Here is my question: would it be appropriate for me to send them each a small gift for Christmas? My friend and I do not exchange gifts (it just isn’t our style and we don’t have a ton of money), so I’m wondering if that would make things weird. But I feel as though I get to show my friend that I appreciate his awesomeness on a regular basis, whereas I don’t have that opportunity with his parents, so is a small token of appreciation for them acceptable, even though I won’t be exchanging gifts with their son? — Gift Horse
This nice thing about this situation is you basically can’t go wrong. A gift, as long as it isn’t expensive or too sentimental, which I can’t imagine it would be, is most likely going to be appreciated. That said, the person you should probably be asking this question to is your friend. If he’s weirded out by the idea of you sending his parents a small token of thanks for the nice things they’ve included you in — which would be weird in itself, but I digress — send a card instead (with a thoughtful, hand-written message inside). If your friend’s cool with it, then a small box of chocolates, some Christmas cookies, and pretty ornament, or some holiday-scented candles should get the job done. Just be aware that if you do decide to send a gift, you’ll probably forever be that young lady your friend’s parents wish he’d settled down with already (and don’t think they won’t be asking about you all the time. Five years from now, they’ll be all, “What happened to that nice girl who sent us those cinnamon candles one year? Is she still single?”).
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