He’s recently told me all about his kinky relationship with his male Dom and how he’s given blowjobs to all of his Dom’s male friends – all while dating a girl seriously for at least two years. He seems to think it’s no big deal that he’s meeting his kinks outside of his relationships – and he tells me about it, all while making clear that his girlfriend is clueless. I feel horrible that he thinks it’s OK to tell me this. Part of why I broke up with him is because he wanted to cheat, so I don’t know why he feels I’m the right audience to brag to about his escapades.
He recently propositioned me and my boyfriend right after he broke things off with his Dom. I obviously told my boyfriend about it – and reassured him that I thought it was a terrible idea. I told my boyfriend that I’m tempted to tell my ex’s girlfriend about his “extracurricular” activities, and he told me I should. I worry that it’s more drama than it’s worth, but, if my boyfriend were cheating, I’d want to know. Should I keep quiet or let her know? If the latter, HOW should I let her know? — Kinky Guy’s Ex
First of all, it was not a “serious relationship” if you were with him for just under a month. Second of all, why are you in contact with this guy? He sounds like a creep, you didn’t trust him for the few weeks you dated, and he has propositioned you while knowing you are in a relationship. Disengage from this guy completely. Move on. Stop responding to him. And, for the love of God, don’t get further involved in his messy life by reaching out to his girlfriend. Really, no good can come from that. You don’t know what their relationship is like, whether she already suspects his “extracurricular” activities, whether he’s even being truthful to you about his behavior, and how the girlfriend would receive any kind of second-hand information from her boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend whom he is still is sporadic contact with. Reaching out to her is just inviting drama into your life. Move on and leave this guy in the past — where he should have been left a long time ago.
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