In the last few years, I’ve made some pretty enormous changes in my life. First, I moved from Chicago to New York to be with Drew, leaving behind a wonderful circle of long-time friends. Then, I started a stay-at-home freelance writing career. Then I got married. Then I moved from Manhattan to Brooklyn, and then I got pregnant. To say my social life has changed as a result of all this would be an under-statement. Recently, I’ve realized an overwhelming need to not only work harder at strengthening the friendships I’ve made in New York, but in making some solid new ones — especially with people who are at similar places in their lives as I am (i.e. stay-at-home folks, self-employed people, other pregnant ladies and new parents).
Perhaps it’s a coincidence, or maybe it’s just me noticing the topic more, but at exactly the same time I made the realization that I need a stronger social circle for my emotional well-being, it seems like more and more people are writing to me with questions about how to do just that. Through a variety of life transitions, many of us are experiencing a need for new friends, but we’re realizing that forming those bonds isn’t as easy as it may have been when we were all in school. Luckily, I wrote an article a couple years ago all about making friends as grown-ups and my tips and suggestions still hold true and are worth re-visiting if you need a little motivation. And if you have any tips or anecdotes you’d like to share, please do so in the comments!