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    Nya

    My partner (we’re together for 4 years now) has been really distant and I hate it.We’re not married or anything.He’s just been gone and occupied with work all the time.Also,he’s getting rude with me,everytime I ask him something he answers with a shitty attitude or just ignores me.I really really love him and i want to fix our relationship.I know this is a lot of info but we still haven’t had sex yet(I believe in waiting for marriage) and I think that’s why he seems bored.Maybe I should just quit on the whole sex after marriage thing and give it up now?I don’t know,it’s just very complicated.He’s way older than me(29)and I wouldn’t want people to judge us.(I’m 18)soo…idk

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    Kate
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    Maybe you should just quit on this relationship. What are you getting out of it? Sex will not make anything that’s going on here any better. Stop putting up with shitty behavior from him and thinking you can “fix” it. Break up, be a teenager. I think it’s really gross and messed up for a 25-year-old guy to date a 14-year-old girl. He’s a loser.

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    dinoceros
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    Having sex with him isn’t going to solve your problems. Usually when someone starts treating you like that, where they are rude all the time and don’t show any interest, it means they are not super into the relationship anymore but aren’t mature enough to say that. Choosing to invest even more by sleeping with him is the complete opposite answer. Why choose to become even more attached and try to have a stronger bond with someone who seems like they don’t want to be with you anymore?

    Move on. There are guys your age who you can date and they can actually be nice to you.

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    bittergaymark
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    I dunno. Four years and NO sex? Who wouldn’t be bored.

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    bittergaymark
    Bittergaymark

    That said. Who dates a 15 year old while they are in their twenties?! A real LOSER — that’s who!

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    Ron

    He should consider himself lucky she has delayed sex, or else his ass would be in jail and he’d be on the sex offender list. Likely he’s lost interest because he isn’t attracted to adult women and you’ve aged out.

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    RedRoverRedRover

    @Ron, I had a similar thought. Either that, or he purposely didn’t have sex with her because he knew it was illegal, but now that she’s legal he’s pissed because she still won’t. Who knows.

    But besides that, Nya, it’s not normal for adults to want to date 14-year-olds. Usually if an adult is dating someone that young, it’s because they’re an ephebophile, or because they can’t get someone their own age. When I was 16 I dated a 19-year-old, and even that was a massive age difference at that age. And looking back, that guy didn’t have much going on. I can see why a 19-year-old woman with her shit together wouldn’t have any interest in him, and why he turned to a younger girl who didn’t know any better. Trust me, this age difference is an indicator of issues with this guy. It would be one thing if that was your culture, but cultures that promote those kinds of age differences usually don’t have “dating”, definitely not four years of it. So I’m guessing it’s not cultural for you and that this guy is just “off”.

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    Nya

    @redroverredrover @ron yeah,I understand.It just upsets me and I’m glad we didn’t have sex cause that would get him in trouble and we already get enough of that.Thank you guys(@everyone who replied)

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    Nya

    * @Ron sorry!

    #690396 Reply
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    Nya

    @Ron

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    Nya

    Wtf it doesn’t wanna @ him.Oh well I tried lmao.

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    Nya

    @bittergaymark 😂😂😂

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