- May 19, 2017 at 8:29 am #687460
Have fun in Bulgaria lucia_la!
@ale how are you hanging in there? Has your ex respected your space? Have you tried the new gym yet?
Hope everyone has a great weekend planned! I’m finally feeling healthy again after a really bad post-vacation head cold. Tomorrow is my 6 month anniversary with the bf and I got him an Edible Arrangement and I’m SO excited (We both adore Edible Arrangements and have never gotten them for each other). Work has been stressful so looking forward to a rainy but relaxing weekend!May 19, 2017 at 10:15 am #687485
Likewise 🙂 It is the long weekend for us in Canada (Victoria Day). So I am doing my first backcountry camping trip to BC! Going for a couple days with a few friends. A good time to test my gear before my West coast Trail hike in July. Normally we have snow in the mountains during the long weekend, but it is looking very sunny and nice for us! We are hiking to hot springs and camping nearby. So happy to be in the mountains this weekend 🙂May 19, 2017 at 10:48 am #687498
@lucia_la always has the best trips.
I am hangin in there. Ex boyfriend has not respected my space, we text every now and then but don’t see each other. Which is weird, but I try to keep myself busy and distracted. I like my new gym, parking sucks but it’s ok, it’s actually better than the other one. I’m feeling good actually, although weekends have been awful. So I’m dreading this coming weekend but I gotta toughen up.May 19, 2017 at 11:35 am #687511
@ale don’t text him! The more you guys communicate, the longer it will take you to move on.May 19, 2017 at 12:38 pm #687526
Yes, listen to K. Texting him will just prolong this shit. BLOCK him. That way he can’t contact you and he’ll HAVE to respect your space.
BF and I have spent a relaxing week in Scotland. Going for walks in the very green parks, going for drinks at the nearby pubs, cooking dinner together (ok that’s a lie, he cooks for me lol), planning our trip to France and Italy next week. I don’t want to go home!May 19, 2017 at 12:48 pm #687528
@missdre That sounds really nice, and a HUGE STEP UP from spending more time at that sketchy company you were working at.May 19, 2017 at 1:01 pm #687530
@copa yes I’ve been working remotely for my new company while my BF is at working during the day. I like them better already – they’ve encouraged me not to check my work email while I’m in France/Italy and are encouraging me to enjoy me vacation and have fun (rather than resenting me and acting like they’re doing me a favour like the other place).May 19, 2017 at 3:29 pm #687571
@ale, I’m glad you like your new gym. Don’t text the dude though. I know it’s hard (been there) but it only makes it worse.
@missdre it sounds like everything is going lovely and I’m happy for you 🙂
also @ale – I remember those first few weekends after a massive break up and they are hard. I remember not quite knowing what to do to fill the hours. I reached out to a lot of friends and got back to the gym during that time.
It’s not the same but my dad has been hospitalized pretty solidly for the past two months (taking up pretty much all of my free time after work and the gym visiting him) and he’s been out for a week and now I have a free weekend and at first I had no idea what to do! I made plans with my bff for a wine date tomorrow since the weather is gorgeous but this week full of free time has me focused on being single again, which is never fun for me personally (even though my life is pretty cool on it’s own). It would be nice to have some dates to look forward to.
The guy that I dated in January and February that moved away? He sent me pictures of his new apartment and neighborhood and said I should visit. It’s a nice thought but an expensive trip across the country for a guy I went on 5 dates with. I still kinda wish he’d found a job here instead. Or at least not across the country.May 19, 2017 at 3:45 pm #687583
@missdre I know what you mean. My last job made me feel guilty every time I asked to take time off, even thought it was MY earned PTO! And then it took an inordinate amount of planning just to be out of the office for a single day. I was so nervous to ask for time off at this job since I’m still so new. I two long weekend trips planned in fairly close succession (one the weekend after Memorial Day, the other for the Fourth of July). My boss was SO KIND about it. Told me how much he loves Nashville for its Americana music and whatnot. Good riddance to that last company!
And yeah, @ale I’m with @veritek33, the first weekends after big break-ups are weird and hard. You go from having someone that’s built in to your schedule and social life to suddenly having all this free time. And it’s like, “Okay. Now what?” I went through a non-devastating version of this quitting my last job, which had me working most weekends just to stay caught up. In the year I worked there, I forgot what it was like to have entire weekends for whatever I felt like doing, and then it was like, “OMG, what heck did I used to do with these TWO WHOLE DAYS?” Try to schedule one fun activity each weekend, even if it’s a solo activity like trying a new fitness class or going on a long bike ride. That way you’ll have something to look forward to! The worst thing you can do right now is sit at home alone wallowing or dwelling. AND, I’ll also echo that you should stop texting him for your sake.May 19, 2017 at 9:12 pm #687597
Have fun @cleo camping! We are having cool temps this long weekend in southern Ontario 🙁
@missdre, love hearing about your trip! I’m glad new work is going well.
Just saw this on Tinder: “My bad! I’m 40, but I look 34, amirite?”. Agggg. I guess at least he was honest before a date. He was also open about being a father in his profile, which fine, but his Instagram was linked to his profile and it had many pictures of his kids, which hmm.
My cousin is getting married tomorrow. I’m excited! I’m the youngest cousin on this side, so I didn’t totally appreciate weddings… emm, the open bar… when I was in high school when a bunch of them got married, ha ha.
I have a coffee date with a wine sommelier/hospitality professional Sunday. Again, he seems nice enough and I think cute, though it’s hard to say. He sent a lengthy but interesting and thoughtful first message too which is so rare on Tinder. But in that moment, it all flashed before me — we’ll go on a date, it’ll be nice, maybe we’ll go on another date, it’ll be fine but no chemistry, and it’ll end. Just like all my other dates. I think this is a sign I should deactivate. Well, after this guy. And I’m averaging like a date/guy a month so it’s not that time consuming or what not although for me it does take some mental space.May 19, 2017 at 9:28 pm #687599
hfantods’ update makes me ask – In the past I have used OkCupid. I didn’t talk about my kid in my profile, but did indicate I had one in the bio section. I’m thinking of trying Tinder… Should I mention my kid? I’m not looking for anything serious, so I don’t want to mention her, but it also feels deceptive. What are people’s thoughts/advice?May 19, 2017 at 9:54 pm #687603
I just want to clarify that I have no problem with him saying he’s a father, although it’s not something I’m prepared for at this time; it was just the posting of his kids on social media. But who am I to judge about parenting.
I think if you don’t want to mention her, you don’t have to, especially if you aren’t looking for anything serious. And even if something were to become more serious, I feel Tinder is still casual enough and the “profile” length short enough that you don’t need to include more personal aspects of your life, be it kids or other parts.