It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss secret sex lives and inconsiderate friends.
This guy doesn’t love you. If he did, he would have had the basic respect for you to tell you about his upcoming baby rather than let you read it on Twitter.
I know individually they might not be a big deal, but it added up and I just couldn’t take. She apologized for everything and swore she would not do those things again and so we patched things up, but unfortunately, she is starting to slide back into her old ways; the last two times we were supposed to go for dinner she showed up an hour late (both times). My time is as valuable as the next person’s and I wouldn’t let a guy treat me like that, so why should I let a friend? But is this worth throwing away a friendship over? Or am I over-reacting? — Tired of Being Disrespected
The question is: is this enough of an issue for you to end the friendship, and only you can answer that. If it is, MOA! If it’s not, then you need to accept that this is how your friend is and she likely won’t ever change, so start making plans with her an hour earlier than you really want to meet up, or arrive an hour later than whatever time she suggests.
Now a year later I still have trust issues, and I sneaked a peek at his email account as he has started the same secretive behavior. Finding the websites he joined just confirms that my trust issues aren’t stupid and he is “window shopping” for other girls. I love him and we get on fantastically, but I just don’t think I could learn to trust him again and I don’t feel like being intimate now because I am disgusted by his secret sex life. Help, what do I do?! — One of the Many Girls
Get some self-respect and move on before you find out on Twitter that your boyfriend is having a baby with another woman.
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