Initially, before we met up, he had told me he was willing to move to Canada if we got along just as well in person as we did online. I guess that’s why I was willing to meet him in the first place, because I knew there was no point falling for someone I could never be with in the long run. Now it’s been two months since I’ve been back home, and he’s been saying lately he doesn’t even want to live here for a few months, let alone the rest of his life. This is really hard on me, since I’m so attached, and I’ve been starting to say that I guess I’d move there to be with him. The thing is, I really don’t want to leave my family; Plus, I just started school, and I always thought that if I were to move, it would be after my graduation.
I guess my question is: what do I do now? I really don’t want to break up with him. I don’t even know how to let go of someone I feel so strongly for, and I don’t know how to live my life without him. — Long Distance Devastation
Of course you know how to live your life without him. That’s exactly what you were doing until two and half years ago — even until five months ago, which is when you first met him in person. Breaking up is never easy, but if you don’t see a future with him — and you only would if you’re willing to pick up and move your whole life to Australia (which I absolutely do not recommend doing if you are in any way on the fence about it!) — you need to MOA. It’ll hurt, but you’ll get over it … and then you’ll leave yourself open to meet someone who is more available to you. Why continue investing in someone who’s made it clear he isn’t willing to make an equal investment?
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