September 23, 2017 at 6:48 am #718027
And I know you’re not dating right now, but when you do, I can’t imagine any guy who’s interested in you is going to think anything other than, “wow, she’s hot!” There’s not going to be any, oh, but if only she’d lose five pounds in her belly. My husband is a serious (formerly elite) athlete who’s tall, thin, and ripped. No body fat, at least an 8-pack. When he met me he thought I looked really cute in my dress and he liked my curly hair. We went to the beach on our third date and he liked my butt. Never in 5+ years have I felt like, oh, I should try to have a six-pack. I’d go crazy if I did. It’s just not… a thing I’m going to do.September 23, 2017 at 8:53 am #718049
I agree with @kate. Frankly I received far more attention when I was in not as great shape. Men don’t obsess about that stuff. They just see a beautiful woman. I know one man who likes nearly sick skinny women. He has massive body issues of his own. That’s not healthy at all. No thanks.
Most men, when asked, and they see a woman sans clothes the first time, report thinking, heck ya a beautiful naked woman!! Woohoo!!
I get not loving it yourself but a smile and confidence is the number one most important factor. Getting in shape should be for health and feeling like a bad ass and strong. You may always have a little tummy. A huge amount of people do. I loved the toned tummy but it came with a lot of work that frankly I’m not interested in anymore. I was going through a lot of stress and working out non stop. It was good mentally to channel that through working out but it isn’t reasonable to be in perfec shape daily. Every body builders fluctuate. Simply working out will boost your endorphins and bring you happiness.September 23, 2017 at 10:51 am #718060
And remember, giving a shit about anything is a *choice.*September 25, 2017 at 11:28 am #718488
@ale I think I have a similar body type – all of my extra weight is stored in my belly. It’s frustrating for sure, but five extra lbs isn’t anything to fret about! Have you ever tried Whole 30? It’s basically a super strict 30-day paleo diet meant to eliminate foods that commonly cause problems (skin, bloat, you name it) and then reintroduces them. I did it a couple years ago to figure out what was giving me heartburn (dairy and refined carbs – not shocking) and it may be a good way for you to find out if there’s a food group you’re eating that isn’t sitting well with you. I really liked that it involved zero calorie-counting (just “yes” foods and “no” foods), and you eat until you’re full. I lost weight when I did it, too. Something worth considering if you think you have food sensitivities. I loved eating that way, but it was too strict for me to do long-term.September 25, 2017 at 12:01 pm #718529
I’ve read about Whole30 and I don’t know if I could do it. I ty to eat a balanced diet and I never leave any food group out, I plan my meals in advance and measure the portions just so I can have a treat one or two times a week. Whole30 seems really too strict, I don’t know if I would be able to do it.September 25, 2017 at 12:40 pm #718564
It IS strict. I didn’t think I’d be able to, either, but I made it! It took a lot of planning. When I was out to eat, I’d just do the best I could without stressing. The hardest part for me was passing up drinks. You could also eliminate food groups one at a time for a few weeks at a time to see if that improves how you feel and if it changes your body composition at all. It might be easier to avoid one food group at a time.December 16, 2017 at 8:42 am #729397
Reviving this thread a little, but I’m really happy about this NSV. You know when you buy a piece of clothing and it’s maybe a bit snug but you buy it anyway as “motivation”, and then it just sits in your closet (just me?). Well, I found one dress I did buy — it was on sale, obvs — three years ago and yesterday it fit great.
Now — I haven’t exactly been intentional in my diet or exercise, but somehow over the last year I lost five pounds (I’m 5’0.5″ so it does show up). I started to see my weight go back up though, so yesterday’s NSV was nice. I do want to keep track better so it’s less hit or miss though.December 19, 2017 at 10:49 am #730262
@hfantods I love non-scale victories and think they’re more important than weight! I’ve kinda given up on trying to lose weight until 2018 because it’s hard to avoid all holiday food right now. But, I can tell I’m getting stronger at the gym, and that’s fun. I’m on track to squat 200 lbs before the end of the year. 🙂December 19, 2017 at 12:25 pm #730274
@Copa – yeah, this time of year is hard – I’m just trying not to gain, and not go too overboard. But I want to enjoy homemade cookies and delicious meals, also. I’m on Weight Watchers but haven’t followed it much lately. They just debuted their new Freestyle plan where chicken breast, turkey breast, 99% fat free ground turkey/chicken, eggs, beans, & fish/seafood are all 0 points! I lost 1.4 lbs my first week on the new plan, but this past week there were holiday parties and such, so I just tried to eat decently during the week when there were no parties.December 19, 2017 at 12:32 pm #730276
I’ve debated joining Weight Watchers or finding a dietician to work with for a bit in 2018. I’m not overweight, but would like to lose a little bit of weight, and am really struggling with it, though a lot of that can be attributed to a few weeks with my diet on point and then going on a trip for work or fun and messing it all up. I like strength training and try to eat enough to have energy, but I feel like I end up overeating that way. So better understanding how to fuel my body so that I can look like a babe but lift like a boss is one of my goals for 2018. 😛 One of my friends does WW and it really helped her lose her excess grad school weight, but she mentioned she’s not loving their new plan. Meanwhile, my concern is that their focus isn’t as much on actually nutrient value as I’d like it to be, though I may not have a thorough enough understanding of the point system.December 19, 2017 at 12:48 pm #730280
Undereating while lifting is a concern of mine too, @copa. I know there are detailed excel spreadsheets online out there for calorie intake. But then I get into sites on bulking and cutting and it’s overwhelming.
How do you guys deal with supersets in the gym? I hate monopolizing equipment. I know there’s an etiquette.December 19, 2017 at 12:52 pm #730282
They just made major changes to their point system, you should check it out. It sounds like they’re trying to focus it more on nutritional value than just calories. More items now are unlimited, or zero points I guess, like salmon (which I hate, unfortunately), eggs, a bunch of other stuff.