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    John

    So there’s this girl I like and I was just telling my two friends about it and asking what I should do, and she suddenly comes over, and my friends tell her I have something to say and that I liked her(something’s I never asked them to do) and all she did was show her middle finger to us and left. Which is something I totally didn’t get for a few reasons, first cuz my friends are pretty big ***holes and there always telling other girls I like them out of nowhere and they would usually respond with “I’m sorry, I don’t have the same feelings” or “I doubt it”. But she just did what she did and left. I got really mad at my friends, but they told me to try to talk to her, and they did the same shit again and told her I wanted to talk and she answered very stressfully “you just don’t understand” and left, which I don’t understand at all cuz she could’ve just said “I don’t like you” or maybe ” get out my way you nerd”. I’m just so full of confusion and mixed feelings cuz something I didn’t tell is that, before, I could tell that she would always find a way to somehow touch me and she even pinched my cheek and called me hot once. This would be easier to see as friendful actions, but we barely talk and aren’t really “friends” in a way, more like acquaintances. Somepone just please help me understand all of this. I’m also thinking of apologizing tomorrow for putting her in that situation.

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    Skyblossom
    Skyblossom
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    Because your friends are big ***holes they were bound to make someone flip you off sooner or later. Just because other girls were more tolerant of their rudeness doesn’t mean this specific girl should be.

    You have no idea what may be going on in this girl’s life and so no idea where she is emotionally. She may have a lot going on in her life and just not have the emotional energy to put up with ***holes.

    Go ahead and apologize for your friends behavior. It does reflect badly on you that you keep friends who are rude.

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    Northern Star

    Your jerk friends were trying to embarrass both of you. She probably flipped them off and left because she was embarrassed. I have no idea if she “likes” you or not, but I’m positive she DOESN’T like your jerk friends. I wouldn’t. It would be nice if you apologized for them—and maybe started putting your foot down when they’re obnoxious assholes to other people.

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    dinoceros
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    I don’t know how she feels about you, but she recognized they were trying to be jerks and embarrass you both and that’s how she chose to respond. Even if she likes you, she has no way of knowing if your friends are just lying to mock her or not. I could easily see this playing out where a girl takes it seriously and says, “No, I’m not interested,” and then you or your friends tease her for believing them.

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    John

    I’d just like to say that I wrote up an apology. Could anyone give me some criticism?

    ” I’d like to apologize for what happened yesterday, for having humiliated you, for putting you in that unexpected situation, for what I did, how I acted, and what I said.
    I don’t beg your pardon just to get one more person off my list of who I did wrong and leave it at that. I do because there is a regret that I feel for knowing that my actions had harmed and humiliated someone who did not deserve it, much so a girl whom i so sweet, so good, so nice and so beautiful. I know what we did was wrong and take full responsibility for what happened. May you forgive me.”

    I made so that it sounds like what happened was totally on me, even if it wasn’t I still feel as if it were.

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    juliecatharine
    Juliecatharine

    Way too much. It’s a nice sentiment and I appreciate that you’re looking to take responsibility but it’s completely over the top.

    ‘Hey I’m sorry about the other day, my friends like to try to embarrass me. Uhh..I do like you though. Want to go xyz with me Friday?’

    Only add the last part if you think it’s appropriate. If not, a simple apology is best.

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    Essie
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    Oh, no, no, no. WAY too much. Use what Juliecatharine suggested, it’s exactly right.

    And by all means, ditch those “friends.” They’re idiots. If I were that girl and I liked you, I’d probably think that you told your friends you thought I liked you and you were all making fun of me. I hope this girl is willing to hear you out, but she may be too hurt and embarrassed to talk to you.

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    dinoceros
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    Yes, that’s way too much. Just a “I’m sorry my friends acted like jerks” is sufficient. Like Juliacatharine said, if you want to express you like her, then just say that you do or ask her to hang out.

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    LisforLeslie

    Oh yeah – over the top is not the way to go. JulieCatherine gave you a great script. I’ll also toss you :

    “I’m sorry. My friends are dicks. They like to embarrass me. Did I mention they are dicks? I do like you though. Sorry again.” and then include a picture of a baby elephant because they are adorable.

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