It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
This isn’t the past you’re talking about; this is the present. Your “boyfriend” is going to be the father of two babies that he conceived with two different women while cheating on you. Yes, this is a big deal and you should MOA before you, too, find yourself the mother of a baby whose father can’t afford to pay child support because he’s already supporting two other children with two different baby mamas.
He never apologized or anything so two days after he called I forwarded his message and I said: “I’m sending you back your message for you to realize how bad you sound.” He never replied and now I know he is in his parents’ house in Utah with his girlfriend celebrating Christmas and it hurts a little.
Let me know what you think. — Call Me Maybe
I think you need to delete him from Facebook, delete his phone number from your phone, block any further communication from him and get on with your life. Your breakup was two years ago, he’s with someone else and he doesn’t want you or your cat back no matter what some drunken, late-night message might lead you to believe. Plus, he has rats.
Uh, yeah, it’s ok to rather be with someone who loves you for you and doesn’t make you feel shitty about yourself. If fact, that’s actually the way it should be. Dump this loser and avoid manipulative jerks like this one in the future.
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at firstname.lastname@example.org.