Mother’s Day, as I’m sure you know, is this weekend, and I found myself Googling “How do you spend Mother’s Day” yesterday afternoon because I was curious about what other moms do. I know it’s typical to spend the day with your kids because they’re the ones who made you a mom and, hopefully, you enjoy spending time with them. I like spending time with my kid… but, to be honest, if it’s supposed to be a special day for me, what would really make it special is to have some down time that wasn’t all about my child. Because, let’s face it: if you have a two-year-old, it is ALWAYS about the two-year-old. Sleeping in, drinking coffee and a croissant in bed, taking a bubble bath in the middle of the morning — these sound like pretty good ways to spend Mother’s Day, if you ask me. And then, yes, I’d like to re-convene with my husband and child and spend the rest of the day with them. (Although, a friend of mine said she wanted to find a “wifi-enabled, kid-free, tropical island” for us to go spend the whole day, and that sounded pretty good too).
Anyway, I was Googling “How do you spend Mother’s Day” to see what other moms do/ enjoy doing on their day and I found this article: “Whose Mother’s Day Is It Anyway?” about the tension between young mothers sharing the day with their own mothers or, even more tension-building, their mothers-in-law. Many new/newish moms, who would love nothing more than a day of sleeping in, drinking coffee in bed, taking a bubble bath and then spending the rest of their day with their family, find themselves celebrating Mother’s Day by bringing their kid(s) to see Grandma, even if that means hours of commuting with a baby and all its accoutrements.
“I did not envision spending my first Mother’s Day lugging a million items, renting a car, dealing with traffic, all to be somewhere where I had to pass my son around to everyone,” Kate, who lives in New York City, told ABC News. “I just wanted to just spend it with my son, I barely get to see him during the week as it is.”
Oy. This is not something I’ve dealt with. First of all, I see my son plenty during the week, so I don’t think I would feel slighted or like I was missing out if extended family members wanted to play with him for an afternoon. Actually, that sounds kind of awesome (especially if I can go lie down somewhere and read the paper while this is happening). But also, my mother-in-law, sadly, passed away well before I was in the picture, and my own mother had, until this past year, lived too far away to visit for a weekend (I did offer to come see her this Mother’s Day, but we mutually decided that early June was a better time for a visit). And so: Mother’s Day is all mine to do what I want (within reason). And as I said, what I want is a couple of hours to myself to do nothing in peace. Also, a bacon, egg, and cheese sandwich from the coffee shop down the street would be good, too (hint, hint, Drew).
Moms, how do you want to spend Mother’s Day? And how is what you want typically different than what you get, if at all?