This topic contains 23 replies, has 10 voices, and was last updated by MaggieB 1 month, 1 week ago.
December 10, 2017 at 8:12 pm #728936
My best friend is having an engagement party in Michigan and I’m the maid of honor. It’s the same weekend as my fiancé’s best friend wedding that is in Colorado. What is the right thing to do?December 10, 2017 at 8:14 pm #728937
If your the MOH you need to be at the engagement shower.December 10, 2017 at 8:21 pm #728939
I disagree. If you had a prior engagement, especially another wedding, you should attend. Go with your fiancé. It’s not like you’re flaking on your friend. She should understand and if she doesn’t, shame on her.
If it were that important her that you attend all wedding events, she would have run dates by you.December 10, 2017 at 8:24 pm #728940
However, if you’d prefer to go to your friend’s event and if your fiancé is ok with it, that’d be fine. I suspect that’s not the case since you’re writing on here.December 10, 2017 at 8:27 pm #728941
The wedding, sorry. Engagement parties are stupid.December 10, 2017 at 8:49 pm #728943
Have you already RSVP’d to the wedding? If so, go to it. If not, I think you have a choice. I disagree that the MOH has to be at the engagement party. MOHs need to be at events they are planning/throwing and the actual wedding, but if they’re simply a guest at something like an engagement party or bachelorette party, then it doesn’t matter. If it was necessary that you be there, she should have checked with you before choosing a date for it. I don’t even know the purpose of an engagement party besides trying to get more gifts.December 10, 2017 at 9:21 pm #728946
What the hell is an engagement party? The engagement announcement isn’t enough anymore? For the love of God. Go to the wedding. A wedding is an actual thing.December 10, 2017 at 9:42 pm #728948
Definitely the wedding, that’s an important event, an engagement party is a glorified gift grab.December 10, 2017 at 10:16 pm #728951
I assume you’ve already said you’ll be attending the wedding. If so, you need to be there.
There’s no real need for you to be at your friend’s engagement party. Or, for there to be an engagement party at all….December 11, 2017 at 8:38 am #728973
Go to the wedding.December 11, 2017 at 9:21 am #728974
Engagement parties are really stupid. A wedding is the actual event. Go tot he wedding. And god dammit, people, stop having stupid engagement parties. Isn’t an engagement announcement, a shower, and bachelorette party and a wedding enough for one milestone?! People have lives and other commitments!!December 11, 2017 at 9:35 am #728978
People have bank accounts and 401(k)s too.