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    Emm

    I recently went out on several dates with a guy I met on a dating app. We live in different cities, and I went to his city for our first two dates. The third, we decided to go to a music festival in a third city, where we got a hotel. The next day, I drove home and I was curious if he had gotten home yet so before texting him (I didn’t want to text him if he was still driving) I clicked on his app profile, where I was surprised to see that his location was listed as a city in another state, many many miles away, where he definitely was not, so he had gone to the trouble of spoofing his location. My mind immediately started working overtime. What do you think of this?

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    Janelle

    My friend told me that an old dating profile still says i logged on 24 hours ago. I haven’t been in years. Let it go.

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    Skyblossom
    Skyblossom

    Does the location change as he moves around?

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    Emm

    Yes, it does.

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    Skyblossom

    You know that he is actively lying to someone about where he has been. I’ve found that when someone lies to other people they will lie to you. Think about whether you will have trouble trusting him and then go from there. You could ask him why he is lying about where he is but even if he has a good answer you come back to a grown man should be able to be honest about where he is and what he is doing.

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    Gwyneth6

    Check it when he’s in front of you next time?

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    Rose

    Ask him about it? I keep the GPS on my phone turned off most of the time so sometimes when I turn it on or look up a new address it junps to a different state and I have to fix it. It seems weird for sure but if you’ve met him in person it seems like he definitely lives close-ish to where he says he does.

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    dinoceros

    Technology is so fickle that it would be hard for me to immediately decide someone was a liar based on something like this. I was googling to see if people on location-based apps could change their location, and I guess I still am not really understanding what the purpose is. Are there other things he’s been doing that make you feel he’s untrustworthy?

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    Kate

    How do you know he definitely wasn’t at that location? Could he physically have gotten there by car or plane in that time period? Maybe he had plans he didn’t mention to you.

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    Kate

    It seems a little off that you checked the app to see if he was home, too. Do you never text anyone who might be driving? What was your text, anyway, and did he reply? It sounds like checking up on him. Anything in particular make you do that?

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    dinoceros

    @kate, I thought that was a little odd too. When I text friends, I assume that they are smart enough to not text while driving and that they’ll just read it and reply when they get a chance. It’s not like a phone call where you’re demanding their immediate attention. LW, were you at all suspicious of him when you decided to check the app? It would make more sense, to me, if you were already sort of doubting him…

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    Emm

    I wasn’t trying to check up on him–not consciously, anyway. Originally I thought he had a trip that he hadn’t mentioned, but there was no way for him to have been at the listed location at all. I personally have never had my phone jump to a different location when I open up Maps, and my phone is not a good one, but I guess I’ve never turned off the GPS function and then turned it on again.
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    I didn’t end up texting. He texted me several hours later saying he was home and had just woken up from a nap. Of course I looked again then and it still said that faraway location.

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