Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Quote of the Day: That’s a Lot of Broken Hearts

“The average woman will kiss 22 men, enjoy four long-term relationships and have [her] heart broken five times before [she] meets ‘the one.'”

Wanna know how many one-night stands the average woman will have in her lifetime? Find out after the jump.

“Researchers found she will endure six bad dates, have six one-night stands, be cheated on four times and meet at least one partner online.”

The same survey of 2,000 adults, conducted by some random dating site, discovered that the average man is “likely to kiss 23 girls, have ten one night stands and their be left heartbroken by six women.” That’s a lotta broken hearts for all of us… [via DailyMail]

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    MissDre March 17, 2011, 6:15 pm

    Oh no I hope that doesn’t mean I have to go through 3 more broken hearts!

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    AKchic March 17, 2011, 6:41 pm

    Wow… *cough* I think I’ve filled the quota for one-night stands for a few posters.

    I’ve “enjoyed” two long term relationships (one is currently still going strong) and was miserable in another. Does this mean I have to do the whole dating thing again? I don’t wanna! *hides under her bed with the active and thriving dust bunny farm*

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  • Kristina

    Kristina March 17, 2011, 7:34 pm

    I think that kissing average sounds really low. I don’t take kissing to be all that serious though, so maybe that’s just me.

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      anna728 March 17, 2011, 10:48 pm

      I thought the same thing.

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      Laurel March 17, 2011, 11:57 pm

      Remember you’ve got people like me to balance the average out (I’ve only kissed six guys, and I’m sure there are lots of people with even less than me!)

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      • Kristina

        Kristina March 18, 2011, 12:02 am

        Very true.

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        SpyGlassez March 18, 2011, 12:11 am

        One. I’ve kissed one. I am not comfortable with PDAs and had not really dated before my BF (one High School boyfriend for 6 weeks, with whom I spent almost no time, does not count). So someone has had my assortment of kisses!

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      Stephanie March 18, 2011, 12:32 pm

      it used to mean a lot. didn’t get my first kiss til i was almost 23 because i took it so seriously. then i got a little too much into the partying and it started to mean not so much. i kissed 9 guys and 6 girls in a year – most of them just once for fun in the moment. now, almost exactly a year later, i think its starting to mean something again thanks to one of the guys i did kiss more than once. sadly, it took us breaking up for me to realize i didn’t want to kiss anyone else

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    HmC March 17, 2011, 8:02 pm

    I like the implication that you will have your heart broken by people you never even make it to a relationship with. Ugh those are the worst!

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    • Kristina

      Kristina March 17, 2011, 8:03 pm

      I agree those are the worst! I’ve been going through one of those right now.

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    Maynard March 17, 2011, 9:00 pm

    Dang. The thought of getting my heart broken again when I’m still hurting so badly from this one literally makes me cry ๐Ÿ™

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      _jsw_ March 17, 2011, 9:29 pm

      Maynard, I suspect the next guy will have a functioning brain and won’t let you go. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    _jsw_ March 17, 2011, 9:28 pm

    How can the average number of heterosexual one night stands not be exactly the same for men and women?

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      HmC March 17, 2011, 10:16 pm

      It’s just a survey- women round down and men round up. ๐Ÿ™‚

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      RoyalEagle0408 March 18, 2011, 12:57 pm

      Because they didn’t ask for Dennis’ amazing graphing skills and just took a survey.

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    Bdubs629 March 17, 2011, 10:12 pm

    this reminds me of that gum commercial “the average person will have 28 first kisses…” My roommates joke that I’m trying to work my way through those kisses with all the bad boyfriends I have haha!

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    Jshizzle March 17, 2011, 10:47 pm

    Selection bias! I’d be interested in what the actual averages are.

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    anna728 March 17, 2011, 10:47 pm

    Oh dear these things always make me look bad. I just thought through and I think I kissed my 22nd guy probably during my sophomore year of college. Guess I’ll be going way over the average!

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      Wendy March 18, 2011, 8:41 am

      I was a kissing bandit in college, and I couldn’t even count how many people I kissed. I have not ever had a one-night-stand, though. So, I guess I’m probably pretty average.

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      • Heather

        Heather March 18, 2011, 12:32 pm

        There’s nothing wrong with being a kisser! That seems pretty innocent to me. ๐Ÿ™‚

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      • Roxy_84

        Roxy84 March 18, 2011, 4:16 pm

        I’m the same as you Wendy. I’m sure my number of kisses is easily over 30, but no one night stands. Well, yet.

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    jessielou March 17, 2011, 10:39 pm

    5 times?! DO NOT WANT.
    I like who I’m with right now, please don’t let him become a statistic from the Daily Mail…

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      MissDre March 18, 2011, 8:58 am

      That’s how I feel!

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    SpyGlassez March 18, 2011, 12:13 am

    I’m so behind. One kissing partner, one LTR (with “the One”), one heart-pang from someone I didn’t date….but I think I’ll let other people make up my averages. ๐Ÿ˜€

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      Rachelgrace53 March 24, 2011, 4:45 pm

      Behind?? No… You’re definitely AHEAD if you’ve found “the One” having only had one kissing partner and one broken heart. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    Jessicaxmx March 18, 2011, 12:32 am

    I had to go home to my family for a broken heart once. The one thing that stuck out to me was my father. He was there with me the whole time and he told me “Hey, this happens, and it’s probably gonna happen again.” So true.

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    scattol March 18, 2011, 7:52 am

    Great, I have 10 one night stands left to go. Wait till I tell the wife…

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  • TheLadyE

    Elisse March 18, 2011, 8:54 am

    Ugh. I’m going through my 3rd heartbreak right now. I’m not sure I have it in me to go through this one…much less go through it two more times. No way. I get too attached and it’s too traumatic.

    Also, I’ve only kissed 4 guys…and 2 out of the 3 who’ve now broken my heart I didn’t even get to kiss. Pretty sure there’s something wrong here. ๐Ÿ™

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    Emma March 18, 2011, 11:29 am

    Well… I guess I am certainly not average, then. All of my stats are below average (I found true love quite young) except the kissing part, which is just an on-going montage of party scenes, to be honest.

    Also: What counts as a broken heart? Just a bad break-up? Losing the guy/girl? Could it be being hopelessly in love with someone for years? How ’bout just being lonesome in general, and always being turned down? Or is this something that you need to define on your own?

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      maynard March 18, 2011, 12:55 pm

      a broken heart means your heart is broken. I would think the definition is unique to the individual.

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    RoyalEagle0408 March 18, 2011, 11:30 am

    Hmmm…I’ve kissed 17 guys (counted once in on a bored evening in college), so maybe I should hit up a club tonight. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    MellaJade March 18, 2011, 3:28 pm

    I was in a sorority and can’t remember how many guys I’ve kissed. Does it count as a ‘one-night stand’ if the guy keeps texting and wants to get together again? I thought he would just be one night but now it looks like he wants to be F-buddies…it wasn’t that good, don’t know if I’ll bother. Clearly, I’ve digressed. Okay, I currently have a different F-buddy that I met on line and in the past year my heart was totally broken once and just bruised once. Man, that leaves a lot more heartbreak ahead of me instead of behind….BOO!

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      AKchic March 21, 2011, 4:12 am

      Looks like you’ll have to break the texter’s heart and tell him you won’t be repeating your experience after the one-nighter! Gotta keep up with the statistics y’know!

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    Jessigurl March 18, 2011, 4:19 pm

    We are our own statistics. We can’t simply look at this and say “Wow, I just thought I found the love of my life, but he’s only the 2nd long relationship I’ve been in so this isn’t going to last based on these statistics.” oh and statistically speaking.. 30% of statistics are bullshit.

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    Joanna March 18, 2011, 7:58 pm

    I’ve had 4 LTRs (not counting high school), had my heart broken 4 times, had countless one night stands, and probably kissed somewhere between 50 and 60 different guys. I’ve been addicted to sex and broken through my addiction, had a couple non-serious relationships, and finally arrived at a relationship I hope will last the rest of my life. I have never been treated with so much kindness, understandung and respect before and it is a truly wonderful feeling.

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    AB March 19, 2011, 3:29 am

    I think it’s kinda cool how the numbers are men and women are really similar. Apparently we aren’t that different when it comes to sex and love.

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  • fast eddie

    fast eddie March 20, 2011, 10:09 am

    There are about 30 women that had a one night stand with me over a 20 year period. Not bragging, just stating a fact and I was an under achiever in the 70s and 80s. While it was enjoyable at the time I really wanted an commitment but couldn’t make it happen as was really confused.

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    AKchic March 21, 2011, 4:20 am

    I would be curious to know about the statistics for lesbian women and bisexual women. Would they be higher or lower than heterosexual women? I would assume that bisexual women would be a bit higher just because they have a wider pool to choose from (I know I did/do).

    And what about “alternative” arrangements? In the 60s-70s they did “wife swapping”. I know that my second husband and I were invited to be with another couple that we were friends with (I met the husband through my work life and he introduced me to his bisexual wife). I think that it would be interesting to find out how many people have “alternative” sex lives or at the very least, have had alternative sexual experiences with a significant other.

    I know I’m probably going to get flak for this, but… what about religious ritualistic sex? Not everyone is of Judeo-Christian backgrounds.

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    Rachelgrace53 March 24, 2011, 4:48 pm

    These numbers for female averages are scary accurate for me: 4 LTR’s, 5 heartbreaks… and at 11 kissing partners, I’m exactly half the average there. Only one “two-night stand” though, so does that count as one or two?

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