It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
If you use birth control pills solely as contraception, then it is absolutely fair to ask and expect your boyfriend or regular sex partner to pay for 50% of the cost. If you have other reasons for taking birth control pills, and would continue taking them even if your sex partner was interested in and willing to pay for a different means of contraception, then it’s unfair to expect a sex partner to cover any of the cost of the pills.
We tried to make it work, but then recently I went out of town and he went to the bar and drank (which he had said he had quit doing), and then bought a new truck without talking to me. Finally, the bomb was replying to Craigslist ads and sending naked pics out. I’m just so lost and don’t know what to do. He ALWAYS says he won’t do it again, but when is it enough? — So Lost
Exactly. When IS enough enough? Please, for your safety as well as your daughter’s, let this finally be enough and MOA. Here are some tips for leaving a partner who is violent.
Why don’t you ASK your girlfriend if you’re invited to the wedding, either directly or as her plus one. If you aren’t, or if she refuses to answer you, THEN you can discuss what the reasons were and/or decide whether this is indicative of a larger issue in your relationship and whether it’s time to MOA. You aren’t being out of line for wanting to end a relationship where you feel unwanted, but it’s a pretty big leap to go from assuming you are unwelcome at a wedding to believing you are unwanted in a relationship and you need to fill in some missing pieces first before you fly off the handle.
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