There was such an overwhelming response when I asked readers to introduce themselves on a weekend open thread that I decided to give you all a weekly column to do just that. I’ve always said this site wouldn’t be what it is without the engagement and participation of its readers and this column is the place to learn more about who you are what makes you tick. After the jump, let’s meet Sonia Aurora.
1. What’s your name, age and whereabouts?
Sonia Aurora Lepe, though as a writer I just use Sonia Aurora, I’m 38 (I’ve been told I look younger so I don’t mind telling people my real age…my philosophy is once people stop being impressed with my age I’ll start evasive maneuvers). I live in North Jersey…I like to say ‘by Giants Stadium’ to New Yorkers, and Exits 16W/ 153 to everyone else, cause apparently Jersey is known for it’s exits…(I learned this when I went to college in Maryland my freshman year).
2. What’s your relationship status?
I have been in a long distance relationship with Scott, who lives in southwest Iowa, for over 4 years. We met at his brother’s/my best friend’s wedding. After no bites on my recurring column idea discussing LDR’s, I decided to write a blog instead at llddr.wordpress.com (soon to be llddr.com, if I can wrest the name back from homestead.com…)
3. How do you spend your weekdays?
By day, I’m an Office Manager at an accounting firm; not terribly exciting, but I am good at admin work and as a creative type I could use the structure.
4. How do you spend your free time?
My free time is spent writing, reading, watching TV, discovering new music, and figuring out ways to earn as many frequent flier miles as possible with the least amount of spending. In the wintertime I tend to crochet and sew a lot…I actually just recently dusted off my sewing machine to make my 17-year-old niece a purse for Christmas, and I’m seriously considering branching out to make and sell stuff on etsy. I’ve also been trying my hand at selling lia sophia but I’m not much of a sales(wo)man…
5. What are your top likes and dislikes?
My top likes are ice cream (I believe ice cream makes everything better), football (I just started getting into college football this season, go Hawkeyes!), my dog Chewy (he’s a big softy…); my dislikes are people that think because I own a Rottweiler he must like to try to bite people and other dogs. I take pride in having an obedient dog, but other dogs actually make me nervous; I’m astonished by poor dog owners that open their door and let their little dog come at mine.
6. What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever been given?
It was actually from Wendy, from a letter of mine that she answered, where she told me that I needed to stop listening to my family’s well-meaning but warped advice: “Don’t listen to them anymore. Do what feels right for you, and accept that whatever decision(s) you make are ones that are going to be impacting you the most, so listen to your inner voice and try to shut out all the other noise.” I’ve always been wishy-washy about taking a stand for myself, but that final Wendy-push has helped me take significant strides in figuring out what I want for myself, overall, and saying so.
7. What’s the best relationship lesson you’ve ever learned?
When a guy asks for space/time, give it to them. I’ve also learned to ask/take it for myself. That part of me that gets anxious has finally started to abate if I just take time to breathe. It does WONDERS for communication, overall, because sometimes you just need to let the emotions settle down, whatever emotions they might be.
8. Besides DearWendy.com, what are some of your favorite websites?
I love advice columns generally, but Wendy and Carolyn Hax are my faves. I also love PinkRaygun.com (I’m biased, as I write for the site), and I’m a little Etsy.com and Ebay.com obsessed. I also love Amazon.com.
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