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Well, if you’re as concerned about ruining a friendship with someone you’ve been hanging out with for six months as you are about ruining your marriage, it’s probably safe to say the latter has already happened. My bet is the coworker is just a distraction — something to obsess over while you avoid dealing with whatever is lacking or going on in your marriage. But as long as you keep avoiding your marriage, no relationship that comes afterward — whether it’s with this coworker/friend or someone else down the line — is going to go smoothly because you’ll always have unfinished business.
You need to do some soul-searching and a lot of communicating with your husband and decide whether yours is a marriage worth fighting for — independent and regardless of whatever is or isn’t between you and coworker lady. If it is worth fighting for, then go to therapy together to get back on track. If it isn’t, take the steps you need to take to separate and then think about whom you want to date next. And until you figure out what’s up with you and your husband, stop getting drunk and making out with other people. That’s just scummy.
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