I’m very discreet with my life, and I always keep it drama-free. I believe I’m an attractive young lady, I have a masters degree, I carry myself with class at all times. I have had a house since I was 25, and I take great care of myself and my son. But I feel he’s ashamed of me or hiding something. I’m a poet, and, when he comes to my events, he makes sure he marks his territory, meaning he’ll be all over me. He is very jealous at times and gets mad at me when other guys break their necks to look at me, as if I gave the other guys a memo to look. He is also in the entertainment industry and each time he has an event I’m not invited, I only find out about them on social sites, like Facebook. He doesn’t post pics of me on Facebook, which doesn’t matter to me, but it bothers me that he takes pics with other women from his events and puts them on there. And when I question him, he says it’s for promotional use only. I will ask,”Well, why don’t you just get a fan page instead if that’s the case, and keep your personal life separate.” I never get a direct answer.
His phone is another thing: he is so secretive with his phone, and I never gave him a reason to be as I never went through it. Sometimes he walks off with his phone, just to talk. When I break up with him, he comes back 15 pounds heavier, crying some bull shit as to how he is stressed out and can’t stop eating and needs me in his life. I don’t understand. I feel like three years is a very long time to be going through bull shit like this. I feel like I put in 95% and only get 5%. I’m not rushing into marriage; I just want to be acknowledged, and know 100% who I’m dealing with. Should I just let this fat ass eat his heart out and call it quits for good? — Three Years of Bull Shit
Yes. And while you’re at it, why don’t you introduce yourself to the guys breaking their necks to check you out? Maybe you’d like one of them, and maybe if you experienced better treatment from a a better guy, you’d be less likely to keep running back to your loser boyfriend who treats you like dirt. Just a thought.
P.S. Just because a guy keeps coming back to you, 15 pounds heavier, acting like he’s miserable without you, doesn’t mean he actually cares about you. It just means he’s bored.
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