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    bagge72
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    I would say just going to your regular OB for a check up it is not too early at all, and actually a good thing to do, and after a year of trying, and nothing happening you can go to your OB to set up with a fertility clinic to get some answer the OB won’t have. This is what my wife and I did, we have been trying since 05/2014, and after 6 months she went to her OB, and it was reassuring to hear that it was normal, and to have some suggestions, but after a year, and still nothing we ended up going to the fertility route and they found out that her hormones were low because she likes to stay in shape, and at her body fat percentage he body decides what to use the hormones for, and basically puts her in survival mode even though that isn’t something we need in this day in age.

    Now I would say if you make it to where you are getting tested by a fertility clinic, they will tell you what’s wrong, and they will push you to do IVF, but we did some research on our own, and her hormones are finally back to normal by trying some natural things out for a couple of months, and here is hoping for the best now. So I would say once you find out what is going on do lots of research on your own as well before jumping into something, because these places do a wonderful job, but also they want the money from the insurance company so will push hard before doing other options.

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    Anonymousse

    I have and did have intense abdominal pain, but no endometriosis. I had a past of ovarian cyst issues, too. I used to believe I would never be able to get pregnant. I chose to believe a random physician who made a passing remark that my ovaries might not function properly after repeated hospitalizations for my ovarian cyst issues. I’m not even sure if he was a doctor, or a nurse or a student.
    I still get painful cramps during ovulation! It’s crazy.

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    Bostonpupgal

    I think if you want to meet with a doctor to discuss this more thoroughly, you should. 6 months is very normal, and even if there would be an issue it’s very likely it could be overcome, but if it’s stressing you out and youre ready then I say go. Getting the tests and an ultrasound is going to do a lot to ease your mind, and on the off chance there is a problem then you’ll know.

    I started having unusual bleeding about 6 months ago, and with a long family history of PCOS I went to the doctor expecting the worst and preparing myself for the possibility I might never be able to get pregnant. It turns out I had a small, benign uterine tumor that, once removed, should have no bearing on my fertility. Having the ultrasound and other tests took a weight off of my mind, and will make it easier for me to worry less when we start trying next year. If you want the tests and maybe some intervention I say, what could it hurt? Good luck and I’m thinking good thoughts for you!

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    Andrea G
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    6 months is normal and you (or your husband) may not have any issues that require treatments. It may just be that all the stars haven’t aligned yet during the month. But there’s no reason not to go to the Doctor especially if it helps soothe your mind. As you know stress and worry is only going to work against you so if going to the doctor eases the stress then it’s not a waste of time.

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    for_cutie

    Have you been having sex before your fertile window too? (don’t answer). I know it is a window of time and sperm being in the right place immediately pre-ovulation can be what makes you pregnant, instead of waiting until ovulation actually happens. We use the natural family planning method to both get pregnant and avoid pregnancies. I have been using the Glow app to track things for 6 months now and love it. I am Type A too. Taking the time to track my physical attributes everyday is helpful for me, and if I had a health or fertility issue I could export all of the data to give to the doctor immediately. Sending you happy fertility thoughts. And in the meantime, maybe tracking with Glow will give you a distraction, and also great data to share with a doctor should it (hopefully not) come to that point. Good luck!

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    freckles
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    I do use an app to track, plus a digital OPK. And our timing is definitely accurate 🙂

    Just confirmed I’m definitely not pregnant this month, so Mr Freckles and I are going to make appointments to get checked out. It will definitely put my mind at ease I think. I already feel less stressed because now we’re DOING something. Even if there’s an issue, hopefully it’s something they can take care of, and then we can move forward. But then I’ll know. Sometimes I think wondering and being in limbo is worse than knowing.

    Thanks everyone for your encouragement and kind words and fertile thoughts and stories. It’s made me feel better that no one thinks I’m crazy for wanting to go to the doctor at 6 months 🙂

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    Northern Star

    You’re definitely not crazy. I’m already worried about being able to get pregnant after my wedding, and we won’t even start to try until this spring. 🙂 Reassurance helps. Best of luck!

    #668317 Reply
    freckles
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    Resurrecting this old thread because I have an update. They found an issue, and it wasn’t what I was hoping for.

    Anyhoo. I could use some words of encouragement, especially because I can’t talk to anyone about it. I’d been talking to one of my best friends about our process, which was helpful. But last night he said he doesn’t want us sharing these details with friends, so now that I finally have some answers, and a possible path forward, I can’t talk about it to anyone. And I totally respect his wishes – it is very personal – but it’s just hard for me to have to keep it in and not be able to talk to anyone. Especially when it wasn’t the news I was hoping for.

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    Cali

    I typically don’t post but wanted to answer this as I worked in a male fertility clinic for ~4 years. The doctor is one of the top specialists in the country for male fertility and we would see patients from all over the world. I’d highly recommend giving his office a call (Dr Paul Turek) as he offers free phone consultations to discuss results/next steps. Good luck! I know this is very tough news to get, but there is a lot that potentially can be done.

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    Northern Star

    There must be online groups you can join that deal specifically with this issue. You certainly are NOT alone, and you can find people (strangers) who can sympathize with your situation without betraying your husband’s privacy.

    Maybe that will help as you deal with the initial disappointment and decide how to move forward.

    I wish you the best of luck.

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    Fyodor

    You might not want to use the phrase “shooting blanks.” It’s kind of insensitive.

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    freckles
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    Sorry. I didn’t mean to be insensitive. That’s how Mr Freckles put it and it just stuck in my head.

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