MATT: Did he buy the slinkie-lover something made of slinky fabric? Is he hiding the candy in his crotch and asking his boss to hunt for it? Did you catch him with a bear? These, dear reader, would be legitimate sources for concern. Otherwise, it sounds like you have a sweet dude on your hands — a dude who understands that women (and men) enjoy tokens of appreciation and thoughtfulness. Now, if he isn’t buying shit for you, well, that could be an issue. Or maybe you don’t care about that kind of thing, hmmm? If this is the case, well I can’t help you—but I don’t think his kindness should be wasted on someone who doesn’t appreciate it. Sooooo…I need the following: a silver iPod shuffle, a cordless power drill, and some new underwear (Adidas athletic brief, 32 waist, or medium, with the comfort waist band). Oh…and have him pick up some Junior Mints also…I just love those.
ERIK: I wouldn’t be worried. I mean, you said yourself that he’s not interested in them. I understand why this might seem odd; not a lot of men are the random gift-giving type, but this guy seems to enjoy that feeling of accomplishment that accompanies getting someone a really thoughtful little somethin’-somethin’. If he were giving lots of personalized gifts to one woman, it may be something to talk about, but given your letter he just sounds like a really swell guy.
ALEX: He gave a gift in thanks for a gift? Candy for the woman who keeps him employed? Sounds like his mother taught him well, and little gestures like this can be good politics in the workplace. He is upfront with you regarding this gift-giving, and hopefully you aren’t the only woman missing out on his generosity. After all, the slinky was just a toy and not the description for a nightgown.
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