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When the invitations arrived in the mail, my brother noticed that everyone except him was invited, and now my whole family, aside from my sisters, is threatening to not come to the wedding because they feel that it’s classless and tasteless to invite everyone in a family except for one person. My brother said that he wouldn’t have gone even if he had been invited but is insulted that he wasn’t and is creating all kinds of drama I don’t even want to mention. He’s telling me that Jane isn’t a true friend and that I should tell her how rude she is and what a terrible situation this has put me in, but I don’t feel it’s necessary to bring this up to the bride seeing as how my brother and I are not that close, and she has only met him a handful of times.
Jane is my best friend, but she’s never really been close to my family and she already had to cut off quite a few people from her personal list of friends as well as her fiancé’s in order to invite everyone whom she did invite. Was it really “rude” and “classless” of her to exclude my brother? I just don’t know how to handle the situation. — Bridesmaid with a Rude Brother
I’m not sure what you think it is you’re supposed to be “handling” in this situation. Everyone who might want to attend your best friend’s wedding got an invitation. Someone who did not want to attend the wedding did not get an invitation. So… the people who got invitations and want to go, should go. And the people who got invitations and don’t want to go, don’t have to. And the person who neither wants to go nor got an invitation should find a fucking hobby and stop trying to create drama where none exists. (And, honestly, if your parents — the only two people who are threatening not to attend the wedding — actually skip it because their pitiful son is throwing a hissy fit, then THEY are the rude and classless ones, not Jane.) Don’t worry about your dopey brother and your enabling parents. They are adults and can figure this one out on their own. You don’t need to “handle” them. Your job is to support your friend and have fun at the wedding. Everything else is someone else’s problem, not yours.
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