- October 5, 2017 at 11:00 am #722338
Hey guys. I kind of disappeared and probably will for a little bit.
My back issue has gotten so much worse, I’ve been laid up on the couch for going on 7 days now. Had a new MRI and my herniation is like a million times worse. Keep me in your thoughts and hope they approve surgery for me. I’m pretty miserable.October 5, 2017 at 11:05 am #722339
Sorry to hear about your back Hizzy. I’ve got bulging disc issues so I sorta know your pain (yours sounds worse) – I’ll think the good thoughts.October 6, 2017 at 6:35 am #722431
@veritek33 re: irrational anxiety – you’re not alone! That shit has always happened to me when I start dating somebody. The slightest thing changes and you’re like “WHAT DOES IT ALL MEAN?!”
It comes from insecurity, I think. Thankfully it gets better once you start to feel more comfortable with yourself and with the relationship.October 7, 2017 at 1:16 pm #722571
@thehizzy, my mom has sciatica, the time it flared up and was really bad, it was hard to watch her. Constantly in pain. I wish you the best and hope you can get some relief!!October 7, 2017 at 6:34 pm #722593
Wishing you a quick recovery @thehizzy.
Dinner with his friends went well I think. It was really nice meeting them and they were friendly. His buddy took the bill and was really insistent on paying — I think he also wanted to do something for guy’s birthday. I literally handed him cash in the right amount (always carry cash!) but he refused. I think he appreciated my sincerity though.October 9, 2017 at 11:36 am #722697
@veritek33 I’m having fun with both, but they’re two very different guys. A.T. is quieter and kinda serious. C.T. is more outgoing and super expressive. I dunno that I like one more than the other at this point. A.T. has been traveling a lot (just left for a two-week South America trip), but I am also beginning to feel like I’m not very high on his priority list, and he’s more okay with last-minute plans. I was in STL for almost a week for work, and we had overlap in our same city for a day. He already had plans with friends and it was planned far in advance, but I was a little disappointed that he didn’t even seem to care to try to squeeze time in together knowing it’d be weeks before we could see each other again. (He ended up texting me when part of his Saturday night plans got cancelled over the weather we were having, but I was already committed to other plans at that point.) And then on the other hand is C.T., who never lets a date end without planning out the next time he’s going to see me. (Incidentally, I actually feel a little overwhelmed by that, like I’m being put on the spot or something. I think seeing someone once a week while I’m figuring out how I feel about them is enough.) So that’s my update!
Re: irrational dating anxiety. I do feel it sometimes, but my anxiety/intuition is normally a pretty accurate reflection of my dating reality. I normally feel it when I think I’m about to be ghosted, or when things legit feel “off” to me but I can’t put my finger on why, and I’ve been correct fa-haaar more often than not.October 10, 2017 at 9:44 am #722925
I had a great date with C.T. last night! It was super low-key — he came over to my place and we watched a movie, talked, drank wine. He brought snacks. After the movie, things got, erm, steamy and handsy. 🙂 Getting to know him a bit better in a super casual setting was honestly great. I like him. He’s kind, intelligent but good-humored and a little goofy, affectionate, and sweet to my pup. And even though I’ve been on here talking about how he’s coming on a bit strong, I found myself telling him it’d be cool if we can see each other again before I leave town (again!). I think my connection with him is more natural/easy than my connection with A.T., and I hope we go out again.October 10, 2017 at 10:54 am #722947
Sounds like you’re having fun, Copa!October 11, 2017 at 7:02 pm #723112
I plan to get caught up on all the current events here tomorrow but I had surgery Monday. Boyfriend has been great. Mom is here. I don’t have constant pain anymore. Now slow recovery to get back go where I was before this. Thank goodness for modern technology.October 12, 2017 at 12:21 am #723127
@thehizzy I hope you feel better soon and are quickly on the mend!
Tonight, I met with a new friend/comedienne who organizes and produces all-women stand-up-comedy shows locally. She & I connected last month and we met tonight at a brewery that I love where I want to have a show. She said she wanted to check the place out so I suggested we meet there for a drink, and she really liked it! She says a show there in early December is definitely doable. So I have to test out my material at open mics this month & next, and I’ll get to celebrate my birthday with my friends by doing standup for them at my favorite bar! I’m so excited.
And also she brought along a girl who was in the audience at my first open mic and she was SO complimentary and said I was hilarious. 😀 It was amazing! The next couple months are going to be awesome. Next open mic – where I try out my material for the (eventual) brewery show – is Saturday!October 12, 2017 at 9:25 am #723163
@thehizzy Akk! Sorry about your back, but it sounds like surgery is what you wanted so that’s good! I hope your recovery is smooth and as pain-free as possible! And that you get some of the good drugs that make you feel like you’ve had a few strong cocktails. 🙂
@theladye Have fun at open mic! I’m sure I’ve already said this but it’s great that you have a hobby you’re passionate about post-breakup, and I hope it’s helped and that you’re feeling better!
I have date 4.5 with C.T. tonight! (We tried hanging out last weekend and I was told an event he invited me to was dog-friendly. It wasn’t. Dog and I were kicked out promptly, ha.) We haven’t sealed the deal yet and I’m not sure I’m quite there yet but I’m excited to pick up where we left off on Monday. Cause that was fun! 🙂October 12, 2017 at 9:33 pm #723227
I’m really happy because my boyfriend has started telling his family about me. That’s a big deal in his culture.
For some reason I was really nervous that his mother wouldn’t approve of me (because I’m a different race, different religion) but apparently she’s thrilled!
So, I’m really excited!
His friend even sent him a wedding invitation addressed to both of us by name (not just him + one). It’s a little thing I know, but I really feel like I’m actually an important part of his life.
Before our last visit, I had sent him a keychain. It has two little old fashioned analogue clocks side by side, one set to his time zone and one set to mine (we are 5 hours apart). When I got there to visit, sure enough he had put it on his key ring. Again, little things. But it feels good 🙂
I’m really looking forward to his visit here.