The day she babysat came, and, when I went to pick up my child, Jackie started telling me how she knew all about me because she and my boyfriend are best friends and he tells her everything. She also told me how she still loves him and isn’t ashamed to say it.
When I talked to my boyfriend about it, he told me that Jackie was lying about him telling her everything (he showed me proof). He said she only loves him as a friend, and in the 15 years since they broke up she has never tried anything with him (except kissing him on the lips in front of his then current girlfriend, but he thought that was funny so it’s okay). She’s told him things like, “If I was skinnier, you’d want me back.” She also named her daughter after his mom (whom he was very close to), even though it’s not his daughter and they had been broken up over 10 years when the baby was born.
I think she’s still in love with my boyfriend, and I am worried she’ll try to break us up. He thinks I am overreacting. Please help! — Skeptical of the Ex
To be quite honest, all three of you adults sound a little off your rockers. What kind of woman still pines after some guy she dated 15 years ago and names her daughter after his mother (even though the baby isn’t his?) and texts him constantly and basically harasses his current girlfriend? That’s cray-cray. And what sort of man lets said crazy ex-girlfriend kiss him on the mouth in front of a new girlfriend and say it’s no big deal because it was “funny.” That’s cray, too. But the most insane of all might just be YOU for allowing both of these nut jobs into your child’s life! I mean, seriously. Why in the world would you want your crazy boyfriend’s crazy ex-girlfriend babysitting your kid, especially after she texted your boyfriend — at the same time she was texting you — that she was still in love with him?!
There’s a serious lack of judgment here across the board, and, while you certainly have no control over who texts your boyfriend or who is still in love with him or who names a kids after his mama, you CAN control who you allow in your life and in your child’s life and I would highly recommend you cut these two jokers out, pronto.
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