January 13, 2018 at 6:32 am #735826
So here it goes.
I lived with my mother for 24 years, best years of my life, we have been discussing her plans and she is going back to her homeland to live forever. Although I am happy for her, I will miss her.
I have a job here and will soon get another(better) job. I will live on my own and be ever so lonely. I want to build a life here but I have few friends I talk to once in a while. I love people and London but I need advice how to build a happy and fun life on my own.January 13, 2018 at 6:54 am #735829
Ok. It’s time to start making friends & reach out to old ones too, now. Before your mum goes. So that when she does you’ll be less afraid & unsure. So it’s time to start volunteering in a group or charity( examples like helping an animal shelter or homeless charity or …) , so you can do something that makes you feel good and meet like minded people. Join meetup.com & go to a 3/4 of those( or more). Or taking up a sport, going to a dance class/group
Or finding something you wanted to learn( City Lit is great for this) & go for a drink with them after or ask someone you meet there to meet another time for tea & cake. This isn’t about being perfect, but about expanding your world.
And this whilst it isn’t exactly your problem is useful read:
January 13, 2018 at 10:56 am #735841
- This reply was modified 4 days, 14 hours ago by Heatherly.
Heatherly gave great advice. You’ll miss your mom but it is time for you to make a set of good friends.January 13, 2018 at 4:49 pm #735855
Will do. Any advice on how to start a conversation with a guy you like. This may be a guy you suddenly met like strangerJanuary 13, 2018 at 5:18 pm #735856
Smile, eye contact, make a comment about what’s going on around you if you can. Or comment on something he’s wearing, or drinking.January 13, 2018 at 5:23 pm #735857
Or, look at him, look down, look away, look again. He should get it and approach you. This is in a bar or similar.January 13, 2018 at 6:26 pm #735858January 14, 2018 at 4:25 pm #735901
Don’t rush into a relationship with a guy. Build a support network of friends first. Get a social life. Build your independent self. Then look to establish a relationship. Romantic love is grand and all but sometimes dating relationships fall apart, you need to have a support system in place to help you manage the ups and downs of life otherwise you’ll be all alone again.January 15, 2018 at 11:42 am #735948
I think Heatherly gave great advice and I also wanted to add this: I’ve noticed that many people seem to feel uncertain about how to navigate making new friends as adults. In my experience, putting myself out there by inviting someone I don’t know well, but who seems to have friend potential, out on a “friend date” has always proved to be a positive experience even though it can be nerve wracking.