Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

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In just over 24 hours, all 215 books from our six participating teachers’ book registries were purchased and sent on their way to deserving kids around the country, some of whom may get nothing else this holiday season. Once those original registries were fulfilled, I added one more registry from a teacher who sent me her list on Monday in hopes of getting books to her students, too. Within a couple of hours, all of those books were purchased and sent on their way, too, making a grand total of 250 books purchased in this year’s DW holiday book drive!

Because you’ve been so generous and because some people missed the opportunity to participate in the book drive and others were asking if there was anything else we could do to help these teachers and their students, I asked all the teachers to update their registries with any additional books or items they could use (including wrapping paper to wrap the books you purchased) that would help enhance their teaching and continue inspiring their high-needs students. As some of you may know, many schools, especially those in low-income communities, have shoestring budgets that create a struggle to provide basic necessities, let alone any “extras” like a classroom library or even enough text books for every student. In my son’s school, for example, parents have to supply all the necessities, like hand soap, tissues, cleaning supplies, even printing paper, as well as help build the classroom library and play centers. In schools where kids are homeless or come from families that struggle to put food on the table, meeting even these most basic of needs is a challenge and the burden often falls on underpaid teachers to fill the gaps.

The teachers in this year’s holiday book drive work in some of the highest-poverty areas of the country. They do their best with the limited resources they have, and their students are so lucky to have them. But they could use help. For those who can, please consider contributing to these updated registries to show support and solidarity with the teachers in meeting their students’ needs (and read more about the teachers and their registries below):

Amy’s registry.

Alison’s registry.

Katie’s registry..

Sheriann’s registry.

Ms Eleczko’s registry.
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We’ve got seven weeks until our country is taken over by a raving lunatic and his team of freaks. A few people have suggested to me that I “stay in my lane” and “leave politics alone.” I won’t. This is my country, too, and I will continue using my freedom of speech and exercising my legal right and moral obligation to fight for what I believe in. Each week, I will keep posting acts of resistance and steps of activism you can take (see previous lists here and here). And now this week’s:
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This week in the forums we’re discussing:

Can you just be friends?

“My Boyfriend’s Too Close with His Brother’s Girlfriend”

New Gilmore Girls

Partner watches live webcam sex/porn

My boyfriend is a child

“He Keeps Accusing Me of Cheating”

BIL might be on drugs

I can’t get over my partners sexual history

Flaky friend

Anyone going on awesome dates?

“He Ran Off with an Undocumented Nanny”

“My Husband and Mother are Best Friends”

Weight loss/get in shape thread?

Follow along on Facebook and Instagram.

If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at wendy@dearwendy.com.

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Before I present this year’s gift guide for women: today is Giving Tuesday, and also day two of our fifth annual DW holiday book drive. We’re nearly 100% to our goal of 215 books, but still have a few more left to be purchased. Please consider contributing to this drive and giving a memorable gift to some high-needs kids who might not otherwise feel so acknowledged and remembered this holiday season. Thank you!! And now, some of my favorite gifts for women in 2016:
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Today is Giving Tuesday, and also day two of our fifth annual DW holiday book drive. We’re nearly 90% to our goal of 215 books, but still have a few more left to be purchased. Please consider contributing to this drive and giving a memorable gift to some high-needs kids who might not otherwise feel so acknowledged and remembered this holiday season. Thank you!! And here’s today’s column:

I’m 53 and my boyfriend is 58. We’re “engaged,” and I use quotations because it’s not publicly announced or acknowledged, all to protect his 17-year-old daughter. She probably knows, but “Carl” makes sure that, since the divorce nearly three years ago, their time together is void of any mention of my existence. Carl and I have been together five and a half years, and, unfortunately, his daughter knew about us before he was divorced.

I’ve met his 36-year-old son and his wife, and I just helped welcome the first grandchild at the hospital along with other family members and friends. I’ve spoken to one of his other grown sons (age 24) on FaceTime and we’ve texted. I’ve been to his elderly parents home many times, eaten there, visited, etc. I’ve met Carl’s sister and her family as well as his cousins and the like. But ANYTIME the 17-year-old daughter and her 27-year-old brother are in town for holidays, I am discarded. I end up alone.

This has become a deal-breaker. We hash it out. We split up. He always defends “protecting her young heart.” I’d be really happy if he’d protect my old one and show some respect toward me. He’s very conflicted.

I know he loves me, but, after all this time, I’m concerned with the future. Will I always be the runner-up? Will our lives revolve around creating and perpetuating this illusion for her? I desperately seek your advice. I’m in terrible pain. — The Runner-Up

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