There was such an overwhelming response when I asked readers to introduce themselves on a weekend open thread that I decided to give you all a weekly column to do just that. I’ve always said this site wouldn’t be what it is without the engagement and participation of its readers and this column is the place to learn more about who you are what makes you tick. After the jump, let’s meet va-in-ny.
1. What’s your name, age and whereabouts?
Hey there! I’m Virginia (va-in-ny on DW). I live in Manhattan and I’m certain you can all figure out my DW user name now! Since I am originally from North Carolina, people used to joke that I’m Virginia, living in New York, by way of North Carolina. Hence, VA in NY was born! I’m 25 years old.
2. What’s your relationship status?
Happily in a relationship! We’re going strong on two years! And, believe it or not, we’re still in that silly ‘gooey-love’ stage. I’m sure it annoys people.
Not an easy road though, (it never is, is it?) as before him, I ended a 4-year relationship about 10 days before my ex and I were supposed to get married. I still have some PTSD flare-ups at times.
3. How do you spend your weekdays?
I work for a company that manufactures recording studio equipment. Basically, I make sure every department is running smoothly and has everything they need to keep it going!
4. How do you spend your free time?
Honestly, I watch a lot of previously recorded TV, yell at my kitten (did you know those things don’t sleep, like, ever?!), pick up things that the kitten has knocked over, and spend time with the manfriend. I go to the gym a lot (trying to lose that last little bit!) and I’m always looking for free (or cheap) things to do in NYC. I love to cook and to bake things, even though my coworkers are starting to put a cap on the amount of baked goods I can bring into the office. Apparently, I’m making all the men in the office buy larger pants!
5. What are your top likes and dislikes:
Likes: Brunch, Zoos and Aquariums, Pretending I’m super rich and “shopping” online, hanging out with my family, cruises, Bloody Mary’s, GChat, fall weather (not the rainy kind), babies, weddings, parties, and dreaming about decorating some really fantastic home someday.
Dislikes: Mustard, heavy breathers on the subway (I should never be able to feel your breath coming out of your nose or mouth), when they edit musicals for TV and take out parts of songs, being barefoot on a dirty floor, North-South ignorance (and generally any idea that a person is a certain way just because of where they are from), bed bugs, and the E train.
6. What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever been given?
I read something once about a mythology belief that humans once roamed the earth as two beings; one unit sharing four legs, four arms, and one head with two faces. Because of this, humans were blissfully happy but it worried the Gods, who feared losing their power (I might be wrong with some of this stuff since it’s coming from memory). So, Zeus split them in half, giving each two legs, two arms, and one face, then condemning them to spend their lives searching for the other half to complete them. When I thought about this idea, it helped me in the dating realm by allowing me to not get discouraged about a ‘half’ that didn’t fit. So, if a guy blew me off or stood me up, or broke my heart, I knew that it would all be okay because they weren’t my “other half” anyway. We’re all intricate puzzle pieces, some pieces fit with us, some don’t.
7. What’s the best relationship lesson you’ve ever learned?
Not all guys are bad. In seriousness, I am still learning this. Just because I was deeply hurt by a boy (yeah, he deserves “boy” in this case) in my past doesn’t mean that every man will treat me poorly. There ARE good men out there. Sometimes we have to be told over and over and over again before we truly believe it. But, I know that now, I have one of those good men. And even though I doubt him sometimes (because of my own insecurities, not by anything he has done) I still have learned that you can’t compare all men to the one man that didn’t treat you well.
8. Besides DearWendy.com, what are some of your favorite websites?
I’m really into fashion blogs, interior design websites, weight loss and pregnancy blogs these days (I know, being nowhere near baby-ready, that is so weird, right?) and basically anything that makes me laugh. Some good ones:
I’ve decided to run a marathon next year (I’m obviously insane) so any blog or website out there that talks about a non-athlete completing a marathon (or any other ridiculous distance event) I jump all over.
And, if any of you would like to know what goes on in my world, visit me over at va-in-ny.blogspot.com.
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