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How Did You Spend Your Wedding Night?


My wedding night was lots of fun, but not in the, ahem, traditional sense. We got married earlier in the day and had a subdued lunchtime reception at a Manhattan restaurant a few blocks from our place. Afterward, we went home, changed out of our wedding attire, read some of our wedding cards, took a long nap, did some other stuff, and then got ready for our after-party.

While our wedding was intimate and subdued, our after-celebration was a big ol’ house party with great food, music, awesome friends, and lotsa booze. We opened our apartment and the roof of our building β€” much to our landlord’s chagrin β€” to all our favorite people and then some. I was stoked that so many of my Chicago pals could make it to NYC for the big day (remember, Drew and I had been long distance and I’d moved from Chicago a year and a half before we were married, so most of my best friends were still there) and they were all excited to get a weekend together in NYC. People were ready to celebrate. Debauchery was in the air.


The end of the night is hazy in my memory, but I do remember waking the morning after my wedding night fully dressed, on our couch, with my makeup still on and my contacts stuck to my eyeballs. Romance!!
So, I’m curious: how did you spend your wedding night? Was it as sexay and classy as mine?

More drunk wedding night pics after the jump.



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mandalee mandalee April 30, 2014, 2:07 pm

Wendy, you look amazing in that dress! And your wedding night sounds like so much fun! The night of our legal ceremony at the courthouse, we got very drunk at some towny bar on a Wednesday night. I woke up still dressed and drunk at like 1am ate a bunch of grapes for some reason and instantly regretted in the morning. It’s one of the few memories that stick out about that night still lol On our big family ceremony/reception night, we sat up all night in our hotel room with our college friends and just talked, drank and laughed since it was the first time we were altogether since graduate. Both funny and amazing nights, but both times were not fun in the “traditional sense” haha

Fabelle Fabelle April 30, 2014, 2:17 pm

Aw Wendy, I love this!!

katie katie April 30, 2014, 2:23 pm

looove the drunk after party pics. love them.

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 2:30 pm

The after parties are always the best, aren’t they?
I have no wedding night story to share πŸ™ so I’ll steal from someone else’s wedding…I attended the wedding without a date and stayed in the hotel that night alone, which was awesome (I usually am never alone). So early the next morning, I’m in the middle of a big ass bed all comfy and dreaming, and there’s banging at the door. It my newlywed friends who are shouting, at like 7am, its Mr. & Mrs. SoandSo! I wanted to kill them, but opened the door anyway and we all hung out in our PJs and smoked and had champagne. It was awesome and one of my favorite pictures ever is of the 3 of us that morning looking like hot messes.

GatorGirl GatorGirl April 30, 2014, 2:30 pm

Wendy, those pictures are amazing.
After our reception “officially” ended, we sat around in the tent (everything was at my paresnts) and drank the left over champagne (and beer) with family and friends. We opened a few gift/cards, and eventually decided to head to our hotel. Before leaving, my bff from college sat down on my parents porch and yelled “Who’s sleeping with me tonight??!!” It was hysterical. Then my brother took us to the hotel, and we carried a trash can full of ice and beer through the back door and into our room. Oh, that was only after bff and GGuy’s friend tried to get a hotel room and the only one not claimed was our honeymoon suite. So we finally checked in and then had about 10 people hang out till 3 am, drinking left over beer. The next day was rough. (And we definitely did not “do some other stuff” that night. haha)

avatar sarolabelle April 30, 2014, 2:30 pm

We attempted to have sex. Didn’t really succeed in the ultimate goal. Cried. That’s what I get for being a 31 year old virgin….

katie katie April 30, 2014, 2:33 pm

i have decided that if i ever get married im having morning sex before the day starts, because that is the best sex anyway. night sex is not my favorite, and its absolutely not my favorite after an exhausting day. morning sex ftw!

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 2:37 pm


katie katie April 30, 2014, 2:40 pm

i know right? how is that not on every wedding advice list ever?

muchachaenlaventana muchachaenlaventana April 30, 2014, 3:02 pm

IDK the morning of my sister’s wedding was like go-go-go. Her wedding was at 1 so we had like 9:30 AM hair appointments, and then getting ready, and doing make up, and then photos at our house with all the bridesmaids/bride/my parents an hour before and then the limo got us etc… so maybe if it is an evening wedding it is more feasible?

Portia Portia April 30, 2014, 3:06 pm

Oof! I’m not waking up early to get ready for my wedding.

GatorGirl GatorGirl April 30, 2014, 3:09 pm

I woke up at like 6am with excitement on our wedding day. And for my SILs wedding I woke up at 5am! 5am!!!

avatar bethany April 30, 2014, 3:17 pm

I woke up at like 5am, went on a walk on the beach in the rain and proceeded to start crying hysterically and had a full mental breakdown. I eventually went and sat on the porch of a vacant rental house and cried for like an hour. It was good times. My friends thought I ran away, because they woke up and I was gone.

GatorGirl GatorGirl April 30, 2014, 3:27 pm

That’s pretty awesome! I ended up bossing around a bunch of people trying to finalize the tent/reception area set up. I will totally advocate for paying someone to set up wedding stuff in the future.

avatar kerrycontrary April 30, 2014, 3:45 pm

Oh yeh, I am SO glad we have a coordinator. All I have to do is drop things off the wednesday before the wedding and it should be all set up once I get there. Totally worth it.

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 3:43 pm

Aww why were you crying?

avatar bethany April 30, 2014, 3:56 pm

All the stress from everything (the wedding almost not happening because of the hurricane and all the complications that came with it) just finally hit me. I needed some sort of physical release, I guess. I was literally hysterical from about 5am until noon or so. I couldn’t even speak.

Looking back it was a little funny- like I’m wandering around a deserted, flooded beach town in my PJs in the pouring rain, while my friends are out driving around looking for me. Then I finally showed up and they dropped me off at the Inn where we got married (and the rest of my family was), and I couldn’t talk or eat or do anything. I just went to my room and cried. I called my MOH to see if I could see Dave when I picked her up to get her hair done, because I thought that would help, but then he ended up being out surfing… Once I got to the salon I stopped crying, and then oddly everything was fine and I had an amazing day!

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 3:58 pm

Oh man. That’s a long time to cry bethany πŸ™
I totally remember the stress with leading up to it.

muchachaenlaventana muchachaenlaventana April 30, 2014, 4:01 pm

@Bethany- Sanderling Inn?

avatar bethany April 30, 2014, 4:06 pm

Inn on Pamilco Sound in Buxton on Hatteras Island.

muchachaenlaventana muchachaenlaventana April 30, 2014, 4:14 pm

so beautiful!

avatar kerrycontrary April 30, 2014, 3:21 pm

I’m sure I’ll wake up early from excitement. My plan is to take my dog for a walk (alone) so I can have some peace and quiet. Then eat breakfast, shower, and go to the hair salon at 11. I’m actually excited to not see my fiance all day until the walk down the aisle!

muchachaenlaventana muchachaenlaventana April 30, 2014, 3:33 pm

Are you doing a first look?

avatar kerrycontrary April 30, 2014, 3:40 pm

Nope! I wanted to but my fiance is really against it. He wants “that moment” (which he would still have with the first look).

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 4:05 pm

Will he cry? I hope he cries. I love the criers.

avatar kerrycontrary April 30, 2014, 4:17 pm

Nope he’s not a crier. Actually, neither of us happy cry. Like I did not cry when he proposed. But if you put on a goddamn aspca commerical I will be ugly crying in a second.

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 4:20 pm

Is it possible to somehow arrange to have him watch the aspca commercial immediately before walking out to see you walk down the aisle? I need to know there will be tears.

Portia Portia April 30, 2014, 4:01 pm

What’s a “first look”?

muchachaenlaventana muchachaenlaventana April 30, 2014, 4:02 pm

Before the ceremony, the bride and groom get a first look at one another, removed from the ceremony. It is a newer thing, more private I guess and a good photo op.

Portia Portia April 30, 2014, 4:56 pm

Ah, cool. Thanks muchacha!

avatar kerrycontrary April 30, 2014, 3:06 pm

We’re not going to stay together the night before, otherwise that would be good advice. I wanted to sleep at my parents one last time. Another consideration–my sister wanted to sleep alone so she got really good sleep.

GatorGirl GatorGirl April 30, 2014, 2:40 pm

Afternoon sex the next day is pretty good too.

LlamaPajamas LlamaPajamas April 30, 2014, 2:41 pm

Sorry, Sarolabelle – I hope it got better for you! @Katie – I’ve been trying to decide how I want to spend my wedding morning! Part of me wants to spend the night before the wedding with my fiancΓ© at his mom’s house since a) that’s where we got engaged, and b) I think it’d be really fun to wake up together on our wedding day and then spend the morning having breakfast and getting all dressed up with him (I’m not doing the whole “the groom can’t see the bride before the ceremony” thing). But I also want to spend the night before the wedding with my sister so we can drink champagne and be silly together since we rarely see each other anymore (we live really far apart). Llama Guy thinks I should spend the night with my sister doing fun sister things, so that’s probably what I’ll do. He and I can still get ready together. We’re staying at the same hotel as our out-of-town guests on our wedding night so hopefully we’ll get to hang out and drink with them more after the reception!

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 2:43 pm

I think you should spend it with your sister too. That sounds sweet.

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 2:54 pm

I change my vote to your sister and me.

GatorGirl GatorGirl April 30, 2014, 2:48 pm

I would spend it with your sister!

Portia Portia April 30, 2014, 2:54 pm

I vote sister too! That sounds really fun.

LlamaPajamas LlamaPajamas April 30, 2014, 2:57 pm

That was easy! I’ll be spending the night before my wedding with my sister and LBH! We’re going to have so much fun!

LlamaPajamas LlamaPajamas April 30, 2014, 2:58 pm

And before Addie has a chance to get jealous, I’ll invite her to my wedding night! Just kidding, that’d be really weird.

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 3:04 pm

YAY! I will bring snacks, champagne, porn and chapstick.

Portia Portia April 30, 2014, 3:28 pm

Essentials for any good party.

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 3:56 pm

Oh my god, I almost forget body glitter!

LlamaPajamas LlamaPajamas April 30, 2014, 3:58 pm

It’s cool if you forget to bring your own, we’ll have plenty to share.

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 4:05 pm

I really want to do this now. I’m sad this isn’t real.

LlamaPajamas LlamaPajamas April 30, 2014, 10:15 pm

Me too, LBH. Me too.

muchachaenlaventana muchachaenlaventana April 30, 2014, 3:05 pm

Spend it with your sister…but make sure she doesn’t do what I did which was get her so drunk on champagne she had to be assisted up the steps of our house to put on her dress and makeup. HA my dad was not too amused at that one.

LlamaPajamas LlamaPajamas April 30, 2014, 3:51 pm

I’ll remember that! Especially since we both love champagne and I’ll be doing my own hair and makeup.

katie Katie April 30, 2014, 3:22 pm

….why dont you all hang out with eah other and drink champagne? It doesn’t have to be couple bubble or nothing!

lemongrass lemongrass April 30, 2014, 3:22 pm

I spent the night before my wedding with my sister. We stayed at my wedding night hotel room and it was really nice. I woke up before her so I took a long relaxing bath and it was awesome.

avatar _s_ May 1, 2014, 11:58 am

Go for it. I actually spent the night before my wedding day with my mom in her hotel room. My then-fiance and I lived together already and it seemed weird to me to spend our pre-wedding night at home with him (plus if I woke up at home he’d see me on our wedding day! gasp! horror!) – also my mom and I don’t live in the same city so she was in from out of town and I don’t get to see her that often. My mom and I are good friends, so it was cool to have a “last night before I get married” night with her. I think we just talked most of the night!

Portia Portia April 30, 2014, 3:04 pm

I’m a big fan of morning sex too, that sounds like a fantastic idea!

avatar ktfran April 30, 2014, 3:49 pm

Yep. I”m a huge fan of morning sex. I would gladly show up to work a little late for some fun before I start the day. Granted, I like night sex too. But I love morning sex.

avatar Jessibel5 April 30, 2014, 3:50 pm

We went back to hour hotel room before the dinner reception and did it, because we knew we’d be tired afterwards. I was also changing out of my wedding dress and he was insistent that he get to debauch the wedding dress.

avatar SpaceySteph April 30, 2014, 6:03 pm

Husband and I stayed at hotel for our wedding from Thursday night til Sunday morning for our Saturday night wedding. We had separate hotel rooms because his parents are traditional, but I slept in his room Thursday night and we had Friday morning sex. Then I didn’t sleep in his room Friday night or see him much day of wedding (boys had boy things to do, I had hair to get done… but we had to trade car keys a couple times based on who had to drive where when).

We did have sex after our wedding but it was kinda forced and lame because we were both drunk and exhausted and just wanted to go to bed.

iwannatalktosampson iwannatalktosampson April 30, 2014, 2:55 pm

Sarolabelle you win the award for saddest wedding day story ever.

avatar sarolabelle April 30, 2014, 3:31 pm

Wedding day was great! Wedding night…..not so much! πŸ™‚

avatar Wendy (not Wendy) May 1, 2014, 1:21 am

Did you get there soon, sarolabelle, or did it take a while? hugs! and not your fault!

lemongrass lemongrass April 30, 2014, 2:37 pm

Well, we had rented a hall for my reception and everything needed to get taken out at the end of the night. We were leaving while my parents were loading everything into their truck and my friend’s were saying goodbye and very mature things like “have fun doing it!” and other classy things while my dad shook his head and kept loading. Then we went and did it. I love drunk sex!

avatar Banana April 30, 2014, 2:40 pm

See, I love tipsy sex, but drunk sex is kinda…motion-sickness-inducing for me? Is this a deleted thread?

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 2:42 pm

Peter told me last time we had really, really drunk sex, I scared him.

avatar Banana April 30, 2014, 2:43 pm

Sometimes I’m scary during sober sex, but for different reasons.

lemongrass lemongrass April 30, 2014, 2:53 pm

HAHAHA I asked Mr. Grass if it was a bad thing that I preferred to be drunk for sex and he said no.

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 3:07 pm

Drunk sex is the best. Super drunk apparently isn’t. I don’t even remember what happened, so I’m not even sure what scared him. He said its best he doesn’t tell me. πŸ™ Apparently it usually includes me repeating ‘you are so hot’ over and over (which is creepy if you ask me), but this time it was “legit scary.” haha. Poor guy.

muchachaenlaventana muchachaenlaventana April 30, 2014, 3:10 pm

hahaha I think this is hilarious and I am really fascinated by what would be considered scary? I love drunken ugly bumpin, as long as your partner is still able to perform which my bf has never had a problem but an ex of mine could not ever after drinking and talk about buzzzzkill.

lemongrass lemongrass April 30, 2014, 3:11 pm

Maybe you pooped!

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 3:16 pm

Nope! I asked that. haha

muchachaenlaventana muchachaenlaventana April 30, 2014, 3:23 pm

Maybe something dangerous like trying to be sexy and incorporate something really not safe or sexy into the moment. I would go crazy with curiosity if that happened to me and would force my SO to tell me> Oh god I just remembered the best confession for the next deleted thread.

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 3:25 pm

This is a deleted thread silly. SHARE!

avatar Jessibel5 April 30, 2014, 3:57 pm

I once passed out on top of a boyfriend whilst in the middle of sex. I woke up the next morning like “omg, did I pass out?” and he was like, “uhhh, yeah” and seemed a tad annoyed, so I made it up to him that morning. But for years later we told that story and laughed about it.

avatar Jessibel5 April 30, 2014, 3:58 pm

passed out drunk. That’s how drunk I was.

lemongrass lemongrass April 30, 2014, 2:43 pm

It’s always a deleted thread when I talk about sex.

Portia Portia April 30, 2014, 3:01 pm

I’m not a huge fan of drunk or tipsy sex. I don’t know, sober sex is more fun for me. But I’m pretty sure Bassanio doesn’t have a preference… Just as long as there’s sex involved.

avatar bethany April 30, 2014, 2:38 pm

After all the drama that led up to our wedding, the actual wedding day/evening was really, really special to me, despite the near flooding. We had basically rented out an entire B&B on the sound in the Outer Banks, and it had all these awesome decks and a pavilion that we got married under. At some point after dinner it FINALLY stopped raining, and everyone was just hanging out on the decks drinking and talking or dancing in the grass under the pavilion. It sounds so cheesy, but I really felt surrounded by love… like everywhere I turned was someone that I loved. It was awesome. Eventually people started leaving and Dave and I decided to call it a night before we got too tired (and I got too drunk). We had a really nice, special, romantic night together and closed the deal πŸ™‚

avatar Banana April 30, 2014, 2:39 pm

That dress is KILLER! Did you get is just for the occasion? Definitely very special/festive while still being a fun party dress that it looks like you can move around in/hang out comfortably in.

Dear Wendy Dear Wendy April 30, 2014, 2:55 pm

Thanks! Yes, I got it for the after party (from Nordstrom, I think), but I still re-wear it from time to time.

kare kare April 30, 2014, 2:41 pm

I like the idea of an after party. My family is mostly baptist, so there’s no drinking or dancing at wedding receptions. An after party with close friends sounds a lot nicer than dealing with mortified family members and potential relapses.

Or I’ll just elope because these wedding posts give me anxiety. And I’m not anywhere close to getting married.

avatar SpaceySteph May 1, 2014, 10:54 am

No dancing? What’s up with that?

Sorry, I’m just honestly curious why Baptists don’t dance at weddings.

avatar lets_be_honest May 1, 2014, 10:56 am

Have you never heard of Footloose?

GatorGirl GatorGirl May 1, 2014, 11:09 am

There are a number of religions who frown upon or forbid dancing. My understanding is that it’s too worldly and can excite temptation.

othy othy April 30, 2014, 2:41 pm

We were poor when we got married, and we didn’t want to spring for a hotel room. Both of us were fine just spending the night at our apartment, and using what little money we had on our honeymoon hotel. My MIL would have none of it, so she got us a night at one of those cheesy themed bed and breakfasts. That was right across the street from our apartment (we could see it from the hotel window!). Anyway, she got us the ‘Italian Villa’ room, and the bed was a giant gondola. We ordered in pizza, ate all the left over cake/chocolate fountain sweets that our reception center boxed up for us. And then had sexy time all night πŸ™‚

othy othy April 30, 2014, 2:43 pm

Oh, and Wendy, your dress makes me want to have an after (like.. 8 years after) party, just so I can buy an awesome party dress.

iwannatalktosampson iwannatalktosampson April 30, 2014, 2:52 pm

WASSSSTED. On a beach. And then we got back to our hotel room with a video camera and took the funniest/most embarrassing video of each other like walking around the room (fully clothed, calm down) talking about how pretty we both looked. And then I passed out in my dress and woke up with a ROYAL hangover. The highlight of the night was when some foreign guy (no clue what continent let alone country he was from) who shouted at us after the ceremony on the beach “how awesome is you!” Man that whole week was so much fun. Maybe the saying is true if you have an awesome wedding the marriage is doomed. Or maybe he turned into a douchecanoe for other reasons..

GatorGirl GatorGirl April 30, 2014, 2:57 pm

whatttttt?? That’s a saying??

avatar kerrycontrary April 30, 2014, 3:04 pm

I usually hear “the bigger the wedding the shorter the marriage”. But it more refers to people who focus so much on the wedding so that they are ignoring their relationship issues. Obviously none of these statements can apply to everyone though.

iwannatalktosampson iwannatalktosampson April 30, 2014, 3:04 pm

Well I think it’s actually the reverse – like the crappier the wedding the better the marriage. I know my parents wedding was a DISASTER including parents refusing to come, a 40 degree below zero snow storm in Canada which cancelled the MOH’s flight, a FROZEN cake that was inedible, and the list goes on and on. And they’ve been obnoxiously happy for almost 35 years now.

iwannatalktosampson iwannatalktosampson April 30, 2014, 3:07 pm

Actually I feel like it’s not even a saying but like – a theory? A superstition? I don’t know maybe it’s just something crazy old relatives say to you when shit hits the fan at your wedding and you’re crying in a closet.

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 3:10 pm

Haha. I think its just the weather thing. Like if it rains or whatever.

avatar Banana April 30, 2014, 4:25 pm

No, THAT’s ironic.

kare kare April 30, 2014, 3:17 pm

I know Carrie says this on Sex and the City at Charlotte’s second wedding. Everything is going wrong on she’s upset, so Carrie points out that she already had the perfect wedding and not so perfect marriage, so maybe “the worse the wedding, the better the marriage”. (I watch way too much tv apparently).

Portia Portia April 30, 2014, 3:29 pm

Naw, that definitely popped into my mind as well. Or else we both watch too much tv.

GatorGirl GatorGirl April 30, 2014, 3:13 pm

eck. Well I hope it’s not true! (But it was cold and I was almost 2 hours late for photos so some things went wrong?)

avatar kerrycontrary April 30, 2014, 3:02 pm

I can’t wait for my wedding night! But I doubt we’ll “seal the deal”. We’ll see. I think we’re going to rent out the hotel bar where everyone is staying so it’s open until 1am and hang out with our friends there. I’m going to wear my wedding dress as long as possible though. At our one friends wedding, the hotel (which was huge) had 4 different weddings and their guests staying there. So when we went to the bar after the wedding to party there were 2 brides in their dresses it was so cute).

BriarRose BriarRose April 30, 2014, 3:03 pm

I ate just about nothing at the reception so we drove through Jack-In-The-Box (in our wedding clothes) and paid with a ripped in half twenty dollar bill. We then drove back to the hotel where quite of few of his family members were staying and I remember thinking it was super awkward running into them on the way to our hotel room. I can’t even remember if we had sex or not! Ha!
If (when) I get married again, I’m totally going for a tiny wedding and then a fun after party! I feel like I’d do it waaaay differently than 23 year old me did the first time around.

lemongrass lemongrass April 30, 2014, 3:24 pm

My husband’s best man got so drunk at our wedding reception that he got fast food afterwards, poured the burger and fries onto his hotel bed (right on the blanket!) and rolled around in it and ate it without his hands. I love my friends!

LlamaPajamas LlamaPajamas April 30, 2014, 3:39 pm

I imagine that’s how my wedding night will go. I love burgers and fries!

avatar Banana April 30, 2014, 4:00 pm

I love them so much I’m marrying them. SO THERE. Our wedding night will be beautiful. But it will be sad, because I will eat them which means I’ll no longer have a spouse. So I’ll have to go marry some more burgers and fries. Oh my goodness I’m so bored at work right now.

othy othy April 30, 2014, 3:33 pm

Are you my ex cousin in law? Because my cousin totally booked his wedding night hotel at the place our ENTIRE family was staying. On accident (like, he didn’t think to check ahead of time? Especially when our grandparents always stay at a Marriott and there’s only one Marriott in the area?). And he stayed in the room right next to ours. We invited them (by a note written by my grandma, no knocking) to brunch with us the next morning. His wife wrote back, and promised to never speak to us again. They were divorced (for unrelated reasons) 8 months later. So she upheld her promise!

avatar kerrycontrary April 30, 2014, 3:38 pm

We’re booking our hotel room at the same hotel as our guests. Is that a no-no? We don’t really feel awkward about it at all. We’re doing it so we can drink with them after the wedding!

othy othy April 30, 2014, 3:40 pm

I don’t think it’s an issue unless you think it is. Like my ex-cousin-in-law was super embarrassed by the whole thing, but I would have just rolled with it if it had been me.

LlamaPajamas LlamaPajamas April 30, 2014, 3:42 pm

That’s what we’re doing! There are very few hotels in the area anyways and I wanted us to be able to eat breakfast the next day with my family, who are all coming from out of town, since his family all lives locally.

GatorGirl GatorGirl April 30, 2014, 3:46 pm

We stayed at the same place as our out of town guests. It wasn’t an issue.

avatar kerrycontrary April 30, 2014, 3:49 pm

Yeh–ok. I didn’t think it was weird. I mean it’s 2014, we have sex. Everyone knows it. I guess it would be weird if you made it known that your wedding night was a BFD and you were having sex for the first time or something.

BriarRose BriarRose May 1, 2014, 8:10 am

I remember feeling awkward about it because we were young (I was 23, he had just turned 21) and came from religious families, so everyone (mistakenly) assumed that our wedding night would be our first time having sex. So there were lots of raised eyebrows and looks and overall, I was just not a fan of all that.
Next time around, I think it will be totally fine! The more the merrier for drinking.

GatorGirl GatorGirl April 30, 2014, 3:07 pm

Oh, after my friends wedding, I have super funny memories (and photos) of the two of us walking around the hotel parking lot drinking a bottle of champagne. She was still wearing her dress (which I insisted on helping carry) and I was in jeans and a “bridesmaid” tank top. And then her new husband got kicked out of the hotel bar for not wearing shoes. And all of us almost got kick off of the premises for being too crazy. Great times.

avatar lets_be_honest April 30, 2014, 3:16 pm

I once participated in a race down the hallway that ended with someone breaking the window and almost falling out, haha. The next morning, with blood on me, I woke up and realized I didn’t bring my bag of clothes from the reception to the hotel and had to go to the brunch in the dress from the night before like a mess. Everyone stared. I need to not go out in public so much.

avatar Sue Jones April 30, 2014, 3:23 pm

I have mentioned on here that my husband and I got married in our living room with 4 other people in attendance, which included our 5 year old at the time stepson and they guy who married us. And one other couple (who are now divorced… oh well…) I think we did the thing, went out for Indian Food that night and maybe saw a movie… we probably went home and did the thang just because…, but I really do not remember it that well… It was over 17 years ago…

mylaray mylaray April 30, 2014, 3:31 pm

We had a backyard wedding at his parents’ house and his parents love to party (we rarely drink anymore so this was a rarity) and we had free reign to stay as long as we wanted to so as the night was winding down, we had a bonfire and roasted marshmallows and made s’mores. It was December so kinda cold, though we lucked out with 60 degrees and so we took the party inside where we all got hammered. Our close friends were also crashing there for the night. My inlaws were up drinking and partying with us until 5 am. I kept peeing from the alcohol obviously and also because I was expecting my period and I wasn’t wearing underwear (lacy eyelet dress that showed any type of underwear). Thank god for all the bathroom trips because I did get my period but caught it early enough nothing showed. At some point, all of the “older” crowd like his parents started singing American Pie and playing it on guitar. One of my MILs friends brought some weed and they were smoking it which was hilarious because they’re semi-conservative, traditional southerners. At 6am, we finally started to crash but totally squeezed in some sex beforehand. I couldn’t wear the lingerie I had planned so that was a bummer. I think we finally went to bed at 8am and slept until 1pm. And you know, woke up with a massive hangover. But it was such a blast.

shanshantastic shanshantastic April 30, 2014, 3:35 pm

Echo everyone who loved on your dress, Wendy, it’s gorgeous.

I woke up at 3 am the morning of my wedding because I was too excited to sleep. Fortunately I shared the room with my BFF/MOH so she didn’t mind. πŸ™‚ We had mimosas while we had our hair done…

After the wedding I was just exhausted – and not even buzzed! (I had 1 glass of champagne and maybe 1.5 glasses of wine). Brian was…significantly toastier. But I was still a hot mess in the morning while we stumbled around to clean up all of our stuff and go to his parents’ house for a brunch. We opened all of our cards then had delicious breakfast bake – and then went to a birthday party for a 5-year-old!

avatar mertlej April 30, 2014, 3:40 pm

My mother in law had stored her stuff in our honeymoon suite (which was next door to where the reception was held), and after the wedding was over, she walked into the suite with us to grab her stuff and just stood there talking about how fun the night was and stalling… for like, 15 minutes (at 1 am) until finally the mister said “MOM. Can you leave, please???”

avatar Lovelygirl April 30, 2014, 3:55 pm

We went to a hotel on the beach via limo, ordered Papa Johns because it was the only place that would deliver, took showers, ate pizza, and had happy drunk sex!

avatar Amy Renee April 30, 2014, 4:06 pm

I don’t remember a lot of details, but the thing that my husband and I both remember and joke about is that he spent more than an hour removing the 150+ bobby pins from my hair while we drank the bottle of champagne that came with the honeymoon suite. It took more than 7 years and 3 moves before I used & lost the majority of those hairpins!

Jess Jess May 1, 2014, 10:01 am

Sounds very similar to my night!!

avatar Breezy AM April 30, 2014, 4:08 pm

We got home from our Very Drunken Reception with all our gifts around 5am, and were both totally fucking exhausted. I remember assuming we would not have sex (although, for everything else that went wrong, that was the one area we never had a single issue) and feeling so, so, so tired… and then he started kissing me… and I remember thinking “you have GOT to be kidding me” but… it ended up happening and was shockingly good… So bizarre!

I want to go to a wedding after party!

Pamplemousse Rose Pamplemousse Rose April 30, 2014, 4:09 pm

I was sick on my wedding day (and not the booze-induced kind) I think I got through the day on adrenaline and spent the night in the hotel room drinking NeoCitran – but not even the name brand stuff – the generic grocery store variety.

sobriquet sobriquet April 30, 2014, 6:48 pm

Y’all. I’m getting married in 17 days! It hasn’t hit me, yet, even though we’ll be boarding the plane to Mexico 2 weeks from today. I think it’ll hit me in a few days when I can check the weather forecast. Our plan is to definitely “seal the deal” after the shindig. Our resort room has a hot tub in it!
Our wedding is at 4 and then cocktail hour + dinner reception on the beach will last until 8:30 or so. We may extend the party with some of our friends after, but we’ll have plenty of time to party the days before and after the wedding, so we’ll probably just head back to our room. We get breakfast in bed the morning after, too!
Ugh, I can’t wait!

sobriquet sobriquet April 30, 2014, 6:58 pm

Last night we had a vow-writing date and basically figured out our entire ceremony, including music. I cried last night at the bar, and then again once I listened to the song I’ll be walking into. I was kind of freaking out that I’ll be a sobbing mess the day of, BUT I started my period today so it all makes sense!

Addie Pray Addie Pray April 30, 2014, 7:47 pm

I love these pictures! Wendy, did Wendy’s Dad and other family members party all night too or was the after party a friend affair?

I’m enjoying reading these comments and now I want to do it on my wedding night! Or just a night will do.

Dear Wendy Dear Wendy April 30, 2014, 7:54 pm

My parents and sister and Drew’s brother were all there.

Addie Pray Addie Pray April 30, 2014, 8:02 pm

That sounds perfect. Is it weird that I really want to round up your family and have drinks with them? We’d invite you along too.

Dear Wendy Dear Wendy April 30, 2014, 8:11 pm

Well, thank you, that’s nice of you.

avatar Painted_lady May 1, 2014, 1:07 am

Hey Wendy, is that a giant bottle of beer or a bottle of wine you’re toting around in the pictures? I wouldn’t judge either way, but one of those things miiiiight make me feel like less of a lush.

Dear Wendy Dear Wendy May 1, 2014, 6:48 am

It’s not beer. I think it’s champagne, but it might be wine.

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avatar TheTruth May 1, 2014, 1:38 am

Damn Wendy, you are a hottie. I would of totally hit it on our wedding night, no matter how drunk we got.

fast eddie fast eddie May 1, 2014, 8:07 am

I can’t remember the specifics of what we did that night 20 years ago. After our BIG backyard wedding (no one could believe we finally getting married) a limo took us to us to the airport for the flight to Reno where our suite awaited us. We garbed a late night bite in the hotel cafe where they gave us a little wedding cake and a gift certificate for the showroom that we used the next night. Having lived together for 8 years prior no mysteries were left to explore but we consummated a few times that weekend.

Jess Jess May 1, 2014, 10:00 am

I’m always a day behind!!

Oh well. Those pics are priceless Wendy. Love your smile and the dress and the air of mischief!

Since we had an evening wedding anyway, we didn’t do an after-party. Instead we stayed at a hotel in downtown Philly and it was pretty memorable. After parking in a nearby garage, we walked a few city blocks to our hotel in our wedding attire. It was a booming Saturday summer night and lots of people out and about. We got tons of hoots and hollers and congrats and it was really fun. When we checked into our room, the staff had left us a bottle of champagne on ice and chocolate covered strawberries. AND, because it was a Kimpton, there were animal print terry cloth robes in the room. I remember the thrill of getting the 600 pins out of my hair, the constricting heavy gown off my body and then prancing around in a leopard robe with a glass of champagne. Such a great way to cap the evening! The next morning, we walked to Federal Donuts for a bite and then made our way to my parents city condo for a casual brunch with relatives still in town. Super fun “after-party.”

avatar lets_be_honest May 1, 2014, 10:02 am

All these stories make me want to have a wedding night…one that involves removing the big dress with scissors ala Grey Anatomy. (ps BURKE IS BACK!)

GatorGirl GatorGirl May 1, 2014, 12:08 pm

Booooooo Burke. I don’t like him.

avatar mcj2012 May 1, 2014, 10:42 am

After our wedding, we went back to our apartment for the first time. My slip was tied on so tight, hubs had to cut me out of it. We proceeded to remove the million pins and i showered but i forgot my brush (still had some packing to do) and I have crazy hair so the next morning when we woke and I looked like a hot mess, I said is this what you dreamed your wife would look like the morning after? LOL

avatar sarahhhh May 1, 2014, 12:05 pm

I’m soooo late to the party, but that’s because NWFL was pretty much underwater yesterday.

Wendy, your post wedding celebration looks amazing!

My wedding was basically a huge barnyard party. It was a sunset ceremony in the backyard with the reception immediately after in the adjoining yard outside the barn. We had an abundance of homemade food served buffet style (but with fancy servingware and stuff!) and a “bartender” serving from giant glass dispensers of red and white sangria or beer kegs. We all danced the night away until a little after 11, and I wanted to pay the DJ for more time but I also didn’t want to take advantage of the people whose home we were having our wedding at, so then when it was over we all helped clean up and then my husband and I drove around town looking for a hotel room. We didn’t book one ahead of time because we spent every last dime on our wedding, because of all the small expenses that kept cropping up. Then we got a bunch of cash as a wedding gift and decided to go ahead and spend a night in a hotel. However, it was a huge holiday weekend in our city and after driving around for a couple of hours and making phone call after phone call, we figured out that every last hotel room for a 100 miles either direction was booked. So we went home at nearly 3 AM to our messy apartment and in spite of our exhaustion, I tried on the lingerie I got for my bachelorette party and then ya know, “sealed the deal”. And then my husband fell asleep and I spent an hour trying to get all my hair extensions out. The end!

GatorGirl GatorGirl May 1, 2014, 12:07 pm

I hope you’re okay! I live in NCFL and it’s all over the news how bad the panhandle is.

avatar sarahhhh May 1, 2014, 1:01 pm

Thanks! Thankfully my whole family is fine. I spent Tuesday night convinced we were facing imminent death-by-tornado, but we survived. The flooding was really bad and roads are completely washed away in some places, and then last night as a result of all the flooding the county jailhouse had a gas explosion! It’s like the apocalypse or something. And I guess we’re maybe going to get more rain? Idk.

avatar SLCompton May 12, 2014, 5:58 pm

That sounds really fun! My husband and I had a small wedding in a Chapel in early afternoon. We has a short reception for the family that ended at 6PM. We then invited all our close friends to our apartment and had a keg and all the leftover Box Wine from the reception. We opened our doors to all the neighbors in the apartment complex and partied all night long. By the end of the night I was doing “Keg Stands” and I also woke up on my couch. I still had my wedding dress on and even my shoes. don’t remember much after getting home but the pictures say a lot!