There was such an overwhelming response when I asked readers to introduce themselves on a weekend open thread that I decided to give you all a weekly column to do just that. I’ve always said this site wouldn’t be what it is without the engagement and participation of its readers and this column is the place to learn more about who you are what makes you tick. After the jump, let’s meet Addie Pray.
1. What’s your name, age and whereabouts?
On DearWendy.com, I’m Addie Pray, which is the name of the main character in my favorite movie, “Paper Moon.” In real life, I’m named after an ancient Assyrian city. I’m 32, and I live in Chicago.
2. What’s your relationship status?
3. How do you spend your weekdays?
I’m an attorney at a large law firm. That means I spend my days in suits (or, jeans if it’s Friday! Oh, the small things in life), at my desk, where I research, read, write, and track my billable time in six-minute increments. Then, after a day of that, I have a glass of red wine, or three.
4. How do you spend your free time?
When I am not working or traveling to visit family/friends on the weekends (which I seem to do often), you’ll find me in one of three places: at the gym, at a bar or restaurant with friends, or on my couch catching up on my DVR’d shows (e.g., The Good Wife, Mad Men, 30 Rock, True Blood, Big Love … and, shhhh, Sister Wives and Keeping Up with the Kardashians; ok, maybe True Blood should be moved to the “shhhh” list). Sometimes, but not often enough, you’ll find me at the grocery store stocking up on red wine, peanut butter, chips, salsa, and cheese (i.e., the five basic food groups).
5. What are your top likes and dislikes?
Likes: dive bars, Bikram yoga, “Vanity Fair,” hiking, biking, documentaries, Jon Krakauer’s “Under the Banner of Heaven,” road trips, Tina Fey (I want to be friends with her; how can I make that happen?), small town diners, Paris, tennis shoes, and my sweet nephews/niece.
Dislikes: shopping, pretentious people, trendy places, Nancy Grace, Fox news, men in skinny jeans, The Bachelor, and tapas (i.e., plates that are already smaller than average and that I have to share with others!?! That seems inherently wrong).
6. What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever been given?
He’s just not that into me. Painful, but true.
7. What’s the best relationship lesson you’ve ever learned?
This question is really hard for me. I keep skipping it and coming back. There are a few lessons I’ve learned – or am trying to learn – such as: I can’t force “it”; I shouldn’t waste my time on unavailable/uninterested men in hopes they’ll come around; and I need to do a better job at communicating what I want – which, to that end, means I need to do a better job at understanding what I want. That last one is a difficult one for me, for some reason. Each year I understand myself a little bit better.
8. Besides DearWendy.com, what are some of your favorite websites?
For celebrity gossip, my favorite site is What Would Tyler Durden Do? I also like reading everything my friend Sam has to say; he’s funny and clever and has a good heart. So let me take this moment to plug Sam. Last but not least, I enjoy reading Tyler Coulson’s blog. I’ve never met Tyler, but we have friends in common and email frequently. I first read about Tyler on Above the Law, the “Perez Hilton” of law-related gossip. Above the Law featured Tyler, a former attorney at a big law firm in Chicago – just a couple of blocks from my firm, actually – because he decided the law wasn’t for him, sent a funny “goodbye” email to his firm (world-wide!), and quit on the spot. Tyler boldly walked away from his big pay check … to take a walk across the United States with his dog Mabel. Say what you will about that decision, but he’s doing it! He started out in Delaware last spring and is nearing his destination in San Diego. Tyler is interesting; I like reading his posts and emailing with him about his journey and about life in general.
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