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- April 20, 2017 at 5:04 pm #682895
@ktfran WOW! I can’t believe your dad would say that to your sister! That’s pretty bad. It’s been ages since my dad has made a remark about my clothing, and because it was so long ago, I sometimes wonder if these were just petty fights we’d have when I was younger or if there was some misogyny going on there. I’d prefer to think it’s the former, but… who knows. I remember being a freshman in college at a very liberal school/college town, and realizing just how sheltered I’d been.
(I still don’t curse much, though.)May 3, 2017 at 2:25 pm #684779
Interesting update to this letter over at AAM today:May 3, 2017 at 2:28 pm #684780
I don’t understand how dating is immoral. How else are you supposed to find a partner? (if you want a partner, that is)May 3, 2017 at 2:35 pm #684782
I think it’s sad that the wordwhore was tossed around like that to the LW. Also I appreciate that everyone thought it was such a graceful update, but her talk of morals, her upbringing, etc. still rubbed me the wrong way.May 3, 2017 at 2:45 pm #684785
@missdre, I agree – I did see an interesting discussion of courtship in the comments but I am not sure how that is functionally different than dating.
@telegrammar, thanks for saying so – I agree with you!
Also, I just have a hard time believing that a boss who spent so much work time discussing his daughter’s ‘attributes’ isn’t sexist/creepy on some level.May 3, 2017 at 2:47 pm #684786
Read your bibles, bitches!May 3, 2017 at 3:01 pm #684787
Wow. Well, I’m surprised she thinks her boss is awesome — he still sounds like a creeper to me. I’m very curious where she was raised and which Christian denomination she is. Never in my life have I encountered anyone from this kind of community (“the exact quote I blurted out was screamed at me countless times at home and I was called a whore several times a day by my teachers” — whaaaa?). I guess if it’s a community where marriages are arranged, the “dating is wrong!” mentality makes sense. In any case, she actually didn’t rub me the wrong way with talk of her morals this time — I just felt sad for her.May 3, 2017 at 3:03 pm #684789
I actually do not believe her.May 3, 2017 at 4:02 pm #684792
@kate I don’t either! Basically my reaction in parenthesis: “it turns out my boss wasn’t upset. Shocked, but not upset. (erm, whut?) He said he shouldn’t have been talking about his daughter like that at work and he didn’t realize how his comment about me sounded until I reacted like that. (so basically your reaction NEEDED to happen?) Then I apologized and told him that I was completely in the wrong to insinuate that about his daughter. I didn’t qualify or try to explain. He said he understood where that comment came from (again, WHUT?) and that *remarkably* he didn’t take it personally (How can you not, tho?!)
Then she went on to say that she had a hard time being a called a whore everyday, but in hindsight, it KEPT HER IN LINE, which tells me she wouldn’t have a problem raising a child the same way. Still so many red flags to me.May 3, 2017 at 4:05 pm #684795
God, I hate religion.
I agree, she is a liar. I wonder if this was all a set up…May 3, 2017 at 4:06 pm #684796
It sounds pretty far-fetched. Like what you’d fantasize in your head after having two weeks to ponder the ass-beating you took on the Internet.May 3, 2017 at 4:06 pm #684798
Ha ha ha, exactly Kate.