July 17, 2017 at 8:51 am #693891
Hi Wendy I’m just a bit confused about a certain situation my now ex girlfriend and I broke up about a month ago because of things that were said but instead of talking about it like an adult she packed her stuff and left the apartment. She came back to me and apologized a week later and decided to fix things. I told her I was a bit guarded on my feelings but that I was willing to work it out. It has been a month since we got back together and now she got up and left because she feels that my family hates her about what happened. I explained that no one hates her that they’re just upset how she did things. My family is attempting to accept her again but they said they need some time. But my ex is saying that my family is to dramatic and that she doesn’t trust my mom because of something that happened between them 2 years ago, that I was not part of because we weren’t dating at the time, and she’s also saying that she feels threatened by my sister and doesn’t feel comfortable at all. My sister is a bit crazy but I explained to my ex that I will never allow my sister to do anything to her. All she said was that this will never change and everyone in my family acts like high school kids and that she’s had to much drama since she’s dated me. Even though most of our issues were caused by both of us not just me. I’m just confused as to how someone can say they want to be there and fix it, and everything is great when there’s no issues but the moment something bad comes up she breaks things off and runs.July 17, 2017 at 9:28 am #693895
She can’t handle the bad that comes with your relationship. She has every right to decide what she can and cannot handle and she gets to decide whether she wants to work through issues and problems or just leave. She has finished your relationship. You need to block her and move on because any relationship with this much drama won’t work.July 17, 2017 at 10:00 am #693902
Too much early drama will ruin a relationship. “Things were said” — she doesn’t have to accept and talk out “like an adult” nasty or hurtful things you say. As an adult yourself, it is your responsibility to not say such things at all, rather than expect to be able to talk them back. You should learn a lesson from this. If your family is so into your relationship that they show obvious strong dislike for your SO, because you had a brief breakup over things that you said to her, then you are not as adult as you think you are and clearly do too much crybaby complaining about her behavior to your family. It seems she was wise to end things.July 17, 2017 at 10:11 am #693904
The why doesn’t really matter. She’s not capable of having a relationship with you. Just time to move on. You’ve dodged a bullet — otherwise, you’d be in for years of drama with her.July 17, 2017 at 12:20 pm #693923
Time to MOA. Also, in the future, be more cautious about what you share with your family in regards to your personal life and relationships. It’s great to have a support system in you family, but they don’t really need to know all the details about every fight.