The next day, I had an extra ticket for a concert and invited her last minute and she said yes. I told her, “This is great — we’re even now. I gave you a ticket (which was worth $90) and you gave me a dress (worth $95).” On the way home she actually agreed with me and never said anything further. (During the concert she did not offer to buy me a drink, food or even give me some money for the ticket).
A month has now gone by and I received a text from her asking if I could leave money for the dress on her boyfriend’s dresser. I texted her back and said I thought things were squared away when we spoke the night of the concert. She told me she thought I was joking and that she never would have taken the ticket if she didn’t believe it was free. She then said it was too late to return the dress and I have to give her the money for the dress as she no longer wants it.
What do you suggest I do: pay her the money and move on so I don’t cause tension between my boyfriend and his roommate? Or, should I stand up for the fact that she didn’t contact me for a month and now expects me to pay for not only her concert ticket but the dress as well? — Issue to A Dress
Sorry, I have to side with the roommate’s girlfriend on this one. You agreed to pay for the dress and you never did. If you thought the concert ticket should count as payment, that should have been articulated in the invite, not expressed once the girlfriend was already on the way to the concert with you. The fact that she didn’t offer to buy you a drink doesn’t mean anything. In fact, considering that you still would have owed her five bucks to make it an even trade, you should have bought her a drink if you believed she had agreed to let the ticket be payment for the dress. But, regardless, she did not agree to that — at least, not in seriousness. Sure, you could argue that she did and you might eventually win the argument. But at what cost? Is $95 really worth potentially driving a wedge between your boyfriend and his roommate? Is it worth feeling tense every time you and the other girlfriend are both at your boyfriends’ apartment at the same time? I say suck it up, give her the $95 and be glad you are apparently in a position to buy dresses and pricey concert tickets without too much worry about how to pay for such things. Not everyone is so lucky.