- April 17, 2017 at 9:43 am #682267
Yeah, I would call him on it, like, “hey, it’s weird that you have no problem with me seeing anything but your texts… and you used to be fine with that too. So what’s going on?” See what he says. You can say, “I don’t buy what you’re saying about me telling you who it is when a text pops up. That just doesn’t make sense.”
I might even say, “look, this is so out of character for you that it’s really bothering me. I’m not going to be able to feel ok about this. I feel like you are hiding something that’s in your texts. Are you hiding something? Ok, so if you took the lock off and handed me your phone right now, would I see anything that would concern me? Ok, for peace of mind, I am going to need you to do that. Please unlock it and hand me the phone.”April 20, 2017 at 12:36 am #682735
I delete my texts on my phone as soon as I am done with them. I don’t use iCloud either. I’m not hiding anything from my husband, but he has commented about it. I just don’t like crap building up on my phone.
Btw, I don’t suggest anyone spy on their SO, I believe you should confront him directly, BUT for anyone who doesn’t know there are computer apps that can pull up deleted texts on your iPhone and on some android phones there are ways of pulling up old deleted texts on the phone itself. I had to do this once when looking for an old text about a legal matter and searched both my phone and my husband’s. It is easy to get past any apps if you are tech savvy enough.
- This reply was modified 3 months ago by carolann.