It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
Dude, it’s called role playing. She was acting a part. Anyone who’s watched “Pretty Woman” or countless other movies with call girls or hookers knows enough basics to play a call girl convincingly enough for it to be fun. But if it wasn’t fun for YOU, say something. And next time you guys role play, do whatever turns you on (if your girlfriend is game).
You may not get her to stop texting completely and, surely, it wouldn’t kill you to continue replying to SOME of her texts. But if the frequency and early start is driving you crazy, simply say: “Aunt Jane, I love that we’ve been keeping in touch so well, but I hope you won’t be offended if I don’t always reply to your texts quickly. For one thing, I don’t usually check my phone before 9, and when I’m at work or doing something during the day, I don’t always see that I have a text or have time to respond. You know that, if you ever have an emergency or need to get hold of me immediately, you can always call me. Email is a good way to touch base, too.”
Make some effort. Go to the pub. Have a beer. Instead of listening to rubbish talk for hours, just put in one hour. Or two. Play some pool or darts or whatever other pub game is around. And if you seriously can’t stand doing that — if you can’t do something basic like hang out in a pub for an hour or two to make your husband happy, then maybe he isn’t the only one acting childish.
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