Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Poll: “When Do You Want Sex the Most?”

A recent study suggests that a woman’s sexual appetite peaks at 11 PM on Saturday night, which makes me feel even worse about my usual 10 PM bedtime. Then again, the study was conducted in the UK, and you know how those stiff-upper-lip Brits are. (I don’t even know what that means, but let’s go with it). Anyway, do you agree with the findings of the study? Answer the poll question below to see how you compare to others.

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[via Daily Mail]

77 comments… add one
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    Trixy Minx May 15, 2012, 2:24 pm

    All the time.

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  • JK

    JK May 15, 2012, 2:29 pm

    Up until a year ago I would´ve said all the time. But now I had to say sunday afternoon. At night I´m way too tired (the 1 year old is a terrible sleeper). I mean we still have sex, but afternoon sex while the girls are napping is awesome. And I´m a bit more of an enthusiastic participant.

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    lets_be_honest May 15, 2012, 2:30 pm

    I chose first thing in the morning, but if I had two choices, I’d also pick 11pm on any night.

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      ktfran May 15, 2012, 4:36 pm

      Ditto.

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  • CatsMeow

    CatsMeow May 15, 2012, 2:32 pm

    I picked Sunday afternoon, but first thing in the morning comes in a CLOSE second.

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    SweetPeaG May 15, 2012, 2:41 pm

    Holla! to everyone who said Sunday afternoon. Actually, I wish I could have afternoon sex everyday…

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    • rainbow

      rainbow May 15, 2012, 2:46 pm

      That’s my favorite thing about working from home.

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  • rainbow

    rainbow May 15, 2012, 2:44 pm

    I don’t understand morning sex, unless it includes breakfast as foreplay. Touch me when I’m just waking up and still haven’t eaten or drank anything and I’ll probably curl up in a ball and start crying for coffee and a pancake.

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  • Kristina

    Kristina May 15, 2012, 2:47 pm

    All the time. Except when I’m sick. Sick sex is the worst.

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      Addie Pray May 15, 2012, 10:37 pm

      That’s how I feel about full sex. After eating? Gross.

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    AndreaMarie May 15, 2012, 2:48 pm

    Ummm I don’t think they needed a study to say a woman’s interest in sex peaks at 11pm on a Saturday night….could it be after a night out on the town…most likely after a few drinks she’s more open to feeling a little frisky?!

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      Somebody May 15, 2012, 3:56 pm

      Definitely not for me – if you try to touch me after 10pm it’s like necrophilia. I’m dead to the world and definitely have no sex energy. Drinks just make me even more sleepy. But first thing in the morning….

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  • Fabelle

    Fabelle May 15, 2012, 2:51 pm

    I chose first thing in the morning, because that’s when I’m always horny (without fail). All those other times, I COULD be down for sex, but it depends. There is no “it depends” or “maybe” for me first thing in the morning; it’s always “yes.”

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    • Firegirl32

      Firegirl32 May 15, 2012, 2:56 pm

      I am EXACTLY the same way. I wonder why that is?

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      • Brad

        Brad May 15, 2012, 6:20 pm

        your brain ins’t awake enough yet to talk yourself out of it

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  • landygirl

    landygirl May 15, 2012, 2:55 pm

    Random times, it isn’t consistent.

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    • TaraMonster

      TaraMonster May 15, 2012, 4:48 pm

      Right? Like when I’m in Duane Reade picking out nail polish, my mind will wander and the next thing I know I’m planning elaborate scenarios in which I seduce my boyfriend when he gets home from work.

      And no, I do not have a nail polish fetish; I’m just horny a lot.

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  • SweetsAndBeats

    SweetsAndBeats May 15, 2012, 3:04 pm

    I chose ‘vacation’ because that’s when it’s easiest, most enjoyable, and also a little more thrilling because you’re somewhere different than normal.

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    va-in-ny May 15, 2012, 3:05 pm

    My sex drive has plummeted (I wish I could increase the font size on that) in the past year or so. It might be the birth control I’m currently on, but my desire to have sex is basically none these days. I am way too tired in the morning or at night, and honestly, it would probably take a long vacation on an island somewhere to pull some sex drive outta me. Honestly, there should be no reason for it, I’m in my mid-20s, no children, and sometimes, I really miss it.

    ::sigh:: Anyone else have this problem? Does it get better?

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    • mandalee

      mandalee May 15, 2012, 3:18 pm

      I feel you there! My sex drive was pretty embarrassing for a 25-year old newlywed due to my birth control. Honestly, I found that the more I have sex, the more I want it. So, my way of dealing with it, was to set a goal for the week and stick to it. It sounds completely unromantic, but it worked. After a few weeks, I didn’t really need a goal, I just wanted it all the time on my own. My husband was a much happier man, and I felt sexy again. Win, win.

      With birth control having an effect on your desire to have sex, you need to commit to creating opportunities to have it or want it.

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        lets_be_honest May 15, 2012, 3:31 pm

        I’ll second the more you have, the more you want.

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      GatorGirl May 15, 2012, 3:29 pm

      I totalllllly have this problem. I’m 26 and have zero drive. We did the scheduling thing for a while and it really worked well for us. I was able to phsyc myself up mentally to get in the mood and he was able to stop being “pushy” and bringing it up all the time because he knew it was going to happen. I def think BC is a huge role in my low drive but I also think it’s just the way my brain works. If I feel like I have anything to get done (laundry, dishes, feed the cat, feed me) I can’t focus on sex. Also if I don’t feel like I have the time for me to get off then I want to part. Selfish? Yes. We’re working on it- we talk about it alot, try to come up with different solutions (writing a to do list on the night stand in order to be able to clear my mind…yeah that happens) and I’m getting off of this BC asap. Which means a year and a half after we’re married and won’t mind if a babe shows up.

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      ktfran May 15, 2012, 4:45 pm

      Birth control effected my sex drive. As in, I didn’t want it – ever. So I stopped using it and strictly use condoms. But right now, I’m not in a committed relationship. If I were, I would seriously consider the non-hormonal IUD. Or whatever it is. To me, sex drive outweighs the benefit of birth control.

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    • buttoned

      buttoned May 15, 2012, 7:33 pm

      I’m sorry that’s happened to you :/ I’ve been on the pill for six months now, but I haven’t noticed a plummet. Maybe a tiny drop, but exercise and de-stressing activities really help me! Perhaps you should look to switching methods, something non-hormonal? I personally would be sad to give up my pill because of the good skin it has got me.

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    Morgan May 15, 2012, 3:26 pm

    Ryan Gosling, followed closely by weekend mornings. Obviously Ryan Gosling first thing in the morning would be ideal.

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    • rainbow

      rainbow May 15, 2012, 4:40 pm

      I don’t find him sexy at all. He looks really annoying to me, and I find his facial hair stupid.
      (Go on, come looking for me all of you and burn me at the city gates =) )

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      • JK

        JK May 15, 2012, 4:44 pm

        I know, right? I´m realizing that U.S. girls´ taste in men is quite different from what would appear to be the case in Argentina.

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        GatorGirl May 15, 2012, 4:47 pm

        I’m an American and I don’t find him attraactive at all. He’s too pretty. I’d rather a more “manly” man with a beard and such.

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      • JK

        JK May 15, 2012, 4:51 pm

        I hear you on the manly men. But stubble, not beard for me. 🙂

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      • rainbow

        rainbow May 15, 2012, 4:52 pm

        Manly men FTW!

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      • rainbow

        rainbow May 15, 2012, 5:09 pm

        Also, not manly man FTW too! Except this one.

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      • rainbow

        rainbow May 15, 2012, 5:37 pm

        Also, aguante Juan Palomino.

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      • JK

        JK May 15, 2012, 5:58 pm

        Hmm, no es mi estilo. And now I can´t think of any famous argentinos I actually like.
        While we´re on the subject, though, years ago in a nightclub, my friend and I were hit on by Mariano Martinez (who was just becoming famous) and a friend of his. And Mariano Martinez came up to like my chin.

        Ah, now I remembered, German Palacios and Sbaraglia. Yummy.

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      • JK

        JK May 15, 2012, 6:01 pm

        And don´t hate me, but I LOOOOOOOOOVE Veron. And another couple of football players, that I can´t think of at the moment.

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      • rainbow

        rainbow May 15, 2012, 7:01 pm

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      • JK

        JK May 15, 2012, 7:07 pm

        yeah, the fact that he´s related to Maradona puts me off him. 🙂
        He does have an amazing body though. MInd you football player´s bodies are one of the only reasons I sometimes watch football with my husband!

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        Caris May 15, 2012, 10:17 pm

        im from argentina and i find him sexy 🙂

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        rachel May 15, 2012, 4:55 pm

        Agreed. I just don’t think he’s that good looking. My new love is Henry Cavill because I’ve been watching the Tudors.

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      • rainbow

        rainbow May 15, 2012, 5:05 pm

        That’s much, much better =)

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        painted_lady May 15, 2012, 9:53 pm

        See, I’ve loved Cavill for years, but I also love Ryan Gosling. But then again, I also love Ryan Reynolds (loved him before Van Wilder, even). And I also love Lenny Kravitz and Tim Howard (I hear you and JK on the footballer thing, those men have unreal bodies). I can’t decide if I’m appreciative of diversity, or I’m just kind of a whore (in the sex-positive sense).

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    Amybelle May 15, 2012, 3:29 pm

    I picked Ryan Gosling, because there was no Channing Tatum option.

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    • SweetsAndBeats

      SweetsAndBeats May 15, 2012, 3:40 pm

      I would have picked David Beckham.

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        lets_be_honest May 15, 2012, 3:44 pm

        You’ve never heard him talk then…

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        PFG-SCR May 15, 2012, 3:51 pm

        That’s why ball gags were invented.

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      • SweetsAndBeats

        SweetsAndBeats May 15, 2012, 4:34 pm

        Wait, what? Why is there anything wrong with the way he talks? I love his accent.

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        lets_be_honest May 15, 2012, 5:04 pm

        Sounds like a girl. But maybe you’re into that sorta thing 😉

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      • SweetsAndBeats

        SweetsAndBeats May 15, 2012, 5:07 pm

        It’s not so bad. I highly doubt we’d be engaging in a whole lot of conversation, anyways.

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        painted_lady May 15, 2012, 10:00 pm

        “Shhh, baby, shh.”

        I may have shared this on here, so forgive me if I’m repeating myself, but I worked a summer theatre gig about five years ago. You work 80 hours a week with people, you become good friends fast, and there was this running gag in the scene shop. Anytime someone was being particularly annoying, someone would say, “Shh, baby, shh,” and push the person’s head crotch-ward. Girls did it to guys, guys to girls, guys to guys, etc, which is why it was hilarious rather than horrifying. So yeah, Beckham’s voice is a tad annoying, but, “Shh, baby, shh.”

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    • rainbow

      rainbow May 15, 2012, 5:09 pm

      I don’t want to sound like the attraction police today, but Channing Tatum looks kinda stupid to me too in every picture except this one: http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQiZqrTTCVcmITTyelz1CgerJRXkv9TqLL5KJOIJ42_6PMq9qXISDeLF1Q6

      Is his mouth fake?

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    GatorGirl May 15, 2012, 3:30 pm

    Weekend mornings! Hands down. A nice leasurly Sunday curled up in bed loving on each other for hours? Mmmm mmm.

    Why do we have to have plans for the next two Sundays?! Scratch that 4 Sundays!

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    lets_be_honest May 15, 2012, 3:45 pm

    Too bad right after he falls asleep isn’t an option.

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      PFG-SCR May 15, 2012, 3:50 pm

      Wake him…up! 😉

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    • Brad

      Brad May 15, 2012, 5:34 pm

      He doesn’t need to be awake to get an erection you know ;-). And no man in his right mind is going to yell at you if he wakes up to find you giving him special kisses or sitting in his lap. Not if he wants to get laid anytime soon again at least…

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    PFG-SCR May 15, 2012, 3:49 pm

    All the damn time…it’s a curse!

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    • Brad

      Brad May 15, 2012, 5:29 pm

      no it’s not

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    Michelle.Lea May 15, 2012, 3:44 pm

    any day, but i prefer NOT workday mornings. i dont like getting up early, so i’m extra grumpy. any other time? definitely!

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  • Brad

    Brad May 15, 2012, 5:24 pm

    As a guy, I’d just like to pipe in and say that I’m extremely pleased to see that “All the time” is in first place. You ladies rock! That’s all.

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  • katie

    katie May 15, 2012, 5:26 pm

    i have found it depends on the time of the month and what i have on my mind… like right after my period, im all for it all the time. then it slowly wans as i get closer to my period…. and then, also, if there is anything on my mind that i have to do, i cant properly focus. sometimes, my boyfriend will be like, you wanna? and ill be like, we cant we have to do x, y and z… and then he will help me get those things done! its really cute. i mean, he probably just wants it, whatever, but he says he is trying to let me enjoy it more. i like it.

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      GatorGirl May 15, 2012, 8:15 pm

      My fiancé does the same thing! He knows if the dishes need to be put up thats all I’m going to think about so he’ll go do it. I think it’s sweet.

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    Slamy May 15, 2012, 6:08 pm

    My very favorite time is when I wake up at 4 in the morning “special friend” has stayed the night, so I can wake him up and get down. Otherwise, first thing in the morning.

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    anonymous May 15, 2012, 6:41 pm

    Ummm… where’s the option for “when the kids are asleep”?

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  • buttoned

    buttoned May 15, 2012, 7:36 pm

    I’d definitely say all the time, if we didn’t have homework and projects and extracurriculars and studying in the way. hump day and the weekends are ideal during the school semester, but now that it’s summer and we have a free schedule…heh heh heh

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    painted_lady May 15, 2012, 10:06 pm

    Now, I voted first thing in the morning, but that’s really as soon as I’m *actually* awake, rather than groggy and grumpy. Which ranges anywhere from 6 am (occasionally my alarm goes off at the crack of dawn and I’m ready to go) to, you know, NOON.

    Though in all honesty, with a minimum amount of stress and exhaustion (so, summer and other school breaks), I’m good to go when the hell ever.

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  • Budj

    Budj May 15, 2012, 10:20 pm

    I forgot. I feel like a born-again virgin….but I want to say I think that any time is probably accurate.

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    • Brad

      Brad May 15, 2012, 10:24 pm

      heh that makes 2 of us, lol… 🙁

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        Addie Pray May 15, 2012, 10:42 pm

        Hey, Brad, I want you to meet my good friend Budj. …

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        Addie Pray May 15, 2012, 10:43 pm

        (I mean, you do have a lot in common.)

        J/k. Budj is still my boyfriend, though he hasn’t sent me flowers in, like, forever. Well, not “like” forever. Just forever.

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      • Budj

        Budj May 16, 2012, 9:19 am

        Maybe I’d send you flowers if you weren’t so with holding!

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        Addie Pray May 16, 2012, 9:38 am

        oh good point. ok, i’ll work on this, and you work no that.

        see? excellent communication.

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      • Budj

        Budj May 16, 2012, 9:40 am

        We are the best.

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    Anna May 16, 2012, 4:17 am

    Before the past week, I would have said all the time. The last week has been so hard on me that I still haven’t regained my desire.

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      painted_lady May 16, 2012, 8:58 am

      That’s how I knew I was past the roughest part of getting over my last ex – all of a sudden, I was like, “I want it NOW, and I don’t really care with whom.” I had a friend call a friend of hers I’d previously had a one-night stand with and scratched the proverbial itch. You’ll find it – it just takes time.

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        Anna May 16, 2012, 6:11 pm

        I’d settle for just feeling the desire so I can take matters into my own hands, so to speak. One night stands just aren’t my thing, no matter how itchy I am.

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    MsMisery May 16, 2012, 1:06 pm

    It seems like the other “No” girls are cuz of their bc pills. *feels like the only asexual in the world*

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    iseeshiny May 16, 2012, 3:22 pm

    I just rode the elevator with a guy who smelled like clean laundry. There needs to be a poll choice for that.

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