It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
What do you mean when you say that if he won’t leave her, it’s just you? Do you mean that you’re afraid of being single? I promise you, being single is not the end of the world. It’s actually a much better position than dating a guy who’s sleeping with other women for money and then living in fear of his developing an emotional and/or financial dependence on them to the point that he can’t or won’t leave. YOU should be the one leaving. Like, now. And always, always, always use protection when you have sex.
I think the better question here is: Why are you still with this loser? MOA.
No, your baby won’t be “happy” living with two people who resent each other and have no desire or interest in being in a relationship. Beyond that, it doesn’t sound as if you really have a choice anyway. Your baby’s father returned your engagement ring and told you you aren’t worthy of it. Does that sound like someone who’s interested in continuing a relationship with you? It sounds to me like he’s broken up with you and is probably wondering why you haven’t gotten the very clear and loud hint. MOA and focus on being a good mother and co-parenting well with your baby’s father. (Pro tip: You’re going to need a source of income in addition to collecting child support.)
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at firstname.lastname@example.org.