Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Introducing the DearWendy Message Board!

Tomorrow, January 24th, this site turns one, and in honor of the special occasion I’m unveiling the newest feature around these parts: our first message board (check out the “Forum” tab in the menu bar up top). It’s something that people have been asking me about for some time and now that I’m on a new server with more space, I decided to give it a go. Since technical stuff makes me want to pull my hair out, I hired someone* to help create what I was envisioning — just a simple forum, really — and today we’re introducing it to you. As I say in my welcome post in the board:

Hopefully, you’re familiar with how to use a website message board, but if you aren’t, I’m sure you’ll quickly catch on. As for forum rules, they’re the same as they are for the rest of the site: be respectful of each other; don’t call anyone rude names; and use common sense (i.e. if you think it may be inappropriate, it probably is). Use swear words conservatively, please (I don’t mind them, but advertisers have a different view), and since I know you all love talking about sex, I only ask that the language doesn’t get too graphic.

I’ve never attempted to run a message board before so please bear with me as I work out any kinks (though I know some of you prefer kinks…) and tweak anything that needs tweakin’. If you have suggestions, you can leave them in this thread, though I can’t promise anything. I’m limited by budget, WordPress, and server space to how much bling I can add.

Have fun!

* Thanks to your generous donations, I’m able to afford hiring help when I need it (as well as a server upgrade with more space). Thank you!

 

 

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    Emsz January 23, 2012, 6:00 am

    Great idea, Wendy! 😀

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    sweetleaf January 23, 2012, 7:32 am

    Aw man! This is gonna be fun. Weeee! Thanks, Wendy!

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    silver_dragon_girl January 23, 2012, 8:46 am

    OMG YAY!!! I’m not going to get anything done today….thank you, Wendy!!!!!

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    Addie Pray January 23, 2012, 9:14 am

    Yay, happy birthday, Dear Wendy! I have never actually chatted on a message board… I barely know how to IM. (Kids still do that?) In fact, I still use hotmail that’s how behind the times I am. … But I think I’ll get the hang of it! (Here’s to no work from here on out!)

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    • JK

      JK January 23, 2012, 9:27 am

      Thank you, I didn´t want to be the 1st to admit I´m totally useless at that stuff, as well.

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      • Firegirl32

        Firegirl32 January 23, 2012, 10:06 am

        Whew…me too…

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      Addie Pray January 23, 2012, 10:09 am

      I already messed up my first post.

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        Something More January 23, 2012, 10:18 am

        You made me giggle.

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        LolaBeans January 23, 2012, 11:11 am

        me too. i replied with my own bio to someone elses lol. fail.

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        Addie Pray January 23, 2012, 11:16 am

        We’ll all look back on this and laugh because soon we will all be Message Board Sluts.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Wendy January 23, 2012, 10:16 am

      It’s easy, you guys. Just think of it as an endless open thread. You can create your own discussion topics or jump into ones already in progress…

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  • Budj

    Budj January 23, 2012, 9:59 am

    Very cool. Happy Birthday.

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  • JK

    JK January 23, 2012, 10:40 am

    Oof, I can´t seem to reply on the forum. What could I be doing wrong?

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    • Dear Wendy

      Wendy January 23, 2012, 10:44 am

      Are you typing in the box that says “Reply To:…” and then clicking submit? That’s really all there is to it.

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      • JK

        JK January 23, 2012, 10:51 am

        I think I was, but tried twice and nothing happened. I´ll check now.
        I´m a bit sleepdeprived, so I´m even less techsavvy than usual today.

        Thanks!

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      • JK

        JK January 23, 2012, 10:57 am

        I just tried again, and nothing.
        I might try on a different topic, to see if it works.

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      Something More January 23, 2012, 10:47 am

      I don’t know if this is what you mean, but there isn’t a “reply” function for each comment like there is in the letter threads. You just add your post at the bottom in reply to the entire thread, so we will probably be using “@so-and-so” a lot to designate to who (whom?) our posts are replying.

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      • Dear Wendy

        Wendy January 23, 2012, 10:48 am

        Yes, that is one of the disadvantages to a message board…

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        Something More January 23, 2012, 10:55 am

        Yeah, well that’s not a big deal, just thought some might think it would funtion the way the comments section does and be a bit confused 🙂

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    Something More January 23, 2012, 11:05 am

    Aaaaaand nothing at work is going to get done today. Great. LOL

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  • JK

    JK January 23, 2012, 11:06 am

    It´s official, the forum hates me. 🙁
    I can´t reply to any posts (I type, hit submit, but they just seem to disappear)

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      Addie Pray January 23, 2012, 11:11 am

      Hang in there. We will figure this out. At 33, we still have the ability to learn new tricks… But if it makes you feel better, I commented on Jess’s thread but I don’t see the comment anymore. Let’s blame it on the kinks being worked out and not on our technical skills. I can see this message board thing really taking over our lives!!!! Great new feature, Wendy.

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      • JK

        JK January 23, 2012, 11:14 am

        Yes, just what I needed, another excuse to procrastinate!!!!

        Congrats on the 23rd session, by the way, it´s going by fast!!! (I´m giuessing not so much for you, though)

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        Addie Pray January 23, 2012, 11:19 am

        Oh geez, this message board was a terrible, terrible, terrible idea. … I’m already hooked and want to read everyone’s comments… I can’t get any work done.

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      Addie Pray January 23, 2012, 11:14 am

      PS, I’m working up the courage to start a Bikram Yoga thread. I’m over-the-moon obsessed with Bikram. And it’s all I want to talk about. That, and how to get my hair under control; 90 minutes of heat/humidity a day is turning my hair into a frizzy ball of blah.

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      • JK

        JK January 23, 2012, 11:18 am

        In that case I´ll have to start a Words with Friends one, since the thread the other day I´m hooked!!!

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        Addie Pray January 23, 2012, 11:20 am

        Hey, I’m getting an iPhone in like 2 weeks…. then I will play you! For now, I have to settle with scrabble on Facebook, which is not nearly as fun people say.

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        JK January 23, 2012, 11:21 am

        But they have WWF on facebook, and it somehow hooks to the games people play on Iphone (Iplay on FB, I don´t havean Iphone either, the phone I have is already too much for me :)).

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      • Dear Wendy

        Wendy January 23, 2012, 11:27 am

        I need people to play Hanging with Friends on the iPhone. Does anyone play?? My friend matt keeps beating me and I’m sick of it. I need some more practice so I can show him what’s what.

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      • LadyinPurpleNotRed

        LadyinPurpleNotRed January 23, 2012, 11:30 am

        I love hanging with friends! My friends laugh at me with how excited I get about it… my username is marsbars0703 I’ll play with you!

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      • Dear Wendy

        Wendy January 23, 2012, 11:38 am

        I just sent you a word.

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      • Firegirl32

        Firegirl32 January 23, 2012, 12:34 pm

        Oh me too! (I’m beginning to feel like a 3rd wheel on here…) I log in through FB though…so how do I know what my user name is??

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      • bagge72

        Bagge72 January 23, 2012, 3:49 pm

        Yes, I just started today. I think my name bagge72 on that and words with friends aswell, but anyone can add me on facebook to, and then add me from there. I think my facebook is under bagge7203@aol.com

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        Addie Pray January 23, 2012, 11:31 am

        For real? Well shit. This whole time I have NOT been playing WWF because I didn’t think I could. To think of all the lost games! Ok, today’s agenda: (1) work; (2) DW message board; and (3) figure out how to play WWF, in no particular order.

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        Addie Pray January 23, 2012, 12:50 pm

        Hey guys – don’t play too much WWF without me!

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      • Firegirl32

        Firegirl32 January 23, 2012, 12:28 pm

        OMG! Find me! I love Words! Um…I have no idea how you look for a person though?

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      • JK

        JK January 23, 2012, 12:32 pm

        Not sure, up to now I´m just playing with my facebook friends and with random people.

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        JK January 23, 2012, 12:33 pm

        OK, found it, what´s your user name?

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      • Firegirl32

        Firegirl32 January 23, 2012, 12:35 pm

        I have no idea. Through facebook I’m Jolene Neisius….I have no idea what that translates too in user name

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      • Firegirl32

        Firegirl32 January 23, 2012, 12:37 pm

        *to. Ugh.

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      • JK

        JK January 23, 2012, 12:37 pm

        You have to go up the top where it says Challenge/Account/Help.
        If you go to Account it lets you create the username, then you can find people thru their usernames.

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      • Firegirl32

        Firegirl32 January 23, 2012, 12:43 pm

        Ok. I’ll have to do that from home later.

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      • JK

        JK January 23, 2012, 2:31 pm

        I just did my username, JLKM1978, so play me!!!

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        Bethany January 23, 2012, 12:59 pm

        Someone play me in WWF!!! I’m Bethy717

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      • JK

        JK January 23, 2012, 2:24 pm

        Just started a game against you! 🙂

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        Addie Pray January 23, 2012, 2:34 pm

        Listen, people – I want to play too! I need to get WWF. Maybe I’ll move that up as “top priority” in my list of things to do today.

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        Poicelle January 23, 2012, 3:24 pm

        I LOVE WWF – I currently have 2 games going against my fiance (I’m stomping him in both) and games going with my aunt and mother (both are stomping me). I think I’m pretty terrible but mu username there is Poicelle22 if anyone wants someone else to play with!!

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        *HmC* January 23, 2012, 1:42 pm

        JK- that thread also caused a crack like addiction for me to WWF! Between that and the new message board, I think I can kiss my budding career good-bye.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Wendy January 23, 2012, 11:15 am

      Don’t worry. I see your comments. For some reason, they’re in the spam folder of the forum comments. I’ll see if I can approve them and if that doesn’t work, I’ll ask my tech guy to help me figure out how.

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      • JK

        JK January 23, 2012, 11:16 am

        Thanks, my paranoia was starting to kick in. 😉
        I possible, erase all the repeat ones!

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      • Dear Wendy

        Wendy January 23, 2012, 11:18 am

        Done.

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      • JK

        JK January 23, 2012, 2:30 pm

        Sorry to be such a pain, but the same thing is still happening. Do you think it would help if I register in the box on the side?

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    mcminnem January 23, 2012, 11:35 am

    Waitaminute, you mean now I don’t have to wait for a column to be posted to have things to reply to?

    ….this could be a problem.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Wendy January 23, 2012, 11:46 am

      Yes! And I don’t have to feel guilty if I get wrapped up in other things — like taking care of Jack (who has been napping for over an hour, yippee) — and have a day where I don’t get around to posting so much. Now you’ll be able to talk amongst yourselves!

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    AKchic January 23, 2012, 12:39 pm

    Awesome! I moderate a few forums, so let me know if you need any help!

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  • Skyblossom

    Skyblossom January 23, 2012, 1:15 pm

    Great idea Wendy and great execution.

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    *HmC* January 23, 2012, 1:40 pm

    Holy crap it’s been a whole year?! I discovered Wendy just about the time she made this new site, so it’s my anniversary of Dear Wendying! I swear every year older I get passes quicker than the last.

    And great idea on the message board! I frequent one other message board on the interwebs, and it’s predominantly male. Let me tell you, the tone of discourse there is so different than this site, which is part of why I like it so much! Also, that other message board has regulars that have been around for 5+ years. So I think this is a great move as far as reader loyalty etc.

    Anyway congats Wendy! I look forward to participating once my work/school life mellows a bit.

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    Anna January 23, 2012, 4:49 pm

    I definitely plan to check the forum out just as soon as I figure out how to create a username for it and log in…help? I can’t seem to find it.

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    AKchic January 23, 2012, 4:50 pm

    Okay, either my computer is screwy on this site today, or the forum isn’t playing nice. I tried to reply to something on the forum and it told me I had to be logged in to reply. Now it won’t let me reply to anything, telling me I’m not logged in. I’ve always been logged in to my wordpress account, and there is no place (that I can see) to specially log in to DW.

    Does the site have a “case of the Mondays”?

    Eh, I’ll go do my lunch errands and come back and mess with it 🙂

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