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We slept together again. I went on a short trip that week, during which time he texted me daily. I came back from my trip and the third date was on Thursday, which happened to be Valentine’s Day, and he made dinner for me.
I was starting to get attached to him. But the next day was Friday and he didnt text me until I asked him what he was up to. He said he was going grab dinner with friends and go somewhere after. I was also going out with my friends that night so I suggested maybe we could meet up with our friends together after his dinner. But his reply sounded like he was not keen to see me while he was out withfriends.
Saturday and Sunday, no text. Then only on Monday he texts me things like: “How is your day?” We arranged to meet on a Thursday night. Then came Friday and the weekend, and again, no texts. I only hear from him on weekdays.
So the last time he tried to arrange a meet up on a Tuesday, I didn’t reply him. I started to feel like I was being used as his convenient ‘Weekday Girl’ when he doesn’t have anything better to do. On the following Wednesday night he texted, “How’s it going?” and I replied him bluntly that I was with my friends. That was two weeks ago now and he hasn’t texted since.
I just feel so angry when I think about the possibility that he only wants sex from me on his mundane weekday nights. I wish to have a guy’s take on this. What do you guys think of this kind of behavior?— Not a Weekday Girl
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