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I am dying slowly

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    Well, the first thing that you have to remember is: YOU STILL HAVE BRAIN. Thereby, stop victimizing yourself, you did stupid things, you spent your time with useless things. You really betrayed your parent’s confidence, so you must tell them what is going on and move your life on. Now it’s time to study a lot and try to get a job, you won’t get the same knowledge as if you were in the university again. Now you have responsibilities, you need to deal with it. The thing is that experience is the most important for your career, but first you need a solid theoretical bases in whatever you are trying to study because it provides you some security to do things because they’ve already been tested by someone else.

    3ºA, nº 5


    I was an engineer. Engineering undergrad i s very math intensive compared to what most engineers actually do on the job. I note you say you have no practical knowledge and that you spent a ton of time with majors in other fields, rather than with your fellow engineering students. That’s not a killer. Likely you are very social, which over half of engineers are not and you may have a wider range of interests than most engineers. I’d suggest you use your degree for the necessary technical skills and technology cred and try to get into the sales end of engineering.


    I studied engineering. I went into management for a long while and am back into engineering. I use very little calc or diffy-q (which I LOVED that). I didn’t have the *best* GPA but I did a ton of internships where I had a job at graduation compared to 90% of the rest of my class.

    Find an internship. You can do a ton with an engineering degree. You learned critical thinking and problem solving in school.

    Helder Eduardo Camargos Sena

    Dear 3781agr,
    You do not need to be like that, so nervous and revolted with yourself, it will not help. You have a course of Engineering, and the big problem is the practical knowledge, so you need to practice. You should do internship, maybe, in your own university. With more practice, you will have more facilities to have your job, and the degree will be easier and more relevant. Open the game with your parents and explain the situation, lie is not one option in a family. You will get your job if you run behind the loss. Always will have space in the job market for good professionals, you have time to be one, yet. Good Luck!
    Hugs, Eduardo Sena.


    You will hardly be the first person to get a job that has nothing to do with your degree. Everyone I graduated with from college has either gotten a job completely outside of their field, or went back and got trained in something they wanted after being out in the world for a bit and knew what they were looking for in a job. Also, engineering is a big field, this is where a career counselor can come in and point out jobs that would better suit your skill set, and help you highlight your assets. good luck, and know that one way or another, you will survive. I say this as someone who graduated with a HISTORY degree in 2008.


    I don’t know what a second class lower degree is. Go visit your career counsellor at your school and get advice from them. Start applying to jobs. Don’t worry about what others think of you…think about what you want to do for your career and follow that path. Do you like Engineering? All our Engineering friends went to graduate school after college and I think that is pretty normal if you want a good job. I went to graduate school in science and so did my husband and friends…if you have a Research Assistantship or Teaching Assistantship you basically get your tuition paid for and a stipend while you work on a MS or PhD. Research what exactly you want to do and then research which professors are doing research in this area. Then start calling and writing them to tell them you are interested in studying under them. If your grades are bad don’t aim for the top schools…look at smaller less known schools. There are many that are great. Remember – do what you are good at and what you enjoy. This is your life. Plan it and work towards your goals.


    A graduate degree is not a requirement for a good job in engineering. Engineering is also a field where you can, if you are nearby most engineering grad schools, get an MS degree on a part-time basis, with your employer paying the tuition. It sounds like LW is British, but they also do MS degrees.


    Yeah, I work for a large, global A/E firm. Most new grads who start working with us have their Bachelors. Some might go on to receive their Masters and even PhD, but a lot of times not. It’s not necessary once you have experience behind you. They also work towards their license. Some decide to get their MBA after working a few years.

    There’s plenty of different paths you can take in the engineering field, you just have to talk to a counselor and figure it out. As Ron mentioned earlier, there’s also sales and business development. We need more good BD people. Seriously.


    This is from Wikipedia about the British Honors degrees.

    Distribution of classes[edit]
    The Higher Education Statistics Agency (HESA) has published the number of degrees awarded with different classifications since 1994/5. The relative proportions of different classes have changed over this period, with increasing numbers of students being awarded higher honours. The table below shows the percentage of classified degrees (i.e. not including fails or unclassified degrees such as MBBS) in each class at five year intervals; note that HESA stopped giving statistics separately for third class honours and pass degree after 2003 and that a small number of undivided second class honours degrees (shown under “other” along with “unknown”, which makes up the bulk of this category) were awarded up to 1996.
    Class 1995[18] 2000[19] 2005[20] 2010[21] 2015[22]
    1st 7.0 8.2 11.6 14.4 22.0
    2:1 40.3 42.9 47.4 48.3 49.5
    2:2 34.8 34.0 33.1 29.8 23.0
    3rd 5.8 5.3 8.0 7.5 5.5
    Pass 11.7 9.6
    Other 0.3[23] – – – –
    First-class honours[edit]
    First-class honours, referred to as a “first”, is the highest honours classification and indicates high academic achievement.
    In 2010 and 2011, the Higher Education Statistics Agency (HESA) reported that approximately 15% of all degree candidates graduated with first-class honours.[3][24] The percentages of graduates achieving a first vary greatly by university and course studied.[25] For example, students of law are least likely to gain a first, whereas students of mathematical sciences are most likely to gain a first.[4] In 2006–2007 and 2010–2011, 5.8% and 8.1% of law students gained a first, respectively; however, in those years, 28.9% and 30.0% of mathematics students gained a first, respectively.[4]
    It has been colloquially known in rhyming slang as a ”Geoff” – after former England international footballer Geoff Hurst.[26] An alternative name is Damian Hirst.[citation needed]
    Upper second-class honours [edit]
    “2:1” redirects here. For an aspect ratio, see Univisium.
    The upper division is commonly abbreviated to “2:1” or “II.i” (pronounced two-one). The 2:1 is a minimum requirement for entry to many postgraduate courses in the UK. It is also required for the award of a research council postgraduate studentship in the UK, although possession of a master’s degree can render a candidate eligible for an award if their initial degree was below the 2:1 standard. The percentage of candidates who achieve upper second-class honours can vary widely by degree subject, as well as by university.[24]
    Lower second-class honours[edit]
    This is the second division of second-class degrees and is abbreviated as “2:2” or “II.ii” (pronounced two-two).
    It has been colloquially known in rhyming slang as a ”Desmond” – after South African social rights activist and retired Anglican archbishop Desmond Tutu.[27]
    Third-class honours[edit]
    Third-class honours, referred to as a “third”, is the lowest honours classification in most modern universities. Historically, the University of Oxford awarded fourth-class honours degrees and, until the late 1970s, did not distinguish between upper and lower second-class honours degrees.[citation needed][1]
    Informally, the third-class honours degree is referred to as a “gentleman’s degree” (cf. the “gentleman’s C” in the U.S.).[28]
    It has been colloquially known in rhyming slang as a ‘Douglas’ – after Douglas Hurd, the former Conservative MP (who in reality took first class honours).
    Approximately 7.2% of students graduating in 2006 with an honours degree received a third-class honours.[24]


    You’re probably only like 21 though? (16-18 for College, 18-21 for University right?) You’re not going to die. Your parent’s disappointment isn’t going to kill you. Get the Masters in Engineering or an internship year and do better; you’re perfectly capable of learning from your mistake. If you need your parents’s money to do so, tell them, and take the L. You’ll be fine, they still want you to succeed.


    I had a lower GPA graduating with an engineering degree too. I went into Operations first and then Engineering within the same company about 6 years later. I’ve never used my degree but it got me in the door. Engineering degrees can be powerful and get you into other fields as a step above the rest of the competition. I recommend going after an internship as well as networking with people you know – consider your parents friends, or parents of your friends as a place to start. Were you involved in any organizations in school? Do they have alumni groups you can also use to network? Often it’s who you know, not what you know to get your foot in the door somewhere. Good luck!


    Dear 3781agr,
    First of all, call down. It’s not the end of the world. You are graduating, and that is the most important thing. Where I live, it’s common to see many engineering students dropping out of their courses because they can’t handle the difficulty of the classes or the workload.
    As others have said, get an internship. This will help you get practice and experience in your field, and will prepare you for a real job. These companies don’t want to know about your grades. They want to know what you can do, and who you are as a person (What are your skills? What are your hobbies? What do you do in your free time?). Work experience, general life knowledge and extracurricular activities are more important to them than a high GPA. If you show promise, they might even recruit you for a full-time job.

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