Dealing with sex issues related to health problems
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Thanks,Carolann- I appreciate your outlook. I guess I will wait and see. I believe he wants to make me happy/make the sexual side work when he is getting fixed up. But time will tell. I am sad about this but also hopeful that we will work things out. I won’t stay longer than a year total if he can’t/won’t change or explore help with me. Love is not always simple and he is perfect for me in every other way. He had his whole old life ripped out from under him in a few hours-so I hope we can go forward to something good together.
Update from the LW:
“Hi Wendy-I wrote last year: “Dealing with Sex issues related to Health Problems” London #691060 June 19/2017
So,he had a bad shoulder that finally got “fixed”/better. Then, almost right after that was better-,he slipped on some ice and broke his ribs- 4 months of recovery there. (we couldn’t even hug)
So,after being patient through all that, I was looking forward to the fooling around. However,he was avoiding it again and I talked to him about.it. Told him I had been understanding and patient for months,that I understood it was disappointing to him that he could not perform as he would like etc.-but I could not go on being n a sexless relationship,as I loved him very much but was becoming sad and resentful. It was becoming a “deal breaker”. I suggested we j try”playtime” with out pressuring ourselves for any particular outcome and just enjoy each other.
Well,he listened and reacted-was not wanting to have this issue drive us apart. So,we now have good sex life of sorts ,I am happy, he is enjoying himself and all is well. Been together over a year,great companions in every way and plans to move in together soon.! ( I would not move in without this issue being solved)
Thanks to you and your readers for the advice and feedback-I am glad I stayed the course,am excited that things continue to improve in
every way.
London”
