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- April 15, 2017 at 8:07 am #682026
Thanks for all the advice everyone! Yeah, I never really expected them to be great friends, I just want them to tolerate each other. And I do think that my older cat is misinterpreting her trying to be playful as aggression. He will hiss at her and that eggs her on to swatted him. I wish I could explain it to them! I have tried the positive reinforcement and treats. I did get some cat hormones (@anonymousse is that what Feliway is) yesterday and I do think that helped a little. Yesterday was really good and then she chased them in the middle of the night and it’s kind of set them back this morning. I do plan on giving them a little more time because I don’t want to give up on her. We’ve already gotten very attached to her!April 15, 2017 at 8:11 am #682028
I also think that part of it is my older cat being jealous, so I’ve tried to give him plenty of attention. It doesn’t help when the little stinker comes up and tries to get between us!April 15, 2017 at 8:16 am #682029
How important is it really for cats to get along? We had all these random-ass cats when I was growing up, and they just did whatever and we didn’t care. Is the concern that they’ll seriously hurt or kill each other? I have a Jack Russell Terrier and a family member has multiple Jacks, and they get in scary fights and draw blood. But cats?April 15, 2017 at 9:24 am #682032
Cats definitely draw blood. I find scars on my one cat and she has a few bitemarks in her ears. If you have an outdoor cat they can come home seriously injured by other cats. Cats are tough fighters, they do have to at least tolerate each other.April 15, 2017 at 9:33 am #682034
It doesn’t sound like there’s a major problem here honestly. Even cats that get along well chase, hiss, and swat at each other. If you’re not concerned about actual ha and your older cat doesn’t seem unhappy I think you should just keep giving them lots of affection and outlets for their energy. It concerns me greatly to hear you talking about giving up on a cat that seems to be acting completely normal. If you decide not to keep her I hope you re-home her responsibly. Most cats in shelters are put down, especially in certain areas.April 15, 2017 at 9:42 am #682036
That’s what I’m thinking, JC, they’re animals. Little nicks, scratches, and scrapes are normal and I don’t mind if I find them on my dog after he gets back from his thing he goes to. Every once in a great while I’ve seen a dog fight that was serious, and once a neighbor dog bit my dog pretty badly, so we got her vet records and kept them apart until the people moved away in a few weeks. But it’s usually harmless, I think. Our outdoor cats came home with cuts sometimes too.April 15, 2017 at 3:25 pm #682068
If they keep fighting they might need some more time alone and separation. Sometimes cats get along after a week sometimes it takes months, but they will eventually. You just have to be patient. Separate them if they are violent, and spray hormones everywhere. You don’t have to give up on them.April 15, 2017 at 4:07 pm #682071
Yes, feliway is the hormones. Maybe there are other brands. You can get a diffuser, spray, I think they even make a collar with the hormones.
There are calming treats you can buy that might help them to have less stressful encounters. They also have rescue remedy for pets and even a little lavender essential oil spray or diffuser might help take the edge off.
It will take time, and they might never be friends.
Do check for cuts and scrapes, though. My cat once was attacked by another and her bites or cuts ended up getting abcesses….yuck! They were really hard to find beneath her Maine coon mane.April 15, 2017 at 5:04 pm #682077
I bought the collar for my girl and I found it worked best as the hormones were directly under her nose at all times, a lot less hit and miss than diffusers. The smell can be overpowering though if you’re sensitive to that sort of thing.April 17, 2017 at 9:10 am #682245
I hate that I’ve given the impression that I would just give up on her because that’s not my intention, but can see how someone would think that from the end of my second post. I’m really just looking for advice from anyone who’s been in this situation. I’ve read tons of articles but I was just looking for advice from people who’s been there. The kitten is still at my home and I’d only take her back to the no kill shelter where I got her as an absolute last resort. We’ve taken some of the advice I read here as well as from other sources. Thanks for all of the advice again!April 17, 2017 at 9:11 am #682247
*who’ve. Sorry! I don’t know how to edit!!!April 17, 2017 at 9:23 am #682256
Aww, I just got a 4mth kitten as a hopeful companion for my 8yr old kitty. With work and going away sometimes I think she is lonely and cats get weird I find the longer they are by themselves. She is not an aggressive/hostile cat so I felt getting a kitten would be the easier bet. She has lived with my sisters adult cats and she tolerated them but mostly hid under my bed. This new guy though is also pretty submissive and he wants to play with her but she’ll just growl or hiss and he backs off and doesn’t push. Understand this is an adjustment period for both of them and not to expect them to be BFFs right away – could take months! But I find feeding them treats together has worked well. I am surprised at how well she is taking it actually, she isn’t hiding out, she is still getting tons of love from me if not more, and she’s getting more treats too. They’re beginning to rub against each other when they walk by, curling their tails around each other. It’s cute to see them interact and I think with patience, your cats will be ok too. Just give them time. Don’t give up yet! Good luck!