May 19, 2017 at 3:51 pm #687585
We do refrain now, that we know. But we were together at the time that he got diagnosed, and since he had no idea that that’s what his canker sores were caused by, we just did whatever. I don’t seem to have it. It might be that because his sores aren’t open, it’s harder to transmit it? No idea. It’s such a weird way for herpes to present itself, I’ve never heard of it and neither had he. I don’t blame him for not knowing what it was. He even complained to me about the sores years before, and I never would have thought of herpes as the cause.May 19, 2017 at 4:15 pm #687586
Just an fyi on canker sores…
This is the website my gynecologist told me to use if I ever felt the need to look things up.
Doing a brief search, cold sores are herpes.
Anyway, I occasionally get a canker sore and it’s usually when I’ve eaten a lot of acidic food.May 19, 2017 at 4:41 pm #687587
@ktfran, right, cankers aren’t herpes. My husband doesn’t get cold sores either though. He gets these bumps inside his mouth, in the same places you’d get cankers, and that’s why he assumed that’s what they were. I wasn’t trying to imply that cankers were herpes, sorry if I wasn’t clear.May 19, 2017 at 5:07 pm #687588
My reading comprehension could be off to. It’s been a long week!May 20, 2017 at 9:28 am #687643
I know it’s early but I’m completely lost. p and V sex?May 20, 2017 at 9:49 am #687644
Piv = penis in vagina ????May 20, 2017 at 9:55 am #687645
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Oh good grief. ???? I hadn’t had my coffee yet.May 21, 2017 at 5:17 pm #687731
I don’t have the herp, but you know what? It’s not a big deal. It’s a virus that will cause you a few days of grief over your entire life. It’s completely manageable. You will be completely fine. It’s been given a stigma because of the sti factor but it doesn’t cause cancer, eat your brain or cause infertility. And you join a shitload of people who have it, so manage it like an adult by being upfront with your partners; some will care, some won’t. Protect yourself and your partner to the best of your ability going forward (cause you may not have it).May 21, 2017 at 7:55 pm #687743
It will definitely mean you will have some frank and open conversations with potential sexual partners, which isn’t a bad thing.May 21, 2017 at 8:59 pm #687748
The worst was that first conversation with my new partner when I found out. And leaving it up to him if he wanted to use condoms, stop dating or not care. But with the right person it’s a good conversation.May 22, 2017 at 9:44 pm #687885
Thanks everyone. No results yet. I deinitely plan on being an adult about it and protecting others should the results come back how I expect them to. I agree that it is mostly the stigma that makes it more difficult – I have to say I wasn’t as informed about it until I started reading up & mostly everyone who has it says it’s not a big deal. I’m already planning what I’d say to the person I last fooled around with and future partners, should I get to that point.