It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
Yes, you are wrong to resent a father WANTING to talk to his daughter who is stuck at home with two young children and probably misses her mother very much. If these calls are truly interrupting something serious or if they go on for longer than five or ten minutes, say something. Otherwise, respect that your boyfriend is a loving father and grandfather and has such a close relationship with his long-distance daughter. It says a lot about his character and how he values important interpersonal relationships.
Oh please, you aren’t concerned about canceling on people with disabilities — for one thing, it’s only called “canceling” if you’ve already said yes, which you did… to your boyfriend’s invitation first; and for another thing, even if you did cancel, giving three weeks notice is hardly leaving your employers in a lurch. But this is about making money, which you have decided is more important than spending the day with your boyfriend and his family. So, embrace that and spend a little of that money on a nice gift for his family — a basket of gourmet cookies, maybe — and a handwritten note expressing your regret for missing out on being with them.
Consult a Magic Eight Ball and do exactly whatever it tells you to do because that, along with your horoscope, holds all the answers.
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected].