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I am dying slowly

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    3781agr
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    It’s one month to my supposed graduation but I don’t know what to do after
    This is my story.
    My parents sent me to the University after passing well, they didn’t even do any follow up on my performance because they knew me as somebody with brains, something which I can’t understand happened to me, I betrayed their trust, I spent four years studying Engineering, but now I am going to get a second class lower degree, that wouldn’t be so much bad, but I don’t have any practical knowledge, I spent all my time with students of other courses, doing all the things i shouldn’t have been doing, I didn’t get friends in my course, all students who finished with me are already working, my parents keep asking when I hope to get a job, that kills me because I know I might never get any job, I just tell them that I will first get my certificates, but I know they will not help me, I am dying slowly. everyday, I don’t know what to do , I feel like escaping from the country, I am really confused, so much confused, can there be something I can do to help myself? I am so angry of myself,I wasted my only talent, I had brains , I just don’t know what happened to me, help me please

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    Kate
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    So you’re saying you got a Bachelor’s degree in Engineering but you have a low GPA and no job prospects? Did your family send you to the United States for university and you’re supposed to get a job here where they’ll sponsor you for a visa, but you don’t think you can? Have you applied for any jobs? This is confusing. I think you need to talk to a professor or advisor or career counselor on campus about applying for jobs. You didn’t fail out of school, and you have a degree, right?

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    dinoceros
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    I thought they were saying they started out in engineering and then got a degree in something else? But then if they did four whole years in engineering…

    Your school has academic advisors and career advisors. Visit them. Yes, you should have made an effort earlier, but I’ve seen plenty of students who managed to get their careers together right at the end, too.

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    Skyblossom
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    If you are getting a degree you should try to get an internship. That can be a step in the direction you need to go. It will get you job experience. There will be an office on your campus that helps with career advice and will help with your resume and will give you mock job interviews and feedback on those interviews. Talk to them because they want to see their students get jobs.

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    3781agr
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    I will get my degree but low GPA

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    3781agr
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    Yes, more people are telling me to get internship, I think I will do that to get more knowledge in my field

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    FireStar
    Firestar

    Most universities have career counseling or career services. Helping with resumes etc. Why not start there? As an alum avail yourself of their services. You can get a job. They can help. You didn’t do as well as you should have. It happens. It’s not the end of the world. This problem has a solution. You just need to hustle a little. Your parents don’t need you anything but safe and happy. That’s what all parents want. But put their expectations aside for now. Just focus on what has to be done.

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    Telegrammar

    Also, the further away you are from your school years (like a year or two from now, after internships and jobs) the less important your GPA becomes.

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    3781agr
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    You are right, my parents had a lot of expectations, i seriously disappointed them

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    Maria

    Follow your heart and dreams and stop giving a fuck about other peoples expectations for you. Don’t be afraid to tell people: you are making me depressed. Don’t be afraid to look to the horizon. Acknowledge the fact that you at least had an education, versus so many people who would want to. You must look deep within yourself and become who you want to become. If that is hard to do, then you must start doing the one thing that will help you; make money for yourself!

    Cheers,
    MZ

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    Janelle

    Slowly dying seems a bit over dramatic of a response here. Maybe some therapy would help as well.

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    Essie
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    I know that any setback seems like the end of the world when you’re young, but truly, you’re doing just fine.

    Probably about 1/3 of those who graduate, do so with a low GPA. You haven’t failed, and if your parents are disappointed, they’re being ridiculous. You have an engineering degree. That’s no small achievement. They should be very, very proud of you.

    Do you know what your GPA will mean in a few years? Absolutely nothing. I honestly don’t remember mine. Maybe (maybe) you won’t get a top job right out of college, but a just-ok job. So what? Once you’re hired, nobody cares what grades you got. They care what you can DO. And your whole career from that day forward will be about what you can do. Not what you scored on some exam in a classroom years ago.

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