Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy


Happy weekend! We had plans to go upstate this weekend, but we had to cancel and now we’re staying local and hitting a couple birthday parties and Jackson’s school pumpkin patch and stuff like that. What are you up to?

By the way, Anthropologie is having a store-wide 20% sale through the weekend for members (use cade ADAY). I love this blouse, this jacket, and if you want to get a head start on planning your holiday party attire, this would be a fun alternative to a cocktail dress. (And this dress would make an amazing — and really reasonably-priced — wedding dress if you happen to be in the market).

Have a great weekend!

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Friday Links


Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

“Nasty woman” becomes the feminist rallying cry Hillary Clinton was waiting for. (I’m still not a Hillary fan, but I’m a fan of feminist rallying cries, and I’m an even bigger fan of defeating Donald Trump and never, ever hearing from his fat, fucking face again.)

Why There Are Way More ‘Nasty Women’ Than Men

Nasty women have much work to do

FYI: There is now a white-and-pink “Nasty Woman” T-shirt available for purchase, with 50 percent of funds going to Planned Parenthood.

For those, like me, who need something to feel excited about this upcoming election day: Paul Ryan warns if Republicans lose the Senate, Bernie Sanders will be Budget Committee chair

I Had a Second Trimester Abortion & I Am Sick Of Hearing Politicians’ Opinions About It

To the First Lady, With Love: Four thank-you notes to Michelle Obama, who has spent the past eight years quietly and confidently changing the course of American history.

I mean, how could they not? Women Are Wavering in Trump County, USA

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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screen-shot-2016-10-13-at-11-43-07-amWendy’s Weekly Picks,” is a feature in which I highlight stuff I like or recommend in the worlds of fashion, gift ideas, home decor, makeup, websites, entertainment, and recipes. Of course, many of the things I link to will be affiliate products, which means I’ll receive a commission on any click-throughs or purchases you make through the affiliate links. As always, I appreciate your support! Here are my favorite finds this week:

A couple weeks ago when I was in Missouri, I took Jackson to the mall because finding jeans to fit a super skinny tall boy is a made a little easier when you can hit a bunch of shops in one stop. While we were there, I made a quick pitstop in Sephora where I tried on a Le Clinique Chubby Stick. I’ve been wearing Le Clinique lip glosses for years and recommending them almost as long, but I’m a bit late to the “Chubby Stick.” Consider me sold! Like the lip glosses, the sticks come in lots of fun and bold colors, but they’re matte, and they have super strong staying power. (I put some on in the morning, and usually by mid-afternoon, after a couple cups of coffee, multiple glasses of water, and at least one full meal, the color is still going — see photo of me with Joanie above as an example.)

Oh, and we found jeans for Jackson at Old Navy, which is where I’ve always gotten his jeans (in addition to Gap and Target), but they must have changed their sizing recently because he outgrew his size 4s from last year but this year’s size 5s were enormous on him. At the mall, I had him try on some size 4s just to see, and they all fit (these are my fave). Not sure what I’ll do in a month after he grows another three inches, but I’ll cross that bridge later… (Fascinating, I know, but, if you happen to be the mom of a tall, skinny 4- or 5-year-old boy, this might be helpful info.)

Cute, cute ankle boot alert! I got these toward the end of last winter, as well as these (both on sale), so I can’t justify buying another pair of black ankle boots, but maybe you can, lucky you!

Discovered Sandwich Thins over the summer and have been making the kids’ lunches (and sometimes my own) with them ever since. Can’t believe it took me three months to make sure you knew about them, too.

I found the perfect classic t-shirt the other day at Nordstrom Rack. It’s soft, thin, drapey without being clingy, and it looks cute front-tucked into a pair of classic jeans (found those, too, by the way).

And, introducing Five Under $5:

These feather earrings.

These cute socks with a subliminal message if you’re hoping to be proposed to.

Bitches get stuff done.

Cute notebooks (set of 3).

You’re welcome

I’ve been dating my best friend for one and a half years after knowing him for three years prior to our relationship. We met at work right before my freshman year in college. We dated people during our friendship and finally started to express romantic interest once the two of us were single at the same time in May of last year.

Since we were already best friends, we didn’t need to go through that awkward phase of impressing each other. We were able to talk about kids, marriage, and living together comfortably four or five months into our relationship. I felt undeniably happy every day with him. But lately, I’ve noticed a big change in our relationship. I’m not eager to lean in and kiss him as often, I don’t bounce off the walls anymore when I see him, I’m not as touchy-feely, and I hesitate to envision what life would be like together now. Then all of a sudden we have a “good” day where I feel the way I did when we first started dating, but it goes back to the same “sunken love” the following day. Pretty much a roller coaster of happy and boring…

He graduated from college this past June, and I am in my senior year now. Starting school again this past September, I feel passionate and involved in my work. I am big with setting goals and achieving them. My boyfriend, on the other hand, still hasn’t found a “real” job and seems to take it easy in his daily life now. He sends in job applications here and there for “experience,” but he does not work as hard in finding a “good” job in my eyes. I feel that if I were in his shoes, I wouldn’t play video games every night and instead would be trying harder to earn a legitimate occupation.

I’m lost as to whether I’m experiencing the “comfortable” stage of our relationship where it is not the same as the honeymoon stage, whether I just see him as just a friend again, or whether I feel like I am being held back by the fact that he isn’t pushing himself as much as I’d like him to be. How do I/we move forward? — The Honeymoon’s Over


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This week in the forums we’re discussing:

Who’s ready to get furious?

Tips for Having Sex with a Semi-famous person

Best Friend’s Son

Future SIL and her soon to be new baby

Resigning from my position, but not leaving the company – tips?

Fwb to dating/relationship?

Controlling mom

Anyone going on awesome dates?

Weight loss/get in shape thread?

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