July 28, 2017 at 4:34 pm #695466
Hi, everyone. I know there’s another Trump thread going here and I definitely find it reassuring to see lots of you out there feel the same worry and fear and utter rage and bewilderment that I do.
But I want to talk about something specific, something I can’t really talk to anyone about in real life. Ever since Trump’s inauguration, I am absolutely terrified that there’s going to be a world war, and it would no doubt turn nuclear pretty quickly. I actually don’t even live in the US but all of my family does, and where I live probably isn’t the safest place to be either.
If anyone has read “Station Eleven,” that’s kind of what’s gotten into my head. Basically, that there will be a terrible war and even if I survive, I’ll never see my family again and everything will be completely destroyed.
Every day I worry about whether I should sell the stocks I have and buy gold or Bitcoin, not that it would ultimately necessarily even matter if the economy collapses.
I’ve always suffered from some anxiety, but this is different. And the thing is, I don’t feel like I’m really over-reacting. I feel like everyone who’s acting like things are normal are the crazy ones! I want to scream when people say, everything will work out, it always does. I actually studied history and it’s my passion and just because things have always worked out until now does not mean they will continue to!
I don’t mean to be a total downer here, but there’s nobody in real life I can talk to about this. My husband tells me to stop reading the news so much and I know he worries because of my depression and anxiety. I really feel like this is different though and that my anxiety is justified. I don’t have the energy to argue with him about it though. And it’s not like I want him to be miserable/terrified also. I just want to be not alone in these feelings/worries.July 28, 2017 at 4:38 pm #695467
Scaredy cat bump!July 28, 2017 at 5:19 pm #695470
That’s… valid, yes. I don’t know what to tell you.July 28, 2017 at 6:16 pm #695475
Valid or invalid it’s also really outside of your control. As history shows us things may work out in the broad sense but there are an awful lot of people who end up with the short straw regardless of things ultimately being okay for the majority. That’s true of everyday life too though. We (generally) do our best to live safe lives but there are still things that happen. Lightning strikes, cancer, car accidents, they’re all just a twist of fate away from ending the lives we know. On my bad anxiety days that stuff paralyzes me but more often it sets me free to focus on other things because it is literally not possible to control all variables. You can’t let a potential global cluster fuck ruin your present. It will be ok or it won’t–you really can’t do anything to sway that balance.July 28, 2017 at 7:25 pm #695480
Thassright!July 28, 2017 at 7:36 pm #695481
You have to focus on what you can control and not worry about what you cant. Do you want to waste your amazing life being scared of global thermonuclear war? No, you don’t. Spend it thinking about good things.July 29, 2017 at 10:34 am #695521
That’s one of my favorite books. I’m sorry it’s affected you so dramatically. It is fiction, though.
Valid or not, worrying about it isn’t going to change anything. If you are really struggling, I’d recommend finding a good therapist and possibly considering anxiety meds. A therapist can give you tools to help you mediate your fears. Most everyone is very concerned and worried about this administration. You aren’t alone in that. Even if you are very interested in resisting, you should take a media break. I believe the tide is turning and that this will not last. I hope you find some peace, soon.July 29, 2017 at 10:35 am #695522
Even in dark times, thinking these horrible things, what would you do if you knew war was inevitable? Spend time with people you love and enjoy it as much as possible. Focus on that. Be the light that people worse off than you need right now. Every single person can make a difference in others lives in that way.July 29, 2017 at 10:41 am #695523
Thank you for your thoughtful replies. The one bright side of my ‘end of the world’ anxiety is that I’m worrying a lot less about saving for retirement these days!
For what it’s worth, I actually already take anxiety/depression meds but I’m thinking about having the dosage re-evaluated. I’m also thinking about trying to convince my husband that we should take a big dream vacation this fall. Might as well cross a few places off our bucket list before the world goes completely mad!July 31, 2017 at 8:43 am #695600
WW3 is always looming in the future. It’s not really a matter of if, but when. BUT! You can’t let that fear overcome you. You have to enjoy what you have now. Because if it comes in our lifetime you’ll give anything for just one more day with your loved ones.July 31, 2017 at 11:08 am #695620
The Trump administration also causes me a great deal of anxiety. A lot of people here have chimed in with good advice, but I will say that I’ve had to take a step back reading the news. I know some will criticize, because staying informed IS important, but it was too much for me and I needed a break. It helps. I think it’ll help you, too.