am glad we could help an actual lady with an actual problem.

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