It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
I have been seeing this guy for almost six years now. He’s been hooked on porn sites and everything that has to do with women. In the beginning, I was just thinking that men do this, so it’s normal. One night when I came home and he was on the computer, he quickly got off. I got suspicious and checked what he was up to. Turned out he was chatting and watching some woman on the web cam. I was more upset that he paid her 100 dollars just to watch her and chat with her when we are so poor! After that, I hated the internet. I hated all those sites that had to do with women. Still today, I hate it! But I’m wondering: should I be mad at my boyfriend? To me it seems normal that men do that. But maybe I should be mad! — Hating the Internet and All the Sites to Do With Women!
Paying $100 to web chat with a woman from a porn site is not something all men do. But don’t hate the internet, hate the playa. Get mad at your boyfriend, demand he quit throwing his money away on digital women when he has a real-life woman, and start aiming a little higher.
My ex-boyfriend and I were dating for six months when he cheated on me three time, so I broke up with him. But after two days he was making out with another girl who doesn’t even live in this country. Then he was at a basketball game and he was staring at me a lot, which made me wonder if he’s really over me. Do you think he’s doing this just to get his mind off me? Should I give him another chance? — Is He Really Over Me?
If having you on his mind too much were a problem for him, I’d say he already got the help he needed when he cheated on your three times in the first six months you were together. MOA.
I’ve been with this man for five months and he’s starting to pull away. We are so crazy about each other, but I’ve noticed that he has backed off by not texting or calling me or even talking to me at night before bed. If I talk about sex, he will definitely make time though. I need to know how should I handle this problem. He said he was nervous. — Crazy About Him
Yeah, he’s nervous about you thinking you’re in a relationship when all he wants is a booty call. If you want more, MOA. P.S. He’s not crazy about you if he only makes time when you promise sex.
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