My sister sent me this recent WTF(!!) column from ELLE’s Ask E. Jean, who seems a little off her rocker, maybe?
He’s a wonderful man — father to our two children and a good provider — and he’s always taken care of me emotionally, sexually, and financially. I know I should be upset; I know I should feel betrayed on so many levels. But I just don’t. He says he enjoys the relationship with her but will stop if it’s what I want.
Honestly, if my mother and husband are happy in their affair, I just can’t seem to find the energy to be angry or jealous. So my question is: Is this normal? Should I be upset? — No Talent for the Conniption Fit
I mean, WTF, right? No, seriously. Your husband is banging your mother and you’re … you’re OK with it? And you’re wondering if your reaction is “normal”?! Um, NO. No, it’s not normal at all. None of it is normal on any level. Yeah, being upset is an emotion that takes energy and I can see how someone who isn’t automatically upset by a situation that would “normally” make one upset would rather expend energy feeling a positive emotion, but come on! Your husband is banging your mom! Instead of denying the abnormality of the situation, get upset! Get angry! And get to the bottom of the issues that exist to have created such a mind-blowingly awful betrayal.
This is not what E. Jean advises. Not at all.
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